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He says he is not in love with her or having sex with her,
saving money to leave, and can’t wait to spend the rest of
his life with me.
But he is really doing nothing to make it happen and he won’t move in with me.

It could possibly be a financial reason why hes not leaving. There could be many reasons. Yes its true he might never leave his wife but you should give him somewhat of a chance. But you really don’t know if you don’t put yourself out there. Give him time. He might not be moving in with you because hes just getting to know you. Moving in is a big step. But it will be much better once he leaves his wife. But its all in what you feel. Go with your gut instinct not what hes telling you. Whatever you think is what you should go with. But I have to say you can’t expect to have any type of relationship if you don’t make yourself somewhat vulnerable.

Plus if hes married and he cheats on her with you before a divorce than he would be liable to pay his wife more than half of all possessions.

But you never know. You never know what people are doing or thinking.

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My girlfrind and I have been together for three years. I do love her, however we are not right for each other. We don’t fight, or argue much. The only complaints I really have is that she is a very messy person, who doesn’t clean up after herself or her son. I used to do the majority of the housework, but I just don’t care anymore. She can’t cook, clean, or do much of anything on her own. She is very co-dependant, and she doesn’t have any friends. I have tried to end it before, but she is very good about making me feel bad or feel sorry for her. I have decided to end our relationship for good this time. But I could use some advice on the best way to end a relationship with a very emotional and sensitive girl?

Well either way she will be very emotional and sensitive. Tell her the truth… that you don’t see yourself spending the rest of your life with her and that you don’t want to waste each others time any longer. Then leave it as that. Don’t say anything like "oh we can still be friends" because that will just drag it on. End it with no more communication.

Off the record…I feel kind of bad for the kid involved. I don’t know the whole situation but if her child was close to you..he might take it hard.

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Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up in May
I just started talking to him again
whats the chance of us getting back together?

thanks alot )

I’ve never gotten back together with an ex. Chances are slim but it does happen that if you two get back together it will actually work.

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Has anyone ever gotten back together with an ex after a bad breakup or after a long time?

Yes..Remarried my first husband after 15 years of being apart.

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Has any of you waited around for your ex., and actually got back together. ?
Has any of you got back together with your ex after 6 months or longer (when the time you two split up she/he wanted nothing to do with you), and actually got back together with in time?

Is it worth the waiting (waiting on true love)?

When they wanted nothing to do with you when they split up and you thought you had lost that person for good, you actually got back together again after a long time?
Is any of this possible or has it happened to any of you?

I would love you guys to share your stories with me. And also answer my questions
Ones who have experienced this, tell me your stories.

Guys, I have dated alot and just let them go at times. This time instead of moveing on, I am going to be strong. This one is the Love of my life and I believe is my soul mate.

It hurts like Hell and Burns inside, but that is true love that is burning inside me.And I do know good things come to those who wait.

Years ago, I did try to work things out with my sons father. Second time didn’t work either.{Thank Goodness!!!} If it had I never would have met the love of my life. The man in my life now and I did split up for a year after dating for 6 years. We’ve been back together for 8 years now. It can work if it’s meant to be. Look deep in your heart and don’t listen to your head, you’ll figure out what to do. Good luck.

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Hi
I was with ash 9 months broke up 3 months ago and still not over her. How long will it take i hate her she treated me like crap the last 4 months we was together and lied i loved her soooooo much and now im all alone:( How long will it take to get better?

It is very individualized (the length of time it will take). This probably was the first really significant relationship and subsequent loss you have experienced. Everyone has one of those… then they learn to hold back something of themselves to regenerate from after that. Rather than putting there entire heart and soul on the line.

It really can be devastating. There are so many variables that can make this worse. Knowing and participating fully with your significant’s family and joint friends. Sharing some very unique and special things together…"the first times for" list (ie sex). Going to some very special locations that are once in a life time experiences can keep memories alive for ever. Certain music and movies. That person can be tangled with all of those types of things and make it very hard to deal with at times. When you really have blended your feelings and experiences with someone (especially at a younger age or for a relatively long time for your age) it can be your own personal hell.

If they have gone on to be with someone else… or have dumped you to be with another person… that can constitute a major psychic injury. In those cases… if it can not be shaken and is getting worse professional help might have to be sought. These people get a real weird twist to the whole thing… stalking, having fits of anger, ruminating the loss over and over, incompacitating depression, inability to focus or take responsibility… those are serious things that have to be looked at professionally. If you are just getting hints or short runs of that…do not buy into it and avoid going there… it is pathological. Don’t make matters worse…going in that direction that is not the answer.

The best thing is to not focus on yourself… but, try to stay busy and focus on others that could use you help… be loving to others in a different way… like grandparents, getting wrapped up in a new hobby. Join some type of groups or clubs that have meetings with others. Like a camping/hiking club, etc., etc..

I think the fact that she treated you like crap for the last 4 months kind of did something to you… you probably thought since you took all that crap you earned the right to be fully loved and respected as a reward for your tolerance (demonstrating unconditional love for her). Well, it doesn’t work that way and certainly isn’t fair. From what you have hinted at… I think she might have had some serious personality flaws. I think she stomped on your heart and brain… and you really will not be able to make sense of it. You have to learn to crawl away from what constitued an abusive relationship. Just learn to draw some boundaries in future relationships… be sure you or others do not go over them until you are damn sure it is really safe.

I really do appreciate your pain… Good Luck!

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3 year relationship. 1st relationship ive had. the reason we are breaking up is i just don’t see myself with her long term and i want to move on.

I can only speak for myself, but it took me about a year to get over my 5 year relationship. It was also my 1st relationship. We broke up on different terms though. We had trust issues. But if you don’t see yourself with that person long term, you are doing the right thing. It’s not fair to you and it’s not fair to your partner. The best advice I can say is to allow yourself to feel the hurt. It’s when you try to avoid it that it makes it worse. I remember when I was in this position and I cried a lot, but I also went out with my friends a lot too. It’s what I needed to do for me. Good Luck!

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So me and this guy were dating for a little bit over a year and we just broke up yesterday. We were in a long distance relationship and the breakup was mutual but we’re both still hurting.

The reason we decided to break up was that he lived in Australia and I lived in the States. It was going to have to be me that moved there because he’s in the Air Force for 5 years. And I didn’t have the courage to move there at the age of 18.

And he and I agreed that doing the long distance for 5 years would be too difficult and painful for both of us.

Can you please help me and us cope with this. We really do love each other, but we don’t think that it is meant to be. He and I are hurting a lot right now. And we’re both trying to be strong for the other.

Please help me

Hi :] !
I’ve been in your exact situation before. I had a long distance relationship for a guy for about a year. I lived in California and he lived in Massachusetts. When we were going out the distance felt like it didn’t matter because of the love we had for each other, but we were both scared of giving up our lives at our home towns and that was the downfall of the relationship. It’s been many months but i’ve grown to cope with it. I found someone really special actually, and im hoping it’ll last.
Advice for you, if it’s really love, he’ll come back to you :]
but in the mean time, try getting your mind off of him by consuming your time with something else. Maybe catch up with some old friends, start a new hobby, or just relax. Summer’s coming up and you shouldn’t be sad !

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i’m planning to break up with him at the end of next week. he hasn’t been giving enough attention and he has changed over the last few months, we have got to stage that things won’t get any better. what do i say to him? i still love him, but i just feel so undervalued, it’s a long story. do i give him one last kiss as well? what do you think? xx

thanks so much for answering my question too.

i would just tell him what you wrote down here.
that it’s not a case of you not loving him, but it’s just that you think things aren’t going to get better. you feel undervalued by him, and think it’s best if both of you move on.

breaking up with someone is definitely hard. i know. i just broke up with my boyfriend too. but be strong. it will all work out.

a goodbye kiss might be good too. it might just say that you can still be friends.
good luck!

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