How do you leave an abusive relationship?
How do you get out of an abusive relationship when your partner is threatening murder and other drastic measures? And more importantly, how do you convince someone to actually take these measures?
I’ve never been in this situation but what I would do personally is save my money own money, figure out a full proof plan, try to catch him on tape or cell phone saying this things or have a witness present and then go to the police. It’s not safe to stay in that type of relationship and even though he might talk about murder you could die by staying and being abused. If I had distant family that he was un aware of then I would just plan to stay with them and start a new life. It’s such a hard situation but leaving is the best thing to do!! Make sure you have good support and remember, you only have one life!! You deserve to be happy!!
Just leave. If he continue call the police, and be sure to let your family know!
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I’ve never been in this situation but what I would do personally is save my money own money, figure out a full proof plan, try to catch him on tape or cell phone saying this things or have a witness present and then go to the police. It’s not safe to stay in that type of relationship and even though he might talk about murder you could die by staying and being abused. If I had distant family that he was un aware of then I would just plan to stay with them and start a new life. It’s such a hard situation but leaving is the best thing to do!! Make sure you have good support and remember, you only have one life!! You deserve to be happy!!
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Well, it wouldnt be a bad idea to record it. However, dont wait to record, you need to get yourself to a police station right away. Sometimes a spouse might make a threat, and you might think its an empty threat…thats the worst thing to do. Please take it serious. whenever you can, pack your things, and just go dont look back. When you plan to leave leave without saying a word to anyone, speak to someone you confide in. You need that police report, show up with your bags, and tell them your situation, tell them you cant go back home, you are afraid. Maybe they can get you some help. Try to see if you can stay with someone somewhere they dont know about.
Call this number, its the domestic abuse hotline in the US
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Or visit the site for more info
http://www.ndvh.org/
EDIT: You might not have time to save money, any chance you get just go. He is not only hitting you, he is telling you he can kill you, you need to get out of there.
Good Luck, and please, get out, just leave, dont worry about the materialistic things you will leave behind, everything is replaceable except your life.
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Get the Hell out now and get a gun, call on yo family, god, and everybody. because my cusion was shot in the head, bured, and beried all from a boy that was abusive but what you do is when he gose to work buy a shot gun for protection or just leave while hes gone
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the first thing you have to do is get out! find a friend who will protect you ( preferably female) or go to a women’s shelter. also tell the police and take out a restraining order. the worst part about it is you have to be strong in yourself it is always easy to go back, i know it sounds silly but those people control you with fear and that is why most women either don’t leave or keep returning to such situations! once you take the first step and say NO once and mean it and fight for it each time gets al little easier. and as far as convincing someone to leave their "loved" one ( remember the think they love this man) it isn’t hard to do, i think the easiest way is to gently talk to them and love them, try and show then that there is another way to be treated, like take her out for a day and ask her all day at intervals how she feels, and why is it different to being with the man, try to get her to see that it is a bad situation rather than just nagging her to leave. remember after she has left him the most important thing is she needs support and to be told that she has the courage to keep saying NO to him.
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was in an abusive relationship and left it, but it was hard took courage.