Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

It was a bad break-up after 7 years together, and I don’t want any contact with that person. We have been apart for 4 years. Every few years my ex intrudes on my life – sometimes with frivolous lawsuits, sometimes leaving tearful messages. The ex was a very troubled, sometimes abusive person with drug problems. I usually ignore the messages (except to call back and ask to be left alone), but it gets me nowhere. The ex contacted me recently (another VM), and tearfully requested closure. This person thinks that closure will help them be a better person. I have moved on and I’m tired of being bothered. What to do?
I have changed my number many times. Changed all contact info, but this person persists to bother me, or call my family.

Get a lawyer to write him a letter. Have him tell your ex that you don’t want any contact from him/her at all in the future by any means possible and that you have had enough "closure" from him/her. And that if there is any further contact from them, that you will ask for a restraining order and see about having them charged criminally for harassment. And THAT will be their closure!

That should take care of it. By the way, if you change your number many times, how are they getting it? Are they secretly in contact with a member of your family? And is your number unlisted? You should look into that. You could always set a canary trap.

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I am from a very strict background. My husband didn’t have a father and his mother was VERY loose and uncaring. He has had a rough upbringing and life. We have had many problems already but we both know we are meant to be and stay together, no matter what. A past "friend" (female and very jealous) lied to him about me to cause a serious problem. He has been "running" ever since. He says he is to blame for the problem anyway, but he can’t seem to get himself together. He quit his job and went away for 8 weeks. We have a 2 yr old and I am 8 months pregnant. I just don’t feel the closeness we used to have. I have offered to do anything he feels he needs to help our situation. He just can’t seem to put one foot in front of the other, even though he says he wants to. He has made attempts but has failed so far. What can/should I do?

You can’t fix this by yourself. Ask your husband to visit a marriage counselor with you. It would probably be best if you went by yourself for a couple session in order to explain your situation.

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