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been with bf on and off for almost 3 years (last 2 years solid-no breakups). we’ve had our issues due to me having PMDD (caused alot of our fights-now takes meds and see a counselor) and him being too used to being a bachelor. i’m 28 w/3 girls part-time that he loves very much and he’s 29 never been married or lived w/a gf.

we’ve been seeing a counselor for a couple of weeks now to help sort out the little hangups that are causing our arguments. he was totally agreeable to going. but in the sessions, he seems scared of having a "timeline" of me and the kids moving in w/him being put on him. the counselor asked him what he thought should happen if we didnt fight anymore-his anwers were to have the kids spend more time at his house during the day and eventually all of us spending the night there. but he stated that just b/c we were all spending the night didn’t mean we were going to move in right away.

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he told the counselor that he wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving in together and getting married. i do agree with him and think his heart is in the right place and i truly think the reason it’s moving so slow is b/c the arguments are setting us back (which he said they were) but a small part of me worries that he’s afraid to commit. what should i think?!!

he does help me get the kids from school each week and tells them he loves them all the time. we are carving pumpkins and going trick or treating with the kids tomorrow so he spends lots of time with them. i see him about every other weekend alone w/no kids. most of my stuff is at his house and i’ve had a key now for about 2 years….

If he was a commitment phobic then he wouldn’t have agreed to the counseling, at least that’s what I think. You should think yourself lucky that he wants to take it slow, and get it right, especially because there are children involved. It sounds like he’s very concerned about getting it right. Sounds like a sensible man, and one worth giving the time he needs.

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been with bf on and off for almost 3 years (last 2 years solid-no breakups). we’ve had our issues due to me having PMDD (caused alot of our fights-now takes meds and see a counselor) and him being too used to being a bachelor. i’m 28 w/3 girls part-time that he loves very much and he’s 29 never been married or lived w/a gf.

we’ve been seeing a counselor for a couple of weeks now to help sort out the little hangups that are causing our arguments. he was totally agreeable to going. but in the sessions, he seems scared of having a "timeline" of me and the kids moving in w/him being put on him. the counselor asked him what he thought should happen if we didnt fight anymore-his anwers were to have the kids spend more time at his house during the day and eventually all of us spending the night there. but he stated that just b/c we were all spending the night didn’t mean we were going to move in right away.

little more below..
he told the counselor that he wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving in together and getting married. i do agree with him and think his heart is in the right place and i truly think the reason it’s moving so slow is b/c the arguments are setting us back (which he said they were) but a small part of me worries that he’s afraid to commit. what should i think?!!

he does help me get the kids from school each week and tells them he loves them all the time. we are carving pumpkins and going trick or treating with the kids tomorrow so he spends lots of time with them. i see him about every other weekend alone w/no kids. most of my stuff is at his house and i’ve had a key now for about 2 years….

Sounds like a bit of fear of commitment mixed with more fear of what has happened with you in the past. He’s sticking it out with you and your kids, but is not sure about the future.

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been with bf on and off for almost 3 years (last 2 years solid-no breakups). we’ve had our issues due to me having PMDD (caused alot of our fights-now takes meds and see a counselor) and him being too used to being a bachelor. i’m 28 w/3 girls part-time that he loves very much and he’s 29 never been married or lived w/a gf.

we’ve been seeing a counselor for a couple of weeks now to help sort out the little hangups that are causing our arguments. he was totally agreeable to going. but in the sessions, he seems scared of having a "timeline" of me and the kids moving in w/him being put on him. the counselor asked him what he thought should happen if we didnt fight anymore-his anwers were to have the kids spend more time at his house during the day and eventually all of us spending the night there. but he stated that just b/c we were all spending the night didn’t mean we were going to move in right away.

little more below..
he told the counselor that he wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving in together and getting married. i do agree with him and think his heart is in the right place and i truly think the reason it’s moving so slow is b/c the arguments are setting us back (which he said they were) but a small part of me worries that he’s afraid to commit. what should i think?!!

he does help me get the kids from school each week and tells them he loves them all the time. we are carving pumpkins and going trick or treating with the kids tomorrow so he spends lots of time with them. i see him about every other weekend alone w/no kids. most of my stuff is at his house and i’ve had a key now for about 2 years….

He’s not afraid of commiting as he’s already commited a great deal of himself to the kids,i think he is just too used to living alone and scared of living with someone else,that’s all,give him time and have patience for when he’s ready,it’s a big adjustment for him,as he’s used to doing things his way,when he wants peace and time alone he’s got it,with a family there it is totally different for him,he obviously loves you and the children,but just be patient and let him adjust in his own way in his own time.

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He tried to say he may want to reduce the frequency. How should I understand it. He told me to sleep on it and let him know if I am open to him.
He had been seeing me 3x a week gave me xmas present on new year’s and spent all of new year’s day with me with no conflict – still had good sex. So he wasn’t even acting uninterested. I was surprised. On the call he said, we could go for a run together etc. When I asked if he was calling to say we should be friends. He said no (b/c he has a sexual attraction) and implied that is even better. Wow. I thought he liked me more than I did. He was making all the plans/efforts and even was planning a vacation with me which was his idea. This happened the day before our talk. How could he switch so fast?
The truth is he wasn’t perfect for me but since he made me feel good with all his compliments I went along with it. The sex was good though I have to admit. He was a giver in that regard. Maybe that’s all he is good for huh? He contacted me on Saturday, day after call, to tell me that he would have enjoyed getting to know other sides of me and also he would def miss the sex?!
I plan to start seeing other people ASAP. I would consider maybe sex one more time or as a option b/c I don’t have strong feelings for him and at least he was a giver when we had sex. Bad idea?

it means he wants to let you down slowly and/or he wants to keep his options open and still have you around.. move on.. don’t waste your time

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Diagnose an abusive relationship and you will be on your way to ending domestic abuse. Getting a definitive, objective diagnosis can put you in the “stop-guessing” mode and into the “start-treating” mode in moments.

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