My ex is leaving me messages, asking for "closure". We broke up 4 yrs. ago. Should I reply?
Tuesday, May 4th, 2010It was a bad break-up after 7 years together, and I don’t want any contact with that person. We have been apart for 4 years. Every few years my ex intrudes on my life – sometimes with frivolous lawsuits, sometimes leaving tearful messages. The ex was a very troubled, sometimes abusive person with drug problems. I usually ignore the messages (except to call back and ask to be left alone), but it gets me nowhere. The ex contacted me recently (another VM), and tearfully requested closure. This person thinks that closure will help them be a better person. I have moved on and I’m tired of being bothered. What to do?
I have changed my number many times. Changed all contact info, but this person persists to bother me, or call my family.
Get a lawyer to write him a letter. Have him tell your ex that you don’t want any contact from him/her at all in the future by any means possible and that you have had enough "closure" from him/her. And that if there is any further contact from them, that you will ask for a restraining order and see about having them charged criminally for harassment. And THAT will be their closure!
That should take care of it. By the way, if you change your number many times, how are they getting it? Are they secretly in contact with a member of your family? And is your number unlisted? You should look into that. You could always set a canary trap.
