Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

Thanks for the previous answers. I would like to continue discussion….
Looks like my wife’s nature or mind is not thinking good. She don’t like any body who tell her some thing about her and her kids….like why you give this candy to your kids….your kids are not listening….any thing like that. After that she always thinking bad about that person and always complains about them to me and I knew that those all people don’t say every time. This is some thing that they see and tell her.
Except her 2 sisters she doesn’t have good relation with any body. She forces me to fight with my neighbor. She fights with my parents and my sister. She fights with her brother too. She always complains about all of my friend’s wife and her co-workers at her work. She doesn’t have any friends. She doesn’t like most of my relatives. Even one time she fights with her mom and dad. I told her even if I knew your nature if you behave good with me I don’t care about others. We will happily live together

Do you love your wife? Is she more important to you than yourself? Some people are so misunderstood, and wind up alone as a result .. all because no-one takes the time to help them out. I think your wife is one of those people – instead of getting mad, frustrated & upset with her .. sit down and talk to her. People don’t get mad for no reason, or pick fights for no reason, or dislike others for no reason. If she’s irritable, argumentative, complains alot and fights alot, you need to understand that she does it BECAUSE OF something going on inside her. You’re her husband – the pillar of the family .. you need to be there for your wife. Stop seeking better, start MAKING better. Help her out .. she may be struggling with depression, bitterness towards your family members or she may just be feeling totally stressed out .. you need to figure out why she’s behaving the way she is. Remember what I said before – people don’t just go round making life hell for others for the fun of it. The majority of the time, it’s because they have some sort of an internal battle going on. Trust me, I’ve been one of those people .. and my brother still is. I’ve learnt not to get mad or insulted when he hurts me .. Instead, I try to help him out .. and believe it or not, it soothes him. I know he struggles, I know he battles his own demons .. and he doesn’t need criticism .. he needs a friend. If you truly love your wife, you’ll sit down with her and give her a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. Ask her why she doesn’t like your family members – maybe they offended her. Ask her if she’s feeling upset/anxious/stressed/depressed. She may be having a rough time, and she doesn’t need you to make it worse .. she needs help & love. You’d be surprised at what a little tender care can do .. instead of forcing her to change, help her out. She may just respond, and you’ll watch her bloom into something beautiful before you Do your best not to judge before you know the real problem. All the best!

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I have been married for 11 years. I have 2 kids. Both are under 8. Our life was good up to 8 years but after that my wife’s nature has been changed. First thing she doesn’t like my mom, dad and sister. Even if my parents do babysitter and most of the food preparation she always fight with them but I knew that my Wife is first to me then my parents so I have send my parents back to my country. Even if my parents call my house she always told me to insult them. Also if I call them then she always fight with me so I stop calling them.
Besides that my wife always tont me like you are dum,you don’t know how to happy me,she always bring issue of money in every topic like…because of more money you do this. She always told me that you are not capable of getting new good job even I work as a engineer and making more than $100000.She always working like boss and when ever we fight she never say sorry. I have to say sorry every time. Even if we both work I do more things then her.Pls Help me.

Hey stop letting her control you. This will get more respect from her and also yourself. Sounds like she is looking for you to stand up for yourself. But if this isn’t the case it might be time for you and the kids to think about ending the marriage.

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Well…..I am back after 8 or 9 month……still leaving together with my wife….but looks like it’s going to be ending very soon…..but I don’t want to be happened that…for my kids and for our religious reputations….but how long I can still suffer this……
My wife works from 7 to 3.30 and makes food for us, bringing and feeding my kids in the evening and cleaning after dinner that’s all her daily duty and I also help her in all those work as well as I do all other work alone for example…morning tea/breakfast, bathing both kids, dropping both to school, after dinner I do all things for kids. Means I do all other extra work to give her extra relief but even though she always talking bad about my parents. My parents are in Canada right now but she said why they are not coming here. Everybody knows that she fight with them that’s why they left my home and everybody thinks that that’s good for her and for my parents. Even though she always fighting with me saying that your parents are self-fish, your sister is self-fish, She force me not call my parents and even force me to talk bad when they call me. Every day she said to me that looks in our friends group all parents helping them but not your parents. We fight lot because of those things. I never initiate discussion about my family but some how she started and end up fighting. Even I help her lot she doesn’t care of my help. Looks like she find the way to tight and after that I have to say sorry and get back to her normal mood. She calls my work during her lunch and force me to talk and list ion her and that’s also for long time. If I said I can’t talk more then she started like you don’t like me. I can’t say anything to you etc…Etc…Even if I late by 10 minutes from my work she says why are you late? I said because of traffic…the she said you are also lier like your parents….self-fish like your parents….and then didn’t speak to me whole day and I have to say sorry…..
So looks like what ever she said to me, I have to agree with her. She always insult and torcher me and I keep silence. I am still doing this for my kids but how long…I am scared that if I speak up then I can’t stop…I can say all her bad things that she did to me and my family and I am not sure that what she can do after that….that’s why I am still quiet. She even didn’t talk to her parents, brothers and sisters because everybody knows and told her that it’s purely her mistake…so looks like I am the only person left for her…and I do care about her…but how long this continues???????
Please help…….give your good opinion.
Thanks.

Stop posting here and get yourselves into some kind of counseling! If you guys can’t talk to someone (religious leader, therapist – someone qualified) it doesn’t sound like the marriage will last…

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I have asked this question before and I want to continue that discussion to find out what do you think about my wife based on this scenario….my wife always fight with me this way.
She always expect gift from me in all occasion like B’Day, Anniversary, mothers day etc…The day before this year mother’s day she asked me if I bought any gifts for her behalf of my kids. I said no. I told her I can give you money & you can buy your self because you don’t like my gift and you fight with me. She said no. I need the gift from you so I bought 3 t-shirts/tops for her. She opened it, take a look and throw on the floor saying that I don’t like any one and she said you buy this because of less money and you knew that I don’t like it so you are going to return the store…after that she keep talking bad things to me…she cancel our dinner plan. She talks bad about my parents. I told her sorry so many times. She said because of marriage with me she destroyed her life. She is normal after 2 days.

Whoa!—she is really mental. Maybe she has serious hormonal problems and needs to go to a doctor right now. But, whatever her choice she cannot continually make the choice to treat you like her pet. You have to set boundaries with her saying something like if you continue to speak to me in a hateful way…..I will leave the room or leave the party or leave the house for a while until you can speak to me as your beloved and not a dog. It is not okay for you to continually have to accept to live this way. Please get counseling.

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