Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I’m 25 and it’s been almost 6 years since my last major breakup/heartbreak. So now I’m going through one again and I don’t have a clue how to handle it. Especially at this stage in my life. These feelings are all so foreign. I can handle the relationship being over but my ex still contacts me. I don’t know how to play the games to get him back, and I also don’t know how to tell him to leave me alone. I don’t want him knowing that I still care about him and don’t want it to be over. He can’t have that satisfaction. It’s been 6 years since I’ve allowed myself to care for someone for this very reason. He thinks we can be friends, and it’s not possible to be more anymore because of long distance issues. I think he that he really just doesn’t want to put the effort into it because he wan’t the girl to do all the work.

How do I handle him when he calls me? Do I act aloofe and carefree, or tell him what I really think as to why things are over, his lazyness, and ensure he leaves me alone?

Move on. Tell him the truth, that you don’t want him calling you anymore because you’re not a hundred percent over him and you don’t want to play games or go through any unneccessary emtional post-breakup rollercoaster b.s. that we all do. Then don’t talk to him, ignore him if he keeps trying to contact you. Then a year from now after you’ve put some time past your break-up you’ll be able to see things with clarity then if you choose you can drop him a line and you’ll be able to be friends without any silly baggage.

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How do men handle breakups?
For us females, we like to call up a girlfriend and talk about our problems. After a breakup, we are so upset and depressed (usually). I was wondering how guys handle a breakup. What do guys do? I was told by a friend of mine that guys don’t talk to guys about emotional shit. Honest Answers would be appreciated.

My last 2 ex’s didn’t handle them well. One guy who was 26 or 27 at the time cried and called my friend who hooked up and he was so upset and then he called his other friend about the breakup.

My other ex got pissed. He thought I was a bitch he couldn’t believe I broke up with him. He was impossible to talk to at that point. He got his friend to text me and tell me to go back to my own country. Then he said he was sorry and wanted to marry me. Then he acted like it was my fault for the breakup (when I broke up with him) and then he begged me to get back together with him. Then I wouldn’t and he go drunk. That was all in the course of a week.

Guys have emotions to. They just don’t always want to show it or admit it.

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She didn’t fight, or cry, or get angry at all. She just said OK I understand. I am shocked.

Why did she handle our breakup so well?

Because she didnt like you in the first place. It may sound harsh, but as a woman, i am telling you the truth.

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Dude, the first thing to do …as a man…is to not get that hung up on anyone who dumps you anyway. You sound like a clingy, whiney spineless worm. There’s a whole sea full of fish out here. Get on with your life. If you don’t get your manhood on, you’ll be getting dumped a lot more. So MAN UP before you get involved with another chick.

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I own a home with my boyfriend and both our names are on the mortgage…things are not so good now. What happens if we break up and he gets nasty? I have a little boy and would rather move out then expose my son to my BF’s voilent, nasty outbursts but I worry about his locking us out and saying we abandoned the property. I would just want to sell it and go our seperate ways but I know he will react negatively and make my life Hell. We are in PA if that helps! Thank you in advance!!!

Go to the courts. PA has a common law marriage. If you have together owned the house more then 18 months together and combined bills you are common law married. Then you can get divorced and he will have to buy you out of the house or sell.

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I am going to real bad breakup situtation. My partner whom I know and grow to like in 3 weeks suddenly just does not want to anything with me. It includes chatting, calling or text messaging. It really hurts because my partner won’t give any reasons for the breakup. It hurts like heck. How do you handle a really bad breakup, which leaves you confused like me?
wow 17 answers in just 23 minutes. this is going to be a hard decision for me to choose. i wish i could choose everyones answers as the best anwers. i just deleted my partners number, but i havent got the guts to erase his YM ID. it hurts to see my partner online and ignoring me, but i just wanted to give it chance if he decides to talk to me, after all YM is free, and i have nothing to loose right.

By concentrating on your work and future, without this person.
You better yourself, take English lessons at night school for grammar and other worthy self improvement courses give you a better self image, and you meet other people at these courses, with whom you have things in common. You force yourself, to get washed, floss your teeth each morning, to go to work. Eat fresh vegetables (raw) and fruit (raw), take your daily vitamin tablet, walk during your lunch break, and when you get home read your mail, pay your bills, make a sensible meal, and do your homework. Or, call a male friend and have a chat or so. You’ll get over it eventually, and maybe find that you are a more mature and capable person.
You maybe worthier of a better girlfriend, next time round. Lots of Luck.

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oooh, it was bad. i was crying in nearly every single one of my classes the day after the break up. we got back together three months later. over a year later, we broke up again. it was horrible. i played a lot of guys, i dated his friend, and got my tongue pierced!

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He was always jealous and it was hard to have fun when your always on your guard so he wouldn’t get upset with me. That’s just one of the reasons. People can be nice but still have issues. I’m tired of it.

I am sorry to hear about that. I was in the same situation. My boyfriend was so controlling my phone would ring while i am in the toilet and he would rush to answer it and bring it to me.or if there is a message he would jump up to read it, don’t get me started on the parties and the emotional abuse like you will never live with someone else or find nobody better than me…anyway, i am done with him
what you need to do is get out of there while you can, i waisted 2 years of my life with him but i am a better woman and happy with another man for 2 and half years now and it’s the best thing that ever happened to me. when you break up with him, make sure you look your best and don’t mind what he says to you it’s his loss not yours.in then end he will get the message and just move on

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I started going out with a girl a few weeks ago just as high school started,(She’s my first GF) and now I need to break up with her. The reason why is, well, I see her as more of a friend than a girlfriend. And trust me, it’s very akward when you are walking your friend home and she stops and kisses you. I just want a way to break it off without hurting her feelings, and I want to stay friends with her. What should I do?

Be HONEST and tell her exactly how you feel. Remember that breaking up is hard and is never easy, so be patient and know that she is probably going to be hurt regardless of the fact that you still want to stay friends, but you must tell her how you feel and continue along. You cannot live your life for someone else, you must always live for you. She, in time, will come around, if she indeed gets mad, and will thank you for your honesty and kindness later in life.

Be gentle and as kind and caring as you can, offer her a shoulder to cry on if she needs one, but otherwise good luck!

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I’m experiencing my first heart break and, I was wondering what I should do when I have thoughts of my ex. Is it best to just think about him and allow myself to get sad, or should I try to distract my thoughts away from him? Thanks for any help!

Keep busy. Run, clean, read a book, watch a non chick flick movie, hang out with your friends, etc. It only hurts for a little bit…this too, passes. Hang in there.

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