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My husbadn left me in May of 2005 and he says he wants a divorce but we still talk to each other on a regular basis and he says it may just take time to put our family back together but at the same time he says he still wants to go through with the divorce

The big question is why he thinks the marriage can be saved and still wants a divorce. Those two things don’t fit together and are an indication that maybe he is trying to not hurt you by giving you hope that really doesn’t exist. It will be hard but the best thing you can do for the both of you is make it clear that if the divorce is to go forward then you can’t keep talking all the time and keep you thinking that things will work out. I suspect that he is already moved on and possibly seeing someone. He is trying to be a nice guy and doesn’t want to hurt you but in the end by giving you hope, that isn’t letting you move on with your life and will make it even more painful when this divorce does happen and the relationship ends.

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We were separated once for six months. I got my own place. We didn’t even speak to each other for about two months. I think that helped. We both had time to shake our anger and reflect on what happened. We had time to miss each other. After that, we were able to go on without arguing. However, (Let this be a word of caution to ya.) nothing has changed. Except we don’t fight about it anymore.

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I caught my husband with nude pictures of a 18-19 year old girl he met in yahoo chat rooms and he is almost 30 which disgust me. Not only that I went on a business trip for two days and it was during the week so he was working too but when I left for the trip he decided he wanted to take a two day vacation too and the way I found this out was when I landed in New York I called his office to tell him I landed and his secretary told me he had called off for the next two days. (Oh and let me throw in that our kids were still taken to the babysitters the days he was off because he claimed he just wanted to relax) Now I am not the one to accuse my husband of cheating but I found a pair of underwear that are not mine in my dirty clothes hamper. He tried to say they were mine but come on I don’t know a woman out there that can’t recognize there own underwear plus they are two sizes too big. Plus on top of everything he has changed the password on his lap top so I can’t check anything. (Does anyone have a way to hack into a laptop lol) Now that I am suspicious about everything he is trying to play the good husband roll of "If you don’t trust me then why are we married" thing. He admits he fucked up with the nude pictures but I feel like I’m being played for a fool. I come home daily and cook dinner, clean, take care of our children, and I feel like he is taking advantage of me. I can’t even have sex with him anymore because every time I look at him a picture pops in my mind of a 19 year old nude body. I am having dreams nightly of him cheating that is making it hard me to sleep. We have been together since high school and we have been married for over a year now and I just don’t want 10 years to go down the drain. What should I do? What can I do? Please help I need opinions!!!!

He’s cheating and exhibiting standard denial behaviors. Cheaters often deny their actions until they are shown irrefutable evidence, and some continue to deny even after that.

Marriages survive infidelity all the time. But to survive you need open communication and to see a counselor. Healing can take many months to a few years.

Since he is denying, you need to be firm and consistent in your knowledge that he is cheating. Even if you do not have solid evidence but only a lot of clues and cheating behaviors, be firm. Tell him that you know about it. If he asks you to prove it, tell him your sources are your business–unless you actually have evidence you can show him.

You know he’s cheating and he knows that you know, so denying it is simply stupid–though he will continue to deny. But you don’t have Stupid pasted across your forehead.

The only way to rebuild and heal is for him to be honest with you. The tough part is that he may insist on denying for a quite awhile. If you need official evidence, get it; but snooping can make you feel nuts so beware.

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my and my wife have been merried for alittle over a year. she is having some probs, with her mental illness and her mind is convinced that i am cheating and abusive. she has scysophrenia and is not taken her meds. what can i do help her when she has a restraining order on my and also doesnt belaeve she has a prob.?
i have talked to the whole family and they know i wouldnt do anything to hurt her. thay have also tried to help and she thinks they are turning agenst her.

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First of all he is a drug addict who got me hooked on the same drug. He stated that he wants to quit but that the only way he can do that is by coming home and getting away from his roommate who influnces him into doing cocaine and freebase. he also promise to be helpfull around the house and be more productive in our marriage….however all i have heard in the last 9 months is words but I have not seen any actions. How do i know that i can trust him again to get clean, be productive, loving, not controling, and trust in me.

first he should be willing to prove to u he is in therapy, he should keep u updated on his progress, words are cheap, and mean nothing without action. u don’t trust him to get clean if coming back home means enough to him he will be glad to do whatever it takes to get clean and prove to u beyond a doubt hes clean and right again. u really don’t need this bad influence in your life, and it will take hard work with both parties working towards it not just one. things are probably not working out so well with the new love and all the drugs.

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Thanks for the previous answers. I would like to continue discussion….
Looks like my wife’s nature or mind is not thinking good. She don’t like any body who tell her some thing about her and her kids….like why you give this candy to your kids….your kids are not listening….any thing like that. After that she always thinking bad about that person and always complains about them to me and I knew that those all people don’t say every time. This is some thing that they see and tell her.
Except her 2 sisters she doesn’t have good relation with any body. She forces me to fight with my neighbor. She fights with my parents and my sister. She fights with her brother too. She always complains about all of my friend’s wife and her co-workers at her work. She doesn’t have any friends. She doesn’t like most of my relatives. Even one time she fights with her mom and dad. I told her even if I knew your nature if you behave good with me I don’t care about others. We will happily live together

Do you love your wife? Is she more important to you than yourself? Some people are so misunderstood, and wind up alone as a result .. all because no-one takes the time to help them out. I think your wife is one of those people – instead of getting mad, frustrated & upset with her .. sit down and talk to her. People don’t get mad for no reason, or pick fights for no reason, or dislike others for no reason. If she’s irritable, argumentative, complains alot and fights alot, you need to understand that she does it BECAUSE OF something going on inside her. You’re her husband – the pillar of the family .. you need to be there for your wife. Stop seeking better, start MAKING better. Help her out .. she may be struggling with depression, bitterness towards your family members or she may just be feeling totally stressed out .. you need to figure out why she’s behaving the way she is. Remember what I said before – people don’t just go round making life hell for others for the fun of it. The majority of the time, it’s because they have some sort of an internal battle going on. Trust me, I’ve been one of those people .. and my brother still is. I’ve learnt not to get mad or insulted when he hurts me .. Instead, I try to help him out .. and believe it or not, it soothes him. I know he struggles, I know he battles his own demons .. and he doesn’t need criticism .. he needs a friend. If you truly love your wife, you’ll sit down with her and give her a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. Ask her why she doesn’t like your family members – maybe they offended her. Ask her if she’s feeling upset/anxious/stressed/depressed. She may be having a rough time, and she doesn’t need you to make it worse .. she needs help & love. You’d be surprised at what a little tender care can do .. instead of forcing her to change, help her out. She may just respond, and you’ll watch her bloom into something beautiful before you Do your best not to judge before you know the real problem. All the best!

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I have been married for 11 years. I have 2 kids. Both are under 8. Our life was good up to 8 years but after that my wife’s nature has been changed. First thing she doesn’t like my mom, dad and sister. Even if my parents do babysitter and most of the food preparation she always fight with them but I knew that my Wife is first to me then my parents so I have send my parents back to my country. Even if my parents call my house she always told me to insult them. Also if I call them then she always fight with me so I stop calling them.
Besides that my wife always tont me like you are dum,you don’t know how to happy me,she always bring issue of money in every topic like…because of more money you do this. She always told me that you are not capable of getting new good job even I work as a engineer and making more than $100000.She always working like boss and when ever we fight she never say sorry. I have to say sorry every time. Even if we both work I do more things then her.Pls Help me.

Hey stop letting her control you. This will get more respect from her and also yourself. Sounds like she is looking for you to stand up for yourself. But if this isn’t the case it might be time for you and the kids to think about ending the marriage.

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I tend to run away from responsibility, Ive struggled with depression all my life. Knowing this, my best friend, against my pleading, fell for me and talked me into dating her and then into marrying her. I mistaked "not knowing what I want" for "I can handle anything" and we married. I told her before we even started dating I knew a few things, like I dont want kids (she does) and I dont want to live in this area (she does). Didnt faze her. She was driven to do good things back then, plus she was hot. Since we got married 5 years ago, weve degraded drastically. Im sure my depression has brought her down. Shes given up changing the world and shes gained a lot of weight. I was frugal and never had any debt before we married. Now were $30,000 in debt and we live on her parents property. Ive never done the manly thing before. What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves? No one in her family has ever divorced and no one in mine hasn’t.
I should add that we are both in our mid 20’s, working and going to school.

Also that my relationships before her tended to die out when I stopped calling, a tribute to my lack of manliness, fear of responsibility and history of depression.

She had no romantic relationships prior to me, which leads me to believe she persists in loving me out of guilt for wasting her love on me initially.
We do not have children yet.

wow, that’s tough. It may help to try some counseling and if that doesn’t work you may wan to end it. The differences such as her wanting children and you not wanting them will just end in something much more bitter later on in life when she blames you for not wanting children when she knew all along. I’m not sure what else to say except good luck an all my best to you.
At least you are man enough to admit there’s a problem and try to resolve it.

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Well…..I am back after 8 or 9 month……still leaving together with my wife….but looks like it’s going to be ending very soon…..but I don’t want to be happened that…for my kids and for our religious reputations….but how long I can still suffer this……
My wife works from 7 to 3.30 and makes food for us, bringing and feeding my kids in the evening and cleaning after dinner that’s all her daily duty and I also help her in all those work as well as I do all other work alone for example…morning tea/breakfast, bathing both kids, dropping both to school, after dinner I do all things for kids. Means I do all other extra work to give her extra relief but even though she always talking bad about my parents. My parents are in Canada right now but she said why they are not coming here. Everybody knows that she fight with them that’s why they left my home and everybody thinks that that’s good for her and for my parents. Even though she always fighting with me saying that your parents are self-fish, your sister is self-fish, She force me not call my parents and even force me to talk bad when they call me. Every day she said to me that looks in our friends group all parents helping them but not your parents. We fight lot because of those things. I never initiate discussion about my family but some how she started and end up fighting. Even I help her lot she doesn’t care of my help. Looks like she find the way to tight and after that I have to say sorry and get back to her normal mood. She calls my work during her lunch and force me to talk and list ion her and that’s also for long time. If I said I can’t talk more then she started like you don’t like me. I can’t say anything to you etc…Etc…Even if I late by 10 minutes from my work she says why are you late? I said because of traffic…the she said you are also lier like your parents….self-fish like your parents….and then didn’t speak to me whole day and I have to say sorry…..
So looks like what ever she said to me, I have to agree with her. She always insult and torcher me and I keep silence. I am still doing this for my kids but how long…I am scared that if I speak up then I can’t stop…I can say all her bad things that she did to me and my family and I am not sure that what she can do after that….that’s why I am still quiet. She even didn’t talk to her parents, brothers and sisters because everybody knows and told her that it’s purely her mistake…so looks like I am the only person left for her…and I do care about her…but how long this continues???????
Please help…….give your good opinion.
Thanks.

Stop posting here and get yourselves into some kind of counseling! If you guys can’t talk to someone (religious leader, therapist – someone qualified) it doesn’t sound like the marriage will last…

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