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15 days staying together after marriage on november 30th 2008, my wife is now staying at her house citing the reasons that I dont love her and didnt had sex with her and even not kissed her atleast once. Its true because I behaved like that because of some misunderstandings which i came to know later. Now, she is asking for divorce and planning to file petition but I want to save the marriage. She told me that she will prove that she is virgin even after staying together 15days after marriage.
Is it true that the court will allow divorce on being vergin or not having sex for 15 days after marriage? If she says in court that I’m not able for sex, is there any procedure to prove my ability? If I’m against mutual divorce and really want to save marriage, what procedures should I follow legally? How long will it take her to get divorce if she is not going to change her mind?

Firstly engage a sensible lawyer to guide you rightly for matrimonial law in India. Secondly the you both cannot for the general rule apply for divorce even by mutual consent within first year of marriage unless there exist an exceptional case of hardship or depravity,which doesn’t seems in your case. As far not indulging in sex for fifteen days is no big issue for making it a case of mental cruelty of depriving of the sexual bliss as a married spouse & causing breaking of the matrimonial home. The none consummation of marriage can be claimed for annulment of marriage as a ground if there has been wilful refusal or the impotency of the respondent in this case the husband. You don’t seems to be impotent medically or otherwise but due to circumstances & misunderstanding could not attain penal erection for sexual intercourse,this is only a temporary phase which doesn’t amount to complete incurable impotency,hence cannot be made a ground for annulment of the marriage on this ground. Your wife need marriage counselling not from a marriage counsellor only but even a sensible lawyer who will make her understand the legal issues involved in the marriage which she seems to be not well informed so engage one good lawyer to do this work for you & don’t forget to pay his consultancy fee.

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my and my wife have been merried for alittle over a year. she is having some probs, with her mental illness and her mind is convinced that i am cheating and abusive. she has scysophrenia and is not taken her meds. what can i do help her when she has a restraining order on my and also doesnt belaeve she has a prob.?
i have talked to the whole family and they know i wouldnt do anything to hurt her. thay have also tried to help and she thinks they are turning agenst her.

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Thanks for the previous answers. I would like to continue discussion….
Looks like my wife’s nature or mind is not thinking good. She don’t like any body who tell her some thing about her and her kids….like why you give this candy to your kids….your kids are not listening….any thing like that. After that she always thinking bad about that person and always complains about them to me and I knew that those all people don’t say every time. This is some thing that they see and tell her.
Except her 2 sisters she doesn’t have good relation with any body. She forces me to fight with my neighbor. She fights with my parents and my sister. She fights with her brother too. She always complains about all of my friend’s wife and her co-workers at her work. She doesn’t have any friends. She doesn’t like most of my relatives. Even one time she fights with her mom and dad. I told her even if I knew your nature if you behave good with me I don’t care about others. We will happily live together

Do you love your wife? Is she more important to you than yourself? Some people are so misunderstood, and wind up alone as a result .. all because no-one takes the time to help them out. I think your wife is one of those people – instead of getting mad, frustrated & upset with her .. sit down and talk to her. People don’t get mad for no reason, or pick fights for no reason, or dislike others for no reason. If she’s irritable, argumentative, complains alot and fights alot, you need to understand that she does it BECAUSE OF something going on inside her. You’re her husband – the pillar of the family .. you need to be there for your wife. Stop seeking better, start MAKING better. Help her out .. she may be struggling with depression, bitterness towards your family members or she may just be feeling totally stressed out .. you need to figure out why she’s behaving the way she is. Remember what I said before – people don’t just go round making life hell for others for the fun of it. The majority of the time, it’s because they have some sort of an internal battle going on. Trust me, I’ve been one of those people .. and my brother still is. I’ve learnt not to get mad or insulted when he hurts me .. Instead, I try to help him out .. and believe it or not, it soothes him. I know he struggles, I know he battles his own demons .. and he doesn’t need criticism .. he needs a friend. If you truly love your wife, you’ll sit down with her and give her a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. Ask her why she doesn’t like your family members – maybe they offended her. Ask her if she’s feeling upset/anxious/stressed/depressed. She may be having a rough time, and she doesn’t need you to make it worse .. she needs help & love. You’d be surprised at what a little tender care can do .. instead of forcing her to change, help her out. She may just respond, and you’ll watch her bloom into something beautiful before you Do your best not to judge before you know the real problem. All the best!

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I have been married for 11 years. I have 2 kids. Both are under 8. Our life was good up to 8 years but after that my wife’s nature has been changed. First thing she doesn’t like my mom, dad and sister. Even if my parents do babysitter and most of the food preparation she always fight with them but I knew that my Wife is first to me then my parents so I have send my parents back to my country. Even if my parents call my house she always told me to insult them. Also if I call them then she always fight with me so I stop calling them.
Besides that my wife always tont me like you are dum,you don’t know how to happy me,she always bring issue of money in every topic like…because of more money you do this. She always told me that you are not capable of getting new good job even I work as a engineer and making more than $100000.She always working like boss and when ever we fight she never say sorry. I have to say sorry every time. Even if we both work I do more things then her.Pls Help me.

Hey stop letting her control you. This will get more respect from her and also yourself. Sounds like she is looking for you to stand up for yourself. But if this isn’t the case it might be time for you and the kids to think about ending the marriage.

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Well…..I am back after 8 or 9 month……still leaving together with my wife….but looks like it’s going to be ending very soon…..but I don’t want to be happened that…for my kids and for our religious reputations….but how long I can still suffer this……
My wife works from 7 to 3.30 and makes food for us, bringing and feeding my kids in the evening and cleaning after dinner that’s all her daily duty and I also help her in all those work as well as I do all other work alone for example…morning tea/breakfast, bathing both kids, dropping both to school, after dinner I do all things for kids. Means I do all other extra work to give her extra relief but even though she always talking bad about my parents. My parents are in Canada right now but she said why they are not coming here. Everybody knows that she fight with them that’s why they left my home and everybody thinks that that’s good for her and for my parents. Even though she always fighting with me saying that your parents are self-fish, your sister is self-fish, She force me not call my parents and even force me to talk bad when they call me. Every day she said to me that looks in our friends group all parents helping them but not your parents. We fight lot because of those things. I never initiate discussion about my family but some how she started and end up fighting. Even I help her lot she doesn’t care of my help. Looks like she find the way to tight and after that I have to say sorry and get back to her normal mood. She calls my work during her lunch and force me to talk and list ion her and that’s also for long time. If I said I can’t talk more then she started like you don’t like me. I can’t say anything to you etc…Etc…Even if I late by 10 minutes from my work she says why are you late? I said because of traffic…the she said you are also lier like your parents….self-fish like your parents….and then didn’t speak to me whole day and I have to say sorry…..
So looks like what ever she said to me, I have to agree with her. She always insult and torcher me and I keep silence. I am still doing this for my kids but how long…I am scared that if I speak up then I can’t stop…I can say all her bad things that she did to me and my family and I am not sure that what she can do after that….that’s why I am still quiet. She even didn’t talk to her parents, brothers and sisters because everybody knows and told her that it’s purely her mistake…so looks like I am the only person left for her…and I do care about her…but how long this continues???????
Please help…….give your good opinion.
Thanks.

Stop posting here and get yourselves into some kind of counseling! If you guys can’t talk to someone (religious leader, therapist – someone qualified) it doesn’t sound like the marriage will last…

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I have asked this question before and I want to continue that discussion to find out what do you think about my wife based on this scenario….my wife always fight with me this way.
She always expect gift from me in all occasion like B’Day, Anniversary, mothers day etc…The day before this year mother’s day she asked me if I bought any gifts for her behalf of my kids. I said no. I told her I can give you money & you can buy your self because you don’t like my gift and you fight with me. She said no. I need the gift from you so I bought 3 t-shirts/tops for her. She opened it, take a look and throw on the floor saying that I don’t like any one and she said you buy this because of less money and you knew that I don’t like it so you are going to return the store…after that she keep talking bad things to me…she cancel our dinner plan. She talks bad about my parents. I told her sorry so many times. She said because of marriage with me she destroyed her life. She is normal after 2 days.

Whoa!—she is really mental. Maybe she has serious hormonal problems and needs to go to a doctor right now. But, whatever her choice she cannot continually make the choice to treat you like her pet. You have to set boundaries with her saying something like if you continue to speak to me in a hateful way…..I will leave the room or leave the party or leave the house for a while until you can speak to me as your beloved and not a dog. It is not okay for you to continually have to accept to live this way. Please get counseling.

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Here is the deal. She is a good woman and very wealthy. I do not even work and live the good life with all the toys. She works a lot. That is where the problem started. She got sick from working too much and gained 30 lbs. Now, i do not want to lose the money and stuff, and i sure as hell am not going to work, but i cannot honestly stand the sight of her lard but anymore. Can i sue her for support?

I hope to hell you’re a troll. If you’re not, you’re a parasite.

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He says he is not in love with her or having sex with her,
saving money to leave, and can’t wait to spend the rest of
his life with me.
But he is really doing nothing to make it happen and he won’t move in with me.

It could possibly be a financial reason why hes not leaving. There could be many reasons. Yes its true he might never leave his wife but you should give him somewhat of a chance. But you really don’t know if you don’t put yourself out there. Give him time. He might not be moving in with you because hes just getting to know you. Moving in is a big step. But it will be much better once he leaves his wife. But its all in what you feel. Go with your gut instinct not what hes telling you. Whatever you think is what you should go with. But I have to say you can’t expect to have any type of relationship if you don’t make yourself somewhat vulnerable.

Plus if hes married and he cheats on her with you before a divorce than he would be liable to pay his wife more than half of all possessions.

But you never know. You never know what people are doing or thinking.

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Should a man have the right to complain, when he is informed that his wife will leave him, but he can see his baby daughter every weekend and does not have to pay child support or alimony? His wife did not like the relationship, but thinks that it is very important, that the little girl as a very good relationship with her father. Money is not a issue. This is not America.

as i see it, he has nothing to complain about.

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