How do you get out of an abusive relationship?
I am currently in an abusive relationship. The abuse is emotionally, verbally, and sometimes pyhsically. It started about 8 months ago and weve been together for over a year. I love him with all my heart but im scarred to death of him at the same time. He calls me names, grabs me, shakes me, yells at me, he even puts me out of our home with no where to go, no phone to call anyone to come get me. Once he put me out because i spilled juice on the floor, while in just a tshirt, no money, no phone, no socks or shoes, no where to go, in the middles of winter. He has pinned me down on the floor and held a knife to me, even cut my hair with it because i didnt want to sleep with him. Ive tried leaving and he lets me but with nothing i own not even my purse. i always come back becausei have no family to stay with for long term and i have no friends because of him. he promises me he would change and does for the first day or 2 but its always the same. I am now 8 months pregnant with his child
he hasnt physically abuse me since ive been pregnant but the name calling and putting me down, calling me fat and ugly, has gotten worse. I cry myself to sleep almost everynight for the last 6 months and he tells my i act like a child. I just dont know what to do anymore, i want him to change, i want to be happy and i want him to be happy with me but nothing i ever do is good enough. He told me he didnt want me to work well i was pregnant which at first i said no but then he said we were moving so i had to quit my job and being so far along no one will hire me. so i get yelled at because im so lazy. i just need help. if anyone is in a similar situation or was in one please help my find the strength to leave him for good!
he hasnt physically abuse me since ive been pregnant but the name calling and putting me down, calling me fat and ugly, has gotten worse. I cry myself to sleep almost everynight for the last 6 months and he tells my i act like a child. I just dont know what to do anymore, i want him to change, i want to be happy and i want him to be happy with me but nothing i ever do is good enough. He told me he didnt want me to work well i was pregnant which at first i said no but then he said we were moving so i had to quit my job and being so far along no one will hire me. so i get yelled at because im so lazy. i just need help. if anyone is in a similar situation or was in one please help my find the strength to leave him for good!
There are numerous shelters that can and will help you when you are really ready to leave. If you dont leave very soon, it could escalate into something more serious. The next step he will take is to hit you in the stomach to try to hurt the baby. Is this what you want? I am serious. You need to leave quickly. While he is at work, hide some things ata friends house or somewhere you can get to them when you leave. Most important, you have to be ready to NOT GO BACK EVER
There are numerous shelters that can and will help you when you are really ready to leave. If you dont leave very soon, it could escalate into something more serious. The next step he will take is to hit you in the stomach to try to hurt the baby. Is this what you want? I am serious. You need to leave quickly. While he is at work, hide some things ata friends house or somewhere you can get to them when you leave. Most important, you have to be ready to NOT GO BACK EVER
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first report the abuse. second go to shelter till you deliver the baby you will then be eligible for state aid with almost everything you need. life is too short to be getting beat up and yelled at all the time this guy is a jerk , you need to get away from him ASAP
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You need to wait until he isnt home..be nice to him until then..and when he leaves you can then pack a bag and get out of there cause if you don’t..let me tell you..there are stories like this all over the news..he really do not care for you or the child..babies are cute when they are little but in time..the way he treats you..he will treat your kid..the names he call you..the abuse..he will do it to your child and the scars will be permanent..and can ruin your lives…go to a hospital anywhere and let me tell you..(if you do it thru the court systems…that man you think cares so much about you, his seat will be empty) think about what I just said cause I been there..done that
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I am truely sorry that you are a victim of abuse, you need however to stop the abuse by leaving, try to leave while he is away at work. The longer you stay, the more risk you expose to your baby and yourself. Go to this link for additional information.
I know that you have the strength to leave, leave if not for your sake, but for your child’s sake.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/domestic-violence
Where to find help
No one deserves to be abused. If you think you may be in an abusive situation, seek help or advice as soon as you safely can. There are many resources available to help you. The first step to getting out of an abusive situation may be as easy as making one phone call. In an emergency situation, call 911, your local emergency number or your local law enforcement agency. If you aren’t in immediate danger, the following resources can help:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-SAFE, or (800) 799-7233. Provides crisis intervention and referrals to in-state or out-of-state resources, such as women’s shelters or crisis centers.
Your doctor or hospital emergency room. Treats any injuries and refers you to safe housing and other local resources.
Local women’s shelter or crisis center. Typically provides 24-hour, emergency shelter for you and your children, advice on legal matters, advocacy and support services, and evaluation and monitoring of abusers. Some shelters have staff members who speak multiple languages.
Counseling or mental health center. Most communities have agencies that provide individual counseling and support groups to women in abusive relationships. Be wary of advice to seek couples or marriage counseling. This isn’t appropriate for resolving problems of violence in intimate relationships.
Local court. Your district court can help you obtain a court order, which legally mandates the abuser stay away from you or face arrest. These are typically called orders for protection or restraining orders. Advocates are available in many communities to help you complete the paperwork and guide you through the court process.
Books and online resources. Learning more about how to cope with your situation and communicating with others who understand what you’re going through can help you make strong choices.
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Just leave. Take all your stuff and find help. There are places that will help you. Dont stay there because you are pregnant.
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