Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I just got out of an abusive relationship, but I still find myself missing him. Especially at night. I cannot handle nights very well at all. I get so lonely that I can’t sleep and don’t know what to do. I don’t want to end up going back again or too depressed to move. HELP!

I completely understand you. I was in the same position. The only relief I found was going out more- however hard that was for me. I didn’t really start feeling better till I started dating again. If you need to talk about it- email me.

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The affair was emotional and not physical. Did you have a hard time forgetting about the other person? If so how long did it take?

You need to realize what you did was wrong no 2 ways about it, whether it was a physical or emotional affair. Maybe he finally realized he was going down the wrong path and bailed on you because it was leading to the physical part. Why can’t you find someone to get attached to that isn’t married? Are you not worthy?

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I was in a 13-month interracial relationship. It was not easy for both of us:

- he cannot be committed to me without his family rejection over a interracial marriage
- he cannot express his feeling because english is not his first language
- he cannot be himself becuase he cannot speak hindi with me
- his mom kept pushing him for marriage, but he can’t tell his mom about me
- I feel seperated/lonely whenever i hang out with his friends.
- I feel insecure about the whole situation from the beginning to the end – worried when he is going to get arranged with another girl in his culture
- I feel i cannot connect with him and there is a gap between us.
- I feel desperate…i want light in the relationship, but it is always dark
- We like each other, we enjoy each other’s companies, we talk to each other in numerous hours of phone calls everyday

Despite all these, we managed to be together for 1 year. We were, in general, very happy together, but wenever we both talk about/think of the future. We ended up talking about breaking up. So, this time is finally 99.99%.

He decided to break up with me because his friend has a similar issue like ours. She chose to marry the man despite of the family’s disappoval. The family is now no longer calling her their daughter!

This is like a series of scences in a drama:

1. He was very strong-willed. He told me strongly, "I don’t like you, that’s it. I cannot do this anymore. Even now i feel intensed to be in a relationship with you, it will be 100x more intensed after i told my parents about you."

2. He still called me for the next two days and told me how much he missed calling me sweety..So i asked what does he want, he responded the same way as before.

3. I msged him and snapped ties with him. He regret for saying no to me cus I "may be the best thing he will ever have".

4. The next day, I called him and decided to ask him what’s his intention for saying that. He said "he doesn’t know what he is doing." but he still insisted of snapping ties, so i agreed.

He is going back to his native land to visit his parents in 2 weeks. I don’t know whether i should hope for anything at this point. I am so worried he is going to find another girl during his visit. I have so much stress in myself and i feel very sad. I feel hopeless and have thought of hurting myself to ease my pain from my heart.

REMEMBER THIS QUOTE:

"If you love something let it go. If it comes back it’s yours. If it doesn’t it was never meant to be." -Unknown

If he really had it in heart to be with you, then that’s all that would matter to him. I don’t think there is anything you can do but move on with your life. Why get into a marriage where the in-laws will not accept you anyway? That’s rough.

So consider this a favor to you. You can be with someone more valuable and more loving. Someone with a better family upbringing.

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My boyfriend of two years broke up with me about three weeks ago, and I still feel like it happened yesterday. He’s kind of a jerk, I have no idea why I still miss him so much. It’s also kind of hard breaking out of the habits our relationship created; meeting and talking to him in the hallways at school, him taking me home after school, our nightly chats on the phone, etc. It all feels so strange and unbalanced. I feel like there’s a gaping hole in my chest.. like a large chunk of my being has been ripped out. Our relationship was crumbling anyway, and deep down I know it’s best for us not to be together, but it still hurts so much. And he acts like "we" never even happened… I’ve just decided to try and cut him out from my life completely. Removing him from my messenger lists, avoiding him at school. I thought that might help, but it’s actually making it harder. I just don’t know what to do. I’ve never been through a breakup like this. I thought by now I’d be feeling at least a little bit better, but I’m not.
What can I do to take some of this pain away? What did you do that helped you get over him/her? Serious answers please… I’m desperate…

Hi =] you have to know that you’ll be happy without him & a guy should Not be the source of your happiness. he can add to it, but he shouldn’t be the source. You have to be independent. it’s perfectly okay to miss him and everything you shared. If he wasn’t a very good boyfriend to you (a jerk), then you have it much easier than others to let him go. i know it doesn’t seem like it, but you do. you deserve better than that & u will find a special someone for you one day. two years is a long time to be with someone, so you have a while to heal, but you can do it. don’t give up and surround yourself with supportive friends and find yourself without him. do things that make you happy, spend time with people you love (friends & family). you’ll start to see that life is still beautiful. i hope i helped and good luck !

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After a long on off relationship of 11 years and four children later and he leaves you for someone else what is the best way to deal with the emptiness and loneliness. When does the pain finally stop?

Surround yourself with family and friends. Don’t isolate. Take one day at a time. Get involve with your kids activities. Keep busy, take the kids to park, mall, etc. Do something relaxing for yourself, a new hairdo, a spa treatment. I know it hurts now, but the pain will stop. Hang in there.

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