I liked him a lot but I need to end the relationship, any tips?
I really fell in love with my current boyfriend and was extremely happy until I discovered that he was a secret cocaine addict and had a daughter. I accepted him having a daughter (even though he lied saying that he had no children) but the cocaine just pushed it. Then last week he told me that he needed to call me and speak to me about something (long story) and right away I knew that he wasn’t going to call and I told him that I knew that he was lying. Everybody around who heard it was convinced that he was telling the truth except me.
Guess what? He didn’t call. I was meant to see him last night and I didn’t even bother turning up. I haven’t seen him for a week now and I don’t miss him, in fact I have lost respect and trust for him.
I have to see him friday at a social event. How am I going to end this? You might think that this is bad but I might now even bother ending it and just ignore him and never bother speaking to him again, even if he talks to me I just want to walk off.
Just tell him he is welcome back into you’re life when he has his own life in order. But also tell him he has lost the privilege of your trust. And that he most likely will never get it back.
(tell him this too)
Meaning, he can in no way contact you unless he has been through extensive rehab and follow up checks, and has a stable job. Tell him he has a daughter and to become a man that his daughter can respect. Tell him you will never look at him the same but that once cleaned up (with documented proof from a rehab center) he can give you a call and that with strict boundaries can then re-enter your life.
Just tell him he is welcome back into you’re life when he has his own life in order. But also tell him he has lost the privilege of your trust. And that he most likely will never get it back.
(tell him this too)
Meaning, he can in no way contact you unless he has been through extensive rehab and follow up checks, and has a stable job. Tell him he has a daughter and to become a man that his daughter can respect. Tell him you will never look at him the same but that once cleaned up (with documented proof from a rehab center) he can give you a call and that with strict boundaries can then re-enter your life.
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If he comes up to talk to you at the social event don’t even bring up any of the bad crap that happened. If hes trying to tell you hes "a better person" or whatever tell him that he needs to show it. And leave it at that and take a buddy with you and keep that buddy with you for support… preferrably another male that will make the ex no be able to touch you or go into something that would be so personal it would ruin the evening. He lied to you more than once. He deserves no kind of consideration good or bad. Actions speak louder than words and he is not worth you ruining a fun party. But trust me bring a friend. And I would consider even changing your number.
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If it is apparent that you need to break up with him than you need to do it soon before something more serious comes up.
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