Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I tend to run away from responsibility, Ive struggled with depression all my life. Knowing this, my best friend, against my pleading, fell for me and talked me into dating her and then into marrying her. I mistaked "not knowing what I want" for "I can handle anything" and we married. I told her before we even started dating I knew a few things, like I dont want kids (she does) and I dont want to live in this area (she does). Didnt faze her. She was driven to do good things back then, plus she was hot. Since we got married 5 years ago, weve degraded drastically. Im sure my depression has brought her down. Shes given up changing the world and shes gained a lot of weight. I was frugal and never had any debt before we married. Now were $30,000 in debt and we live on her parents property. Ive never done the manly thing before. What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves? No one in her family has ever divorced and no one in mine hasn’t.
I should add that we are both in our mid 20’s, working and going to school.

Also that my relationships before her tended to die out when I stopped calling, a tribute to my lack of manliness, fear of responsibility and history of depression.

She had no romantic relationships prior to me, which leads me to believe she persists in loving me out of guilt for wasting her love on me initially.
We do not have children yet.

wow, that’s tough. It may help to try some counseling and if that doesn’t work you may wan to end it. The differences such as her wanting children and you not wanting them will just end in something much more bitter later on in life when she blames you for not wanting children when she knew all along. I’m not sure what else to say except good luck an all my best to you.
At least you are man enough to admit there’s a problem and try to resolve it.

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Like separating from a long-term relationship, but then agreeing to get back together a couple of years down the line… And these people are in their 20s…
Even if these two love each other and been through traumatic life experiences, what are the odds they’ll meet someone new and forget about the "pact"? Basically move on… The underlying problem is trust, and that they possibly met each other too young.

Lets see you sound like me… Imo id say no. Im sure within years time the 2 of you will grow apart and move on. But if nothing works now in the relationship why would it work later? Just a thought..

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Artists: Dada & Lil Mindy
Song: Lets work this out (part 2)
2009 / 3:10

Lyrics:

D: Hello
M: Why weren’t you picking up? Where are you?
D: I’m sorry babe, I’ve been busy. Can we talk later?
M: You’re always busy! Do you even care about us anymore?
D: Baby I told you I’m sorry. Look I can’t talk right now I call you later alright?
M: *sigh* like I haven’t heard that line before
D: Come on baby don’t be like that, you know I love you
M: Okay, whatever, whatever
*click*
D: Hello? hello?

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

There’s alot of things I gotta say straight from my heart
Right from the start, I never wanted you to go or drift apart
Cause even though we fight like everyday, I wanted you to stay
And say we’ll never ever fade and that you’ll never go away

Oh, I know at times I’m just too much when I start to fuss
But after everyfight you know my heart just starts to hurt so much
I had enough of arguments babe, I’m through with all the shouts
Said I wanna make things right with you, I wanna work this out (I love you)

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Believe it or not
We may still fight, but I don’t care
I want it to stop
Before all of this end up as a one-side affair
I wanna tell you girl
I wanna tell the world
This ain’t a break up y’all
This is only a wake up call
I know you’ve been hurt
You know I’ve been hurt
I mean I,
I want it to work
Do you want it to work?
Don’t deny
Am I your “number one”?
To be the “first” to fall
Yes, my heart; you have won
Yours was also worth the call
We may have fought once
Don’t let this be the worst of all
There may be more to come
We’ll be ready to reverse them all
Pain is part of the route
I want to be your man
That’s what love is all about
Baby, let’s work this again

Baby, I really meant it when I said I loved you
Cross my heart, I never put somebody else above you
I gotta stay true but see, baby so do you
to work this out, remember that it has to take two baby me and you

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that w can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Download: http://www.mediafire.com/?tgbgygynzbm

http://www.myspace.com/dada197
http://www.myspace.com/mindiixbeatz

Duration : 0:3:11

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Since the first one was a big hit,
we decided to make a part two

Download: http://www.mediafire.com/?tgbgygynzbm

Lyrics:

D: Hello
M: Why weren’t you picking up? Where are you?
D: I’m sorry babe, I’ve been busy. Can we talk later?
M: You’re always busy! Do you even care about us anymore?
D: Baby I told you I’m sorry. Look I can’t talk right now I call you later alright?
M: *sigh* like I haven’t heard that line before
D: Come on baby don’t be like that, you know I love you
M: Okay, whatever, whatever
*click*
D: Hello? hello?

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

There’s alot of things I gotta say straight from my heart
Right from the start, I never wanted you to go or drift apart
Cause even though we fight like everyday, I wanted you to stay
And say we’ll never ever fade and that you’ll never go away

Oh, I know at times I’m just too much when I start to fuss
But after everyfight you know my heart just starts to hurt so much
I had enough of arguments babe, I’m through with all the shouts
Said I wanna make things right with you, I wanna work this out (I love you)

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Believe it or not
We may still fight, but I don’t care
I want it to stop
Before all of this end up as a one-side affair
I wanna tell you girl
I wanna tell the world
This ain’t a break up y’all
This is only a wake up call
I know you’ve been hurt
You know I’ve been hurt
I mean I,
I want it to work
Do you want it to work?
Don’t deny
Am I your “number one”?
To be the “first” to fall
Yes, my heart; you have won
Yours was also worth the call
We may have fought once
Don’t let this be the worst of all
There may be more to come
We’ll be ready to reverse them all
Pain is part of the route
I want to be your man
That’s what love is all about
Baby, let’s work this again

Baby, I really meant it when I said I loved you
Cross my heart, I never put somebody else above you
I gotta stay true but see, baby so do you
to work this out, remember that it has to take two baby me and you

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that w can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Duration : 0:3:11

(more…)

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Ideas on how to peacefully coexist and interact with your Ex.

Duration : 0:1:50

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