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Welcome to the Lonely Hearts’ Club. Here are my guidelines to heal and mend a broken heart, read on:

1) Allow yourself to go through the complete grieving process.
2) Communicate your feelings to friends or other members of the family. never hold back your feelings, thinking that you have to be in control. If it is difficult to speak with people you know, perhaps a therapist or support group would be the best outlet to express your inner feelings and thoughts.
3) Take one day at a time. Do not feel you must accomplish everything at once.
4) Be patient and gentle with yourself. Your grief will be sporadic. Some days you will feel okay; other days you will sit and stare into space, feeling numb and alone.
5) It is normal to burst out occasionally in fits of anger. Let it out, but don’t harm yourself or anyone else.
6) As time goes by, make some effort to keep in touch socially. Don’t isolate yourself. Get out to a movie or a dinner with friends.
7) You may want to get a pet from the local shelter. pets are perfect company and will comfort you with unconditional love.
Don’t jump into other relationships prematurely. This may be your way of masking your pain and sorrow. Give yourself space. When you are ready, you’ll know.
9) See this experience as an opportunity to open yourself to your spiritual life.
10) Leave the door open to love again.

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yes you can. always remember why you walked away in the first place, never lose sight of that. think about this quote:
"Never miss someone from your past.
There is a reason they didn’t make it to your future."

Give yourself alot of time and surround yourself with people who support and love you. people who understand what you are going through. go out and have fun, enjoy life, it’s WAY too short to waste dwelling on the past. whats happened has happened, and no one can change that. all you can do is keep your head held high and look towards the future. it also helps to get rid of things that remind you of him. clothes, gifts, pictures, etc. give yourself some time, don’t rush into a new relationship. you will be fine as long as you always remember why you walked away in the first place.

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I loved one girl and now it’s over. I realize I have to accept it but somehow I refuse to accept all logic. I am facing piercing pain all the day…I cry at times…don’t know what to do. Friends, please help me. Thanks.

Sweetie… I am a mom who just had a child that went through the same thing you are experiencing. I feel so sorry for you right now… I know it hurts! Wish I could give you a big hug and let you know you WILL be okay.

But, if the girl broke up with you, there is not really anything that you can do about getting her back. You should begin focusing on work or some kind of hobby. Maybe even begin an exercise program. Remember, that the best thing you can do right now is to just keep busy. It is also important to find someone in your life to talk to about your feelings about the break-up from this girl… you do not need to keep all of this pain inside.

You should not try to get the girl back… what is done is done. You should never move backward… you should move forward.

I know that it hurts so bad right now. It almost seems like a death. But, in time, I know you can’t see it right now, but you will start feeling better and there will be more girls

You will ALWAYS remember the wonderful memories of the first girl you loved… she will always be remember as your "first love".

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I have decided to leave my husband because things have been bad for a while and we both agree that it won’t work. We tried counseling. He has hidden too much from me and lied I can’t trust anymore. We have been married 6 years and we have a 5 yr old daughter together. She is sad but I think us being unhappy is worse for her. He is going to keep the house because he owned it before us getting married. He has a lot of money and we were used to a comfotable life. I work full time as well but make less. I’m not going to fight him over money I just want out. and be a good parent. any advice on how to be strong for myself and my daughter. I plan on seeing a counselor as well to work out my self esteem issues..I have due to this marriage. Any help/advice would be great. thanks

First I would like to say that it appears to me that you have made an effort in trying to make it work. That is a good thing. You are no quitter.
Look back to your days when you weren’t really dating, engaged or married. Think of some of the things you used to do, and get back to them. Now you have a child, and what a perfect time to get her involved in new things that you may not have been able to do because of your marriage. Renew old friendships, take some courses through college or training programs. Keep busy and don’t dwell on this unfortunate business. You did what you could, and you have nothing to feel bad about.

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My bf said that he want to break-up with me. We are from a different country.
he says that it is hard to speak on different languages. he says "our love is very difficult"
he is my first bf I’m 21 now. what can I do?
I didnt think we’ll break-up like this, this way. he said it on the phone. I was planning to visit him.
We met 2 years ago, we lived together. at the beginning he said "I’ll teach you what the love is, but I won’t marry you" I thought he said it not meaning it, but now I think his plan was to just have a good time with me.
and I can’t stop thinking of it. I gave him my everything. I now I feel like a used toilet paper.
What should I do?

There is nothing difficult about "love". To love unconditionally means that there is no strings attached. It sounds like he was just playing games. Having long distance relationships are difficult on the heart, unless one actually moves there. To teach another what "love" is….there is no such thing. It happens. Its there.
You need to let it go because he doesn’t sound like a very caring person. Get on with your own life. There is always someone compatible that comes along. There is more fish in the ocean.

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My boyfriend just told me last sunday that he slept with another girl. He said it was b/c we weren’t married. Yes we both said we’d take a break for a week (it was 3 days). well we never gave any rules. But now he said he doesn’t know what his feelings for me are. He also said i deserve better than him so he said he doesn’t think we should be together anymore. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. We have a 2yr old. I was hope’n for this to work. But now im not so sure. How do I move one and survive?

YOU WILL ,, THINK OF UR KID AS THE REASON WHY TO SURVIVE…
Look a break up is never fun… and ur broken heart will heal..
be glad he told you this now.. and accept it and move on..
you do TRUTH LY deserve better and will have better…

live for your kid and only him… He should be the only reason ….

good luck …im if you need to talk more..

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My boyfriend stopped talking to me over a sudden. He doesn’t return my phone calls. He just sent a very cold email saying he’s busy. And now two weeks later, I have not heard from him. I know he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. He never explained why though. I am trying to get over him but it hurts so bad I have been crying all day for the past couple of days. How do I get him off my mind? How do you survive a break up? I am very depressed. Please advise. Thank you.

The best thing to do is to break all ties with him. Don’t call him, don’t see him. I know you are wanting to know "why" but you may not get that, and you have to accept that. I just went through a divorce and believe me I know how bad you are hurting, but in time it does get better. You just have to stick it out through this hard time. What I did was just tried to stay busy, with work and hanging out with my friends. It helped a lot being around people and getting out of the house. Hope this helps and Good luck!

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My ex, broke up with me throug an email, and this week was horrible, its possible to survive… What u need to do to live again.

Dang, so you ended up with my ex-boyfriend! Just kidding, but I got the same treatment a few years ago. Really, I just sucked it up. I felt horrible for a while, but then I came to realize that I was lucky to be free of a person who thought so little of me and of our relationship that he felt it was appropriate to end it the way he did, and not even face-to-face.
Go out with friends and have a drink or two. See some scary movies. Go for a bike ride. Walk around and look at the leaves changing colors. Do things that will make you laugh, and forget your pain. DON’T, DON’T, DON’T contact him. If you have to call a friend and keep them on the phone all night to keep yourself from calling or e-mailing him, do it (been there, done that).
After a while, you will realize that the pain you have pushed away just isn’t coming back, and you can go on with your life. And when he e-mails again–and he will–just hit the "delete" button without opening it. He doesn’t deserve you in his life.

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