Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I know divorce is obviously the next step, but we have a house that we just purchased in March. Brand new. We have joint bills together. The cell phones are in his name so I gave him my cell phone back, so I have no way to communicate now. Luckily we don’t have kids. I have about $800 to my name. I do have a full-time job so that’s good. I am about to go stay at my cousin’s house until I can contact the realtor tomorrow about selling the house. I have not quite broken down yet but I know reality will hit me tomorrow. We have been married for 3 years too long. Anybody that has read my posts knows the situation. He is a liar, has cheated and he is very manipulative. He has gotten to the point to where he doesn’t want me to say ANYTHING to him about anything. When I say that I mean, if he’s going the wrong way on the freeway he doesn’t want me to correct him. Saturday, we were going to his parents and all I asked is if it would be an all day visit. He didn’t like that …
Because God forbid you say anything about his parents. He is very defensive of them and his 8 year old niece whom is TERRIBLE. He is an only child (had an adopted brother which is how he got a niece) and he is spoiled and selfish. He only sees things his way. He went off on me on Saturday because I asked him how long we’d be at the parents. Usually when we go, we spend all day and I mean all day, and often we spend the night and end up staying there all day on Sunday. I understand those are his parents, but he wouldn’t dare stay all day with my people. He’s a Jehovah’s Witness and I’m not so that was a problem. We argue all the time, but all I’ve tried to do is accommodate him. I basically kiss his *** and he has the nerve to tell me all I do is start ****. He said I need to learn how to shut the **** up and leave him alone sometimes. But when he wants me to leave him alone it’s usually when he doesn’t want to face something he’s done wrong.
Also, he was addicted to porn and didn’t bother to tell me that before we got married. I had to find out the hard way. He will sit and lie to my face about it, I mean for hours on end, and when I finally get the truth out of him (2 or 3 hours later), he is livid AT ME! If I don’t let him manipulate me, and I don’t, he will get so upset! When I left tonight, he said "You know if you leave out that door ain’t no turning back". You made the decision, not me". But every other minute he’s saying he can’t hardly stand to be around me because of how I act. Yes, I have contributed to some of the problems. But not to the degree that he has. I have never cheated, I try not to lie about anything and I really don’t lie to him. It is to the point to where I can’t tell him a bill is due. He will flip out on me for that. It’s not my fault the light bill has to be paid.

This is just the first step, you now need to cut all financially cords. Talk to your bank and about getting you own account, then you can work on the credit cards and joint bills.
Now comes the hard part, going back to the single life. But first you will have all the pain that comes with a divorce. I do think you will be better off without him in your life.
Keep you head up and I wish you the best.

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i hate my ex for breaking up with me and leaving me alone.
but it’s been long enough…..i’m done moping.
what is my next step??
and how do i do it!

put yourself back out there, enjoy life, hang out with friends, get involved with fun activities, sports, trips, etc. and just try to keep yourself busy with having fun, hanging with friends and meeting new people… when you are truly having a fun time, is when good things can happen!

Good luck!
xo

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I’m just trying to start piecing my own life together again after we broke it off yesterday. It was a mutual breakup but it started by myself because of trust issues on both sides. Just looking for advice on how to network in a new community and lifestyle (Being single) so I can have friends to do activities with.

Any advice is helpful. Thanks

Best thing to do is to just get out there and do it. If you have other friends, or co-workers, try and see what they are getting into and tag along. Its really rough when you end a relationship. And it takes some time to get over. One rule though, don’t get into anything romantic/emotional with someone too quickly. We tend to maake mistakes in our ‘rebound’ period. Just try and go out and have a good time. Whether that is at the gym, club, movies, etc. If you like to dance, hop on the internet and see what the night life is about and good places to go.

If you are in your own place, throw a little get together and invite friends/co-workers and mingle a little bit.

Thats my 2 cents

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We were in a committed relationship for over a year. It was a long distance relationship. We have agreed to go our separate ways. I feel… but.. what should i do next?

Should I remain single for the next few weeks/months?
or I have the option of getting in another relationship.. start dating again…

what should i do?

well if yall just broke up recently i would just give it a little bit of time for you to cool down and make sure all your feelings for her and not strong and are fading or gone. if they are and your ready then you could start casual open dating with girls but i wouldnt get into another serious relationship again until you have a chance to meet many girls. dont date one girl then just get serious with her cuz shes the first girl after your ex. look around…see what your options are.

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today my boy broke up with me by txt (how pathetic aye) and as a last word i thought i might cut him deep with this txt.."i hope you know what youve missed out on. honestly i know you probably hear this from other girls but youve just let the best thing that ever crossed your life go away" thats what i sent him but theres another problem i still love him i dont want to but then i do (confusing…) and being me i thought it was a bit mean so i sent him this txt…stupid stupid stupid gr… here it is "nighty night i hope you really know what your doing, think it out over the weekend and come back to me when you have a proper reason, im giving you one more chance. this might be our last txt so i wanna make it a good one (here comes the poem)

im gonna miss the good times we had
and the memories we shared
your that someone that could not be compared
your gentle like nature
was a highlight for me
you made me feel like i was finally free
to know i can be loved and love in return
youve changed my life and gave me a new perspective
i know at times i was a little overprotective
but in the end you were all i thought of"

and that was it…im so stupid for sending it after my last message but i didnt wanna sound like a B**** coz its not my nature..

Your next step is:

Concentrate on yourself more, and let time take its course, and most importantly, ALLOW yourself time to heal. He is not worth it, because no man is worth going after if he does not have the courage to break up with you to your face! What your ex done was pathetic and he is no longer worth wasting time on. All matters of the heart should be discussed face to face. Just move on.. It will take time, but time and your feelings for him will pass.. It will make you a stronger person and this is a lesson learned. Now you know what you want and dont want out of the next relationship you encounter.. Good Luck honey!

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