Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

all into to me until he gets over her. We only went out for 2 months. I was in love with him. I saw him today to get my stuff back and he basically said if i were by his side he could eventually forget about her. I want to be with him but then i realize that if we do get back together than we will have trust issues. What should i do.

2 months in teen years is a lifetime. However, you will see that as you become more mature it takes longer than 2 months to really develop a loving trusting relationship. Move on and enjoy dating. Bing tied down too young in life takes a lot of the fun out of life. Besides, it sounds like this guy wants his cake and you. He may want her, can’t have her, so he’s "settling" for you. Don’t be used. Move on.

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hmm… It doesn’t seem like men do that… women seem to lose themselves in their partner. I know I do… which makes a breakup SO much more difficult. Seriously… why do we do that?
god… it must be so much easier to be a man!!

Well I don’t think LOSING yourself in a relationship is healthy, but both people are supposed to put their all into a relationship. Relationships take hard work, and if you don’t put 100% in (although that doesn’t mean giving up everything you liked about your life before this person was around), then it isn’t going to work. I put everything I have into a relationship – I want to give it my best – then if things don’t work out, at least I know it wasn’t because of a lack of effort on my part. However, I still hang out with my friends, maintain my exercise schedule, etc. while in a relationship.

As for people who become a different person and stop doing everything they were doing when single, while in a relationship… I don’t know why they’d do that. I guess they don’t know who they really are, and are weak. I’m sorry to be blunt like that, but it’s true.

I totally disagree with these people’s responses. Women are not THAT different than men – I know a lot of men that put all of themselves into a relationship too. Break ups are NOT more difficult for women. There have been studies that show that women are actually faster to recover from relationships because they have friends that they can talk to and lean on after a break up. Men often don’t, yet they are experiencing the same stress.

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