Any tips for getting over a turbulent relationship?
I just finally ended a 2 year, very rocky relationship. Any tips for moving on? We lived together so I was so used to having him around and now I feel like I don’t know what to do with myself. I need to keep busy so I don’t let him back in my life this time!
When a relationship ends in my life, good or bad, I always try to maintain this attitude:
The relationship ending is possibly the best thing that ever could have happened to me.
This does not mean I’m bitter, resentful, or regret being in the relationship.
I’ve had great relationships end simply because we both agreed we didn’t have the makings of a life long commitment.
So….if you take the attitude that the relationships end opens the door to an infinite number of things you couldn’t of had while in the relationship……
something amazing happens….
yeah, you can still miss them, be hurt, sad, etc….all the normal things that come with the end of a relationship.
But at the same time, with the above attitude….the stars begin to align, you become aware of all the new possibilities that await, and you find great joy in a variety of things you would never have known should you have stayed in the relationship.
Granted, easier said than done. But, what other "healthy" way is there to look at it?
Easy. Just move on with your lone life. You have been very stupid to live with him for 2 years and you were not married to him. You let him use your body for sex for 2 years?! Obviously you only live with him for sex and not for love, or you two should had been married. When there is no love, no sex and no nothing, move on and get another sexual partner. You sure can try another rocky relationship, no messy divorces anyway.
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When a relationship ends in my life, good or bad, I always try to maintain this attitude:
The relationship ending is possibly the best thing that ever could have happened to me.
This does not mean I’m bitter, resentful, or regret being in the relationship.
I’ve had great relationships end simply because we both agreed we didn’t have the makings of a life long commitment.
So….if you take the attitude that the relationships end opens the door to an infinite number of things you couldn’t of had while in the relationship……
something amazing happens….
yeah, you can still miss them, be hurt, sad, etc….all the normal things that come with the end of a relationship.
But at the same time, with the above attitude….the stars begin to align, you become aware of all the new possibilities that await, and you find great joy in a variety of things you would never have known should you have stayed in the relationship.
Granted, easier said than done. But, what other "healthy" way is there to look at it?
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meet people online, harmless flirting will take your mind of him and give u the attention you crave now he is gone, also recieving and answering messages will be fun and exciting. Try faceparty thats a good one!! or take up a hobby, something you really enjoy! try to remember how life was when you were single and what kept you busy then?! and stay strong girl!! life has so much more to offer!!!! you dont need to be in an unhappy or unhealthy relationship!! good luck xx
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The best thing you might do is live in another place, surround yourself with other people, but still family and your real friends, those who really love you and find and explore yourself through new challenges and new experiences, e.g. travel to a new place, do things you always wanted to do and just enjoy yourself without any strings and hopefully you will find a nice person you have deserved and who have deserved you. That is the only thing yu can do. As you remember I told you that earlier on. Good luck from me for you – Michael
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