How do you help a girl who has left an abusive relationship?
My girlfriend was recently in an abusive relationship that she came out of about 4 months ago. She hides her emotions (which was caused by her abuser), and I am not sure what to do about it. She says she does not want to talk about it cause it makes her cry, but I can’t help but say something whenever I see some of her scars or when I can tell she is not feeling good emotionally.
How to help her? Take it very slow and keep the pressure low.
Let her know that you think she’s worth the time and effort.
Be gentle with her, always.
Encourage her to seek help to deal with the past hurts.
Let her know she has your friendship, even if she can’t offer you anything more at this time.
Give her time to heal, time to grow in trust.
Be there for her, but don’t smother her.
Unlike the first poster, I don’t think she’s a lost cause. Thank you for caring enough to ask how you can help her.
You’re just asking for trouble man. That’s all you will get from this is problems, hassles and issues.
She needs professional help, and even if she gets it, and even if it’s good help it will take a long time for her to come to grips with it.
Go find a woman that has her act together, if you can even find one.
Good luck.
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Most likely she has been knocked down and put down. After that she probably has low self esteem. Compliment everything about her and around her. Tell her she looks good, her hair looks nice and when she something tell her she did a great job. She needs a lot of confidence builders and you can give that to her.
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Suffered frrom low self esteem for years.
Encourage her to seek counseling from a Domestic Violence Center. It hurts to talk about things, but if you do, eventually you can put them away. If you don’t face it, it controls you forever.
Also, 4 mos is way to soon for her to be seeing you. She hasn’t had time to heal at all.
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been there
don’t pry unless she wants to talk but i would suggest that you make sure that she knows you are not the man she was w/ who abused her .. people who dealth w/ that kind of stuff likes to dwell and drag it on .. and they do have a right to be upset but for how long ?? at some point, you gotta leave you’re past exactly there, in the past .. she’ll be ready when she’s ready to open up .. until then, be yourself and remind her not to ruin this new relationship because of the old one .. it wouldn’t fair to either of you .. if you were to move on, she’d probably be the same to the next dude, and so on and so on .. not healthy ..
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She need professional counseling..for domestic violence, encourage her to seek it out..that will help her heal and move forward in life..it takes time to recover from abuse. Otherwise she will not move forward like she needs to.
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survivor of DV
How to help her? Take it very slow and keep the pressure low.
Let her know that you think she’s worth the time and effort.
Be gentle with her, always.
Encourage her to seek help to deal with the past hurts.
Let her know she has your friendship, even if she can’t offer you anything more at this time.
Give her time to heal, time to grow in trust.
Be there for her, but don’t smother her.
Unlike the first poster, I don’t think she’s a lost cause. Thank you for caring enough to ask how you can help her.
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