Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

we live in the same house.i kiss n hug intimately already to her.still shes looking for somebody not me,coz shes confused.help me.

The two of you need to get away from each other. One of you needs to move out so that you have some time apart to get over each other.

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I know that when people hurt them, they get even, but what if it was mutual? How do you handle it? How do you cope with it? Do you get obsessed with the issue (considering the fact that we’re obssesive) ? Scorpios have a hard time letting go, but as a guy’s point of view, do you cling to it or how do you get over it?
Our relationship was for about 6 months , broke off but we still care for each other. (if that helps)

Well, being a water sign as well (I’m a girl, though), I would imagine that the Scorpio guy would feel a little heartbroken at the end of any relationship…simply because the reason we (as a water sign) went out with that person is because plain and simply..we liked them enough to want a future with them! I doubt other scorpios just go out with girls or guys to "have some fun" or "see what it’s like," I mean, sure there’s an element of that in the decision to go out with them, but the main reason is because we want to be with this person. So, well, judging from just this, I would imagine that scorpios WOULD, yes, have a hard time letting go, I’ve heard that they usually want to try everything possible to glue back together the broken pieces and try to make the breakup go away…..and, that is, if they respected you enough as a person, if they’re the ones who decided the love died, then, well, I’d imagine they’d be a little heartless about it–and, no, not be clingy oR obsessive about it.

In the case that you loved this person and really were convinced they could have a future with you…I think the scorpio would be heartborken and, yes, would obsess about it endlessly and even after it was over would probably go over it in theri heads and try to see where they went wrong and maybe even try to place the blame on somebody….depends on the type of Scorpio…..

Now, I think, if this other person Cheated on them, and Tha’ts why the relationship is over, thennn the Scorpio would probably be ALL over the place trying to muster up ways to get sweet revenge, because of course, in their eyes, that person clearly deserves it!

I think if it was "mutual hurt," like you put it, the Scorpio would not really consider getting even; They would just accept the facts and go….
It’s only when they feel they’ve been treated unfairly that they would feel the need for revenge……

Cancers are revengeful, too…….or at least I am…….but usually I just suddenly see where the other person is coming from, and I put myself int heir shoes and, even though I still feel utterly disguested for what they did, I usually try to stick around and try to figure out what in hell made them act that way. Then! I find out that it wasn’t even about me………that person wasn’t even thinking about hurting me…it was just their own inferiority complexes and other times, just plainly not being aware of how they were hurting me. So, after that, I see revenge as a waste of time..and I figure, well revenge just makes us both end up feeling worse….so yeah, what’s the point. To me, revenge is all about succeeding above the limitations a person put on you right in front of their face. Sweeeet. I think the best revenge is success………and it’s the one that most inarguably would get the message across to the other person, in my opinion. And that’s whether they realize they hurt you or not.

So, to sum it all up, I’d say scorpios would obsess over most break-ups for the simple reason that all we water signs go out with somebody with the hopes that this will be the real thing..we don’t treat it lightly! And, now, about the subject of whether they would be revengeful about it or not……..that would only happen if they felt they had been slighted….if they felt that someone had treated them unjustly and had felt that they could get away with it, too. HELL NAW the scorpio will show them who’s boss. I don’t think that a scorpio would at least act out revenge unless the person clearly took advantage of them somehow. If the person went out with them, and they just weren’t feeling it, the scorpio would prob be a little hurt…………and they might even stalk the person when they’re with their other, new, boyfriend…but it’s only when they feel they have been clearly taken advantage of that they will act on feelings of revenge. In this case they would probably stalk for a bit and think about it a lot and then eventually be able to let go of this person……

Depends on how much they liked the person, really!

Good luck with your answers….A cancer snake with a leo moon and pluto in 1st house with scorpio ascendant (lol)

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So me and this guy were dating for a little bit over a year and we just broke up yesterday. We were in a long distance relationship and the breakup was mutual but we’re both still hurting.

The reason we decided to break up was that he lived in Australia and I lived in the States. It was going to have to be me that moved there because he’s in the Air Force for 5 years. And I didn’t have the courage to move there at the age of 18.

And he and I agreed that doing the long distance for 5 years would be too difficult and painful for both of us.

Can you please help me and us cope with this. We really do love each other, but we don’t think that it is meant to be. He and I are hurting a lot right now. And we’re both trying to be strong for the other.

Please help me

Hi :] !
I’ve been in your exact situation before. I had a long distance relationship for a guy for about a year. I lived in California and he lived in Massachusetts. When we were going out the distance felt like it didn’t matter because of the love we had for each other, but we were both scared of giving up our lives at our home towns and that was the downfall of the relationship. It’s been many months but i’ve grown to cope with it. I found someone really special actually, and im hoping it’ll last.
Advice for you, if it’s really love, he’ll come back to you :]
but in the mean time, try getting your mind off of him by consuming your time with something else. Maybe catch up with some old friends, start a new hobby, or just relax. Summer’s coming up and you shouldn’t be sad !

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Many months ago, my girlfriend and I (both in our 30s) parted because I was reluctant to go the next step. Two months into her relationship with someone else, I fought to get her back. She lost sleep and couldn’t decide. After many weeks, she came back to me, saying she ended with the new guy because he was much younger and not ready to settle down (I now am). She said my pleading had nothing to do with that break up. We love each other, but now I fear she came back only because she couldn’t have the new guy. I keep wondering whether she delayed because she liked him more, or if the sex was better, etc. (If so, I know she wouldn’t tell me that). My friends think I should just be happy she’s back, and that says it all. How do I get over the jealousy? Girls: Should I assume I compare favorably with the new guy if she is willing to go back to me? I guess I’d hate to be her sentimental or practical choice and him her sexual/romantic choice.

You should probably look into yourself if you really feel comfortable being back with her. If you are bothered by her dating someone else and have issues with what transpired when you weren’t together, there is alot of baggage that won’t go away overnight. When you’re in a relationship, you either have to completely give your trust to someone or not.

If you can’t get over it, you should probably not be with her as it will cause tension in the future. You have to accept what she tells you and not second-guess it. Otherwise, the relationship will not be healthy.

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So me and this guy were dating for a little bit over a year and we just broke up yesterday. We were in a long distance relationship and the breakup was mutual but we’re both still hurting.

The reason we decided to break up was that he lived in Australia and I lived in the States. It was going to have to be me that moved there because he’s in the Air Force for 5 years. And I didn’t have the courage to move there at the age of 18.

And he and I agreed that doing the long distance for 5 years would be too difficult and painful for both of us.

Can you please help me and us cope with this. We really do love each other, but we don’t think that it is meant to be. He and I are hurting a lot right now. And we’re both trying to be strong for the other.

Please help me

There is not quick fix for this sweetie. I’m sure you both cared very much for eachother so for awhile its going to hurt. Maybe try doing projects to keep your mind off things wathcing movies or hanging out with friends. I wouldnt talk to him for a week or two though because you both need alittle time apart to heal or else you never will. Its so easy to say we made a mistake then get stuck with the same problems. Just give it some time things always look better after cold pizza and a tub of rockey road ice cream.

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