Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I just broke up with a guy I was dating for 6 months, even though we both knew that we weren’t right for each other, and that the relationship should have ended sooner. What kept us there was a strong physical attraction, but we weren’t really that compatible otherwise. Ultimately, I ended it. I tried to do it in person, but he wasn’t receptive to it, so I did it by email. That ended in a blood bath. Apologies were made, but it left me wounded, and I don’t think it was good for either of us. Any suggestions on how to right this wrong, and leave the relationship on a good note?

Breaking up with someone is never easy, even under the very BEST circumstances. It sounds to me like you’ve already done the hard parts (admitting that a purely a physical attraction DOES NOT make a relationship and ultimately ending it).

Now you have to fully come to terms with what has happened. You said in your post that you’ve been wounded by this experience……why do you feel it is so important to leave things on a "good note". Someone who REALLY cares about you- even if it didn’t work out- would NEVER purposefully or knowingly wound you. It sounds to me like you would like to preserve a friendship of sorts with this person…….I don’t think it’s possible, viable, or more importantly HEALTHY! There is no need to hang on to this………let go and you will be all the better for doing so. Accept the fact that it is truly done, over, finished, the fat lady sang and caught her flight out of town. Now relax and take a big deep breath.

Get back to the gym, read a good book, have a day at the spa, spin your favorite tunes, buy a new outfit, do whatever makes you feel good. Focus on all the positive things you have in your life and CHOOSE to put yourself in positive situations and around positive people. I should add that his circle of friends or stomping grounds is NOT included in any of those options.

A few parting words of caution, don’t be quick to jump into another relationship. Explore what it is that you truly want for yourself and don’t settle for anything less. Dream BIG!!! And when you do start looking for that special "someone" again, make sure that they love you for ALL the wonderful things you have to offer. Good luck and stay well.

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I’m out of the bar scene, I just don’t get into it. Occasionally I meet a woman out at a restaurant or at a store. I remember, when I was younger, going to the club and meeting many women. I’m 27yrs old now and I have a 4 year old son. Wonder where people my age hang and meet each other?

It is refreshing to know that a 27 year-old single man with a child is no longer into the club scene. I know a LOT of men who aren’t so, good for you!

Back to your question: Your child’s school/daycare/preschool. i am sure you are not the only single parent…and there are a lot of cute single, teachers out there! My uncle just got remarried to his daughters teacher….they are so in love. Try going places where more mature women (women who are ready for kids and a family…so, probably not the bar scene) would go. There are always websites and support groups. Just some suggestions…hope it helps. Good luck!

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