Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

My boyfriend and I broke up recently. He still wanted me around to be his friend but I refused – too painful being around him knowing that I’ve been demoted from the love of his life to someone he randomly messages when he feels like it.

To stop this from happening, I enforced no contact and I haven’t heard from him since, that was over 2 weeks ago. I am so lonely and miserable and desperate and I’m fighting the urge to contact him.

I know that keeping busy will make me feel better, but now the holidays are here and I’m not working I’m going crazy with grief. My family live interstate and my friends are on holidays. Suggestions?
Yes I do have a dog and volunteer at the animal shelter

YOU have the power in you!
you have proven that you have some inner strength. Taking that stand was an intelligent thing to do.
Please continue to fight this urge to contact him…if he has moved on, you will feel worse!
Write down all of the mean things that he has said or done to you and refer to that list often.
It will help you to remember that he was just a person with flaws and he was not perfect and certainly not perfect for YOU!
Consider him a teacher….preparing you for the right one
now when you find him you will appreciate him that much more.
Also there is a book called ‘how to survive the loss of a love’
it is on amazon
check it out if time permits

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i find it hard to get over and forget all my anger against my ex boyfriend for 1 year and 2 months of relationship. i never made contact with him since the night we broke up but i find it hard to concentrate in my life to the point that it affects my attitude and brings me deep loneliness.. i even thought learned how to use sleeping pills whenever i am so depressed and i even attempted to smoke and plans to drunk myself just to get a good sleep..

how can i fully start a new life with a good perspective and happiness?
thanx for all of you who answered my questions, now i have lots of idea on how to get my life back on track

Heartbeaks cut as deep as you allow them to, and lasts as long as you want them to.
The solution?
Get on with your life.
Try concentrating on plans to make you future happy.
Be optimistic.
Keep yourself busy by doing your work.
Hang around with friends.
Concentrating with your life after a breakup can be a bit hard, but having good friends that support you makes it a lot easier.
And if you can’t get to sleep, try working out, or at least exercise regularly. It helps.

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My girlfriend of two years recently broke up with me about a week ago. I was not being the best boyfriend and she was unhappy. She is now going out with my friend, who is a very nice guy. She wants to remain friends with me and I would like to do the same. We both go to school together and have a few classes together. I work with my friend and we often have similar shifts. I am trying to remain friends with her and I am ok hanging out with either one of them. My problem occurs when I hang out with both of them at the same time. They try not to act like boyfriend and girlfriend so they dont upset me but I can see the sparks between them and it reminds me of everything we had together. I commute 30 minutes to school and most of my high school friends have moved away so outside of them I dont really have any other close friends. Any advice on how to move on with seeing both of them at one time or another every day would be greatly appreciated.

Stay away from both of them. You need to develop some new relationships. Hanging around with either or both of them will just make you depressed and make it harder for you to move on.

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just broke up wid my girl of seven years. she had to work abroad coz she had problems here.we were apart for a year but the communication was always there. during that one year we already planned wat to do when she comes back. the usuall stuff about getting married and planning on going abroad together. the day came when she came home, i just knew there was something wrong. when we talked about our plans, she told me that i was the only one who wanted marriage. and that i was the only one making plans for both of us.damn! for what was the hours spent talking over the phone! i really felt like shit. really. after all the preparations, it came down to this. i spent one nyt thinking it over and decided that it was time for me to end this. after 7 years, its over. how do i move on? just want it to be easier. not feeling pain.

It all takes time. Time heals the pain and the hurt. Go out with friends, keep busy.

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I just broke up with a guy I was dating for 6 months, even though we both knew that we weren’t right for each other, and that the relationship should have ended sooner. What kept us there was a strong physical attraction, but we weren’t really that compatible otherwise. Ultimately, I ended it. I tried to do it in person, but he wasn’t receptive to it, so I did it by email. That ended in a blood bath. Apologies were made, but it left me wounded, and I don’t think it was good for either of us. Any suggestions on how to right this wrong, and leave the relationship on a good note?

Breaking up with someone is never easy, even under the very BEST circumstances. It sounds to me like you’ve already done the hard parts (admitting that a purely a physical attraction DOES NOT make a relationship and ultimately ending it).

Now you have to fully come to terms with what has happened. You said in your post that you’ve been wounded by this experience……why do you feel it is so important to leave things on a "good note". Someone who REALLY cares about you- even if it didn’t work out- would NEVER purposefully or knowingly wound you. It sounds to me like you would like to preserve a friendship of sorts with this person…….I don’t think it’s possible, viable, or more importantly HEALTHY! There is no need to hang on to this………let go and you will be all the better for doing so. Accept the fact that it is truly done, over, finished, the fat lady sang and caught her flight out of town. Now relax and take a big deep breath.

Get back to the gym, read a good book, have a day at the spa, spin your favorite tunes, buy a new outfit, do whatever makes you feel good. Focus on all the positive things you have in your life and CHOOSE to put yourself in positive situations and around positive people. I should add that his circle of friends or stomping grounds is NOT included in any of those options.

A few parting words of caution, don’t be quick to jump into another relationship. Explore what it is that you truly want for yourself and don’t settle for anything less. Dream BIG!!! And when you do start looking for that special "someone" again, make sure that they love you for ALL the wonderful things you have to offer. Good luck and stay well.

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I am a very physically and mentally abusive relationship and i need some help asap. I was hoping for something online, maybe a forum or chat room? does anyone know? i just need support and opinions before I can get to a therapist because im scared and uncertain right now.
**I am recovering from

The link below is just one of many I found just typing in groups for abusive relationships.

If you truly want to get out of this relationship, there is plenty of help out there especially in the large metropolitan areas. There are also safe houses where abused persons can go to get away from their abusive situation. You can also call your local crisis hot line.

The point is that you should have help in your own community. Take advantage of it. Good luck.

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