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been with bf on and off for almost 3 years (last 2 years solid-no breakups). we’ve had our issues due to me having PMDD (caused alot of our fights-now takes meds and see a counselor) and him being too used to being a bachelor. i’m 28 w/3 girls part-time that he loves very much and he’s 29 never been married or lived w/a gf.

we’ve been seeing a counselor for a couple of weeks now to help sort out the little hangups that are causing our arguments. he was totally agreeable to going. but in the sessions, he seems scared of having a "timeline" of me and the kids moving in w/him being put on him. the counselor asked him what he thought should happen if we didnt fight anymore-his anwers were to have the kids spend more time at his house during the day and eventually all of us spending the night there. but he stated that just b/c we were all spending the night didn’t mean we were going to move in right away.

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he told the counselor that he wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving in together and getting married. i do agree with him and think his heart is in the right place and i truly think the reason it’s moving so slow is b/c the arguments are setting us back (which he said they were) but a small part of me worries that he’s afraid to commit. what should i think?!!

he does help me get the kids from school each week and tells them he loves them all the time. we are carving pumpkins and going trick or treating with the kids tomorrow so he spends lots of time with them. i see him about every other weekend alone w/no kids. most of my stuff is at his house and i’ve had a key now for about 2 years….

If he was a commitment phobic then he wouldn’t have agreed to the counseling, at least that’s what I think. You should think yourself lucky that he wants to take it slow, and get it right, especially because there are children involved. It sounds like he’s very concerned about getting it right. Sounds like a sensible man, and one worth giving the time he needs.

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been with bf on and off for almost 3 years (last 2 years solid-no breakups). we’ve had our issues due to me having PMDD (caused alot of our fights-now takes meds and see a counselor) and him being too used to being a bachelor. i’m 28 w/3 girls part-time that he loves very much and he’s 29 never been married or lived w/a gf.

we’ve been seeing a counselor for a couple of weeks now to help sort out the little hangups that are causing our arguments. he was totally agreeable to going. but in the sessions, he seems scared of having a "timeline" of me and the kids moving in w/him being put on him. the counselor asked him what he thought should happen if we didnt fight anymore-his anwers were to have the kids spend more time at his house during the day and eventually all of us spending the night there. but he stated that just b/c we were all spending the night didn’t mean we were going to move in right away.

little more below..
he told the counselor that he wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving in together and getting married. i do agree with him and think his heart is in the right place and i truly think the reason it’s moving so slow is b/c the arguments are setting us back (which he said they were) but a small part of me worries that he’s afraid to commit. what should i think?!!

he does help me get the kids from school each week and tells them he loves them all the time. we are carving pumpkins and going trick or treating with the kids tomorrow so he spends lots of time with them. i see him about every other weekend alone w/no kids. most of my stuff is at his house and i’ve had a key now for about 2 years….

Sounds like a bit of fear of commitment mixed with more fear of what has happened with you in the past. He’s sticking it out with you and your kids, but is not sure about the future.

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been with bf on and off for almost 3 years (last 2 years solid-no breakups). we’ve had our issues due to me having PMDD (caused alot of our fights-now takes meds and see a counselor) and him being too used to being a bachelor. i’m 28 w/3 girls part-time that he loves very much and he’s 29 never been married or lived w/a gf.

we’ve been seeing a counselor for a couple of weeks now to help sort out the little hangups that are causing our arguments. he was totally agreeable to going. but in the sessions, he seems scared of having a "timeline" of me and the kids moving in w/him being put on him. the counselor asked him what he thought should happen if we didnt fight anymore-his anwers were to have the kids spend more time at his house during the day and eventually all of us spending the night there. but he stated that just b/c we were all spending the night didn’t mean we were going to move in right away.

little more below..
he told the counselor that he wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving in together and getting married. i do agree with him and think his heart is in the right place and i truly think the reason it’s moving so slow is b/c the arguments are setting us back (which he said they were) but a small part of me worries that he’s afraid to commit. what should i think?!!

he does help me get the kids from school each week and tells them he loves them all the time. we are carving pumpkins and going trick or treating with the kids tomorrow so he spends lots of time with them. i see him about every other weekend alone w/no kids. most of my stuff is at his house and i’ve had a key now for about 2 years….

He’s not afraid of commiting as he’s already commited a great deal of himself to the kids,i think he is just too used to living alone and scared of living with someone else,that’s all,give him time and have patience for when he’s ready,it’s a big adjustment for him,as he’s used to doing things his way,when he wants peace and time alone he’s got it,with a family there it is totally different for him,he obviously loves you and the children,but just be patient and let him adjust in his own way in his own time.

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A couple months ago my bf and I had the "marriage talk." We’re different religions and he was worried there would be too many differences (even though we’ve been together 2 yrs and it’s never once been an issue). We ended up breaking up for no real reason 2 months ago after a completely unrelated fight.

He is out of town on business for the summer and calls me every day. He has been thinking about marriage again and wants to marry me but wants me to stop going to my church. I told him that’s asking too much of me. (Esp since he was fine w/ it when we started dating.)

I love him and want to be with him, but this is the second time in 2 years of dating that we have broken up. I know a lot of people who have taken a break or two before getting married, but is that a bad sign? (I ended things the first time, 2 years ago, for purely immature reasons, he ended things this time)
His mom broke up with her fiance last summer the day before their wedding. They got married a couple days later, with just a couple witnesses, and were divorced 6 months later. I don’t want that to be us.
We’re the same religion, that’s what’s weird. He has suddenly become very bitter about it.

We brokeup a couple of months before the wedding and then got back together and the marriage has been rocky the whole time.
Wish we had not gotten married

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LOL…sounds crazy, right? I started dating my boyfriend several months ago. He was at the end of the 1 year seperation required by SC law before a divorce can be granted. His ex was going to go to his lawyer, sign the papers, and they were going to be done with it. Ever since she found out that he is dating someone new (me:-) she has announced she "is not signing shit" (classy, huh?) and that she is taking him to court, is out for blood, custody of the 2 kids, and money. He and I don’t want to do it and don’t want to lie to the kids, but we are considering staging a break up…him telling her he failed at his relationship with me and that we are no longer together so she will calm down and sign. Several months later she will find out we "got back together". Is this crazy? Bad idea? Good idea? Advice please and thank you!

I’ve been there done that….. It really isn’t going to matter what you do or say if she wants the fight she will do it no matter what happens. She is hurt and upset that he may have found happiness in another woman’s arms. My ex-husband did the same thing to me for 8 years and they only reason behind it was that he didn’t like the thought of another man acting as her father and that I never seemed that happy with him. BUT if your man thinks it will work (he should know his ex-wife) then go for it. It just didnt work for me.

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