Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

Do you think closure is a necessary part of getting over a past relationship?
My ex and I were involved with each other on and off for about 5 years. We broke up 4 weeks ago, but haven’t talked since, and never discussed why we broke up. It’s hard for me to get over him because of this. How do I go about finding closure?

I think getting over the person is a lot faster if you have some kind of closure. It doesn’t have to be a big knock down drag out thing…it could be something as simple as writing a letter to him to tell him how you feel. You don’t even have to mail it…sometimes it helps to just get it out on paper.

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Thanks for the previous answers. I would like to continue discussion….
Looks like my wife’s nature or mind is not thinking good. She don’t like any body who tell her some thing about her and her kids….like why you give this candy to your kids….your kids are not listening….any thing like that. After that she always thinking bad about that person and always complains about them to me and I knew that those all people don’t say every time. This is some thing that they see and tell her.
Except her 2 sisters she doesn’t have good relation with any body. She forces me to fight with my neighbor. She fights with my parents and my sister. She fights with her brother too. She always complains about all of my friend’s wife and her co-workers at her work. She doesn’t have any friends. She doesn’t like most of my relatives. Even one time she fights with her mom and dad. I told her even if I knew your nature if you behave good with me I don’t care about others. We will happily live together

Do you love your wife? Is she more important to you than yourself? Some people are so misunderstood, and wind up alone as a result .. all because no-one takes the time to help them out. I think your wife is one of those people – instead of getting mad, frustrated & upset with her .. sit down and talk to her. People don’t get mad for no reason, or pick fights for no reason, or dislike others for no reason. If she’s irritable, argumentative, complains alot and fights alot, you need to understand that she does it BECAUSE OF something going on inside her. You’re her husband – the pillar of the family .. you need to be there for your wife. Stop seeking better, start MAKING better. Help her out .. she may be struggling with depression, bitterness towards your family members or she may just be feeling totally stressed out .. you need to figure out why she’s behaving the way she is. Remember what I said before – people don’t just go round making life hell for others for the fun of it. The majority of the time, it’s because they have some sort of an internal battle going on. Trust me, I’ve been one of those people .. and my brother still is. I’ve learnt not to get mad or insulted when he hurts me .. Instead, I try to help him out .. and believe it or not, it soothes him. I know he struggles, I know he battles his own demons .. and he doesn’t need criticism .. he needs a friend. If you truly love your wife, you’ll sit down with her and give her a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. Ask her why she doesn’t like your family members – maybe they offended her. Ask her if she’s feeling upset/anxious/stressed/depressed. She may be having a rough time, and she doesn’t need you to make it worse .. she needs help & love. You’d be surprised at what a little tender care can do .. instead of forcing her to change, help her out. She may just respond, and you’ll watch her bloom into something beautiful before you Do your best not to judge before you know the real problem. All the best!

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Well…..I am back after 8 or 9 month……still leaving together with my wife….but looks like it’s going to be ending very soon…..but I don’t want to be happened that…for my kids and for our religious reputations….but how long I can still suffer this……
My wife works from 7 to 3.30 and makes food for us, bringing and feeding my kids in the evening and cleaning after dinner that’s all her daily duty and I also help her in all those work as well as I do all other work alone for example…morning tea/breakfast, bathing both kids, dropping both to school, after dinner I do all things for kids. Means I do all other extra work to give her extra relief but even though she always talking bad about my parents. My parents are in Canada right now but she said why they are not coming here. Everybody knows that she fight with them that’s why they left my home and everybody thinks that that’s good for her and for my parents. Even though she always fighting with me saying that your parents are self-fish, your sister is self-fish, She force me not call my parents and even force me to talk bad when they call me. Every day she said to me that looks in our friends group all parents helping them but not your parents. We fight lot because of those things. I never initiate discussion about my family but some how she started and end up fighting. Even I help her lot she doesn’t care of my help. Looks like she find the way to tight and after that I have to say sorry and get back to her normal mood. She calls my work during her lunch and force me to talk and list ion her and that’s also for long time. If I said I can’t talk more then she started like you don’t like me. I can’t say anything to you etc…Etc…Even if I late by 10 minutes from my work she says why are you late? I said because of traffic…the she said you are also lier like your parents….self-fish like your parents….and then didn’t speak to me whole day and I have to say sorry…..
So looks like what ever she said to me, I have to agree with her. She always insult and torcher me and I keep silence. I am still doing this for my kids but how long…I am scared that if I speak up then I can’t stop…I can say all her bad things that she did to me and my family and I am not sure that what she can do after that….that’s why I am still quiet. She even didn’t talk to her parents, brothers and sisters because everybody knows and told her that it’s purely her mistake…so looks like I am the only person left for her…and I do care about her…but how long this continues???????
Please help…….give your good opinion.
Thanks.

Stop posting here and get yourselves into some kind of counseling! If you guys can’t talk to someone (religious leader, therapist – someone qualified) it doesn’t sound like the marriage will last…

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I have asked this question before and I want to continue that discussion to find out what do you think about my wife based on this scenario….my wife always fight with me this way.
She always expect gift from me in all occasion like B’Day, Anniversary, mothers day etc…The day before this year mother’s day she asked me if I bought any gifts for her behalf of my kids. I said no. I told her I can give you money & you can buy your self because you don’t like my gift and you fight with me. She said no. I need the gift from you so I bought 3 t-shirts/tops for her. She opened it, take a look and throw on the floor saying that I don’t like any one and she said you buy this because of less money and you knew that I don’t like it so you are going to return the store…after that she keep talking bad things to me…she cancel our dinner plan. She talks bad about my parents. I told her sorry so many times. She said because of marriage with me she destroyed her life. She is normal after 2 days.

Whoa!—she is really mental. Maybe she has serious hormonal problems and needs to go to a doctor right now. But, whatever her choice she cannot continually make the choice to treat you like her pet. You have to set boundaries with her saying something like if you continue to speak to me in a hateful way…..I will leave the room or leave the party or leave the house for a while until you can speak to me as your beloved and not a dog. It is not okay for you to continually have to accept to live this way. Please get counseling.

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Artists: Dada & Lil Mindy
Song: Lets work this out (part 2)
2009 / 3:10

Lyrics:

D: Hello
M: Why weren’t you picking up? Where are you?
D: I’m sorry babe, I’ve been busy. Can we talk later?
M: You’re always busy! Do you even care about us anymore?
D: Baby I told you I’m sorry. Look I can’t talk right now I call you later alright?
M: *sigh* like I haven’t heard that line before
D: Come on baby don’t be like that, you know I love you
M: Okay, whatever, whatever
*click*
D: Hello? hello?

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

There’s alot of things I gotta say straight from my heart
Right from the start, I never wanted you to go or drift apart
Cause even though we fight like everyday, I wanted you to stay
And say we’ll never ever fade and that you’ll never go away

Oh, I know at times I’m just too much when I start to fuss
But after everyfight you know my heart just starts to hurt so much
I had enough of arguments babe, I’m through with all the shouts
Said I wanna make things right with you, I wanna work this out (I love you)

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Believe it or not
We may still fight, but I don’t care
I want it to stop
Before all of this end up as a one-side affair
I wanna tell you girl
I wanna tell the world
This ain’t a break up y’all
This is only a wake up call
I know you’ve been hurt
You know I’ve been hurt
I mean I,
I want it to work
Do you want it to work?
Don’t deny
Am I your “number one”?
To be the “first” to fall
Yes, my heart; you have won
Yours was also worth the call
We may have fought once
Don’t let this be the worst of all
There may be more to come
We’ll be ready to reverse them all
Pain is part of the route
I want to be your man
That’s what love is all about
Baby, let’s work this again

Baby, I really meant it when I said I loved you
Cross my heart, I never put somebody else above you
I gotta stay true but see, baby so do you
to work this out, remember that it has to take two baby me and you

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that w can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Download: http://www.mediafire.com/?tgbgygynzbm

http://www.myspace.com/dada197
http://www.myspace.com/mindiixbeatz

Duration : 0:3:11

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Being a teenager is hard enough without having to deal with your parents’ divorce, your sister’s wedding, your best friend’s pregnancy, and the death of a friend. And falling in love for the first time? That only makes everything harder. At least that’s what 17-year-old Halley Martin (Mandy Moore) discovers during her junior year in high school. A confirmed skeptic on love after dealing with her parent’s divorce, Halley doesn’t understand how her best friend, Scarlett (Alexandra Holden) can suddenly be head over heels for her first serious boyfriend. Or, for that matter, how her older sister, Ashley (Mary Catherine Garrison), can marry stuffy Lewis (Mackenzie Austin) when they seem to disagree all the time. But when her friendship with a quirky schoolmate, Macon Forrester (Trent Ford), ultimately blossoms into romance, Halley suddenly has to reconsider everything she thought to be true about love.
all copyrights © go to New Line Cinema.. or however you’re suppose to add it..

Duration : 0:10:43

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Since the first one was a big hit,
we decided to make a part two

Download: http://www.mediafire.com/?tgbgygynzbm

Lyrics:

D: Hello
M: Why weren’t you picking up? Where are you?
D: I’m sorry babe, I’ve been busy. Can we talk later?
M: You’re always busy! Do you even care about us anymore?
D: Baby I told you I’m sorry. Look I can’t talk right now I call you later alright?
M: *sigh* like I haven’t heard that line before
D: Come on baby don’t be like that, you know I love you
M: Okay, whatever, whatever
*click*
D: Hello? hello?

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

There’s alot of things I gotta say straight from my heart
Right from the start, I never wanted you to go or drift apart
Cause even though we fight like everyday, I wanted you to stay
And say we’ll never ever fade and that you’ll never go away

Oh, I know at times I’m just too much when I start to fuss
But after everyfight you know my heart just starts to hurt so much
I had enough of arguments babe, I’m through with all the shouts
Said I wanna make things right with you, I wanna work this out (I love you)

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that we can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Believe it or not
We may still fight, but I don’t care
I want it to stop
Before all of this end up as a one-side affair
I wanna tell you girl
I wanna tell the world
This ain’t a break up y’all
This is only a wake up call
I know you’ve been hurt
You know I’ve been hurt
I mean I,
I want it to work
Do you want it to work?
Don’t deny
Am I your “number one”?
To be the “first” to fall
Yes, my heart; you have won
Yours was also worth the call
We may have fought once
Don’t let this be the worst of all
There may be more to come
We’ll be ready to reverse them all
Pain is part of the route
I want to be your man
That’s what love is all about
Baby, let’s work this again

Baby, I really meant it when I said I loved you
Cross my heart, I never put somebody else above you
I gotta stay true but see, baby so do you
to work this out, remember that it has to take two baby me and you

Back then, when we were so in love
What happened? It’s getting kind of hard to pretend
When I know we’re getting worse
Baby, this just ain’t right
Talk to me

Do you believe that w can really make through?
All these obstacles cause I do
I wanna be with you
Cause Baby, I love you
And it’s true

Duration : 0:3:11

(more…)

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What was the hardest part of being alone after your long term relationship breakup? My fiancee left me in June, and to this day I still have not been given a reason why. I am in therapy, but still find it hard to cope. What are the hardest things for you to get over? Do you miss the late night phone calls or companionship?

Not knowing what comes next. For me that’s the hardest, the unanswered future. Will I be ok? will she be ok?

Sorry to hear you are still wondering why your relationship ended. I’m sure that’s tough to deal with!

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