Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I know that when people hurt them, they get even, but what if it was mutual? How do you handle it? How do you cope with it? Do you get obsessed with the issue (considering the fact that we’re obssesive) ? Scorpios have a hard time letting go, but as a guy’s point of view, do you cling to it or how do you get over it?
Our relationship was for about 6 months , broke off but we still care for each other. (if that helps)

Well, being a water sign as well (I’m a girl, though), I would imagine that the Scorpio guy would feel a little heartbroken at the end of any relationship…simply because the reason we (as a water sign) went out with that person is because plain and simply..we liked them enough to want a future with them! I doubt other scorpios just go out with girls or guys to "have some fun" or "see what it’s like," I mean, sure there’s an element of that in the decision to go out with them, but the main reason is because we want to be with this person. So, well, judging from just this, I would imagine that scorpios WOULD, yes, have a hard time letting go, I’ve heard that they usually want to try everything possible to glue back together the broken pieces and try to make the breakup go away…..and, that is, if they respected you enough as a person, if they’re the ones who decided the love died, then, well, I’d imagine they’d be a little heartless about it–and, no, not be clingy oR obsessive about it.

In the case that you loved this person and really were convinced they could have a future with you…I think the scorpio would be heartborken and, yes, would obsess about it endlessly and even after it was over would probably go over it in theri heads and try to see where they went wrong and maybe even try to place the blame on somebody….depends on the type of Scorpio…..

Now, I think, if this other person Cheated on them, and Tha’ts why the relationship is over, thennn the Scorpio would probably be ALL over the place trying to muster up ways to get sweet revenge, because of course, in their eyes, that person clearly deserves it!

I think if it was "mutual hurt," like you put it, the Scorpio would not really consider getting even; They would just accept the facts and go….
It’s only when they feel they’ve been treated unfairly that they would feel the need for revenge……

Cancers are revengeful, too…….or at least I am…….but usually I just suddenly see where the other person is coming from, and I put myself int heir shoes and, even though I still feel utterly disguested for what they did, I usually try to stick around and try to figure out what in hell made them act that way. Then! I find out that it wasn’t even about me………that person wasn’t even thinking about hurting me…it was just their own inferiority complexes and other times, just plainly not being aware of how they were hurting me. So, after that, I see revenge as a waste of time..and I figure, well revenge just makes us both end up feeling worse….so yeah, what’s the point. To me, revenge is all about succeeding above the limitations a person put on you right in front of their face. Sweeeet. I think the best revenge is success………and it’s the one that most inarguably would get the message across to the other person, in my opinion. And that’s whether they realize they hurt you or not.

So, to sum it all up, I’d say scorpios would obsess over most break-ups for the simple reason that all we water signs go out with somebody with the hopes that this will be the real thing..we don’t treat it lightly! And, now, about the subject of whether they would be revengeful about it or not……..that would only happen if they felt they had been slighted….if they felt that someone had treated them unjustly and had felt that they could get away with it, too. HELL NAW the scorpio will show them who’s boss. I don’t think that a scorpio would at least act out revenge unless the person clearly took advantage of them somehow. If the person went out with them, and they just weren’t feeling it, the scorpio would prob be a little hurt…………and they might even stalk the person when they’re with their other, new, boyfriend…but it’s only when they feel they have been clearly taken advantage of that they will act on feelings of revenge. In this case they would probably stalk for a bit and think about it a lot and then eventually be able to let go of this person……

Depends on how much they liked the person, really!

Good luck with your answers….A cancer snake with a leo moon and pluto in 1st house with scorpio ascendant (lol)

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My girlfriend broke up with me on friday. I haven’t been able to stop crying since then. I still love her. I have no idea what to do. Someone please help me!

it takes 2 to love. I dont know how long you have been together, but no break up is easy. That is just a "growing up " experience we go thru. U’re lucky u arent married with kids. If you did anything wrong to bring the break up, apologizing would be the first step. Tears would do u no good but get u depressed. Evaluate the situation and if u are sure she is not coming back, pick up the pieces and what is left of u and move on; trust me, there are a lot of better chances out there and in the very near future, u will look back at this incident and laugh and wonder why u had to cry.

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How did you carry on and what all did you do?

find someone new.

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We met on the internet 16 mos ago, we met in person 2 mos later, and 4 weeks after meeting I moved interstate in with him. He was my first boyfriend, I was only 18 and recovering from a major motor accident. Since moving down here a year ago I haven’t made any friends. Now I’m going to hospital for another operation in one weeks time and he’s been so difficult about everything I’ve made the decision I cannot see him during my hospital and recovery time as dealing with our problems I cannot handle as well as dealing with my own health. He’s told me if I do this it’s over with us, and ontop of having to go through the whole hospital experiance alone, things are going to be ‘over’ too…I’m not sure how I’m going to handle this. We’ve practically never stopped fighting since we moved in, hell., since we started talking, we’ve loved each other very much but it’s a constant roller coaster and I cannot handle it anymore…how the hell am i supposed to handle all this at once alone? ;(
Thanks jamiez…
It’s just difficult to make this decision because he’s generally more caring than most guys i know, and he’s always like obsessed with me, to the point he’s threatened suicide if i tried to leave him and though i don’t stay because of that i know we’ve loved each other. I guess it’s hard because I wonder, is it better to have something than nothing? I’ve never found it hard to have friends but since i met him, he has none and he discourages me from spending time with anyone but himself, so i’ve found it very difficult to have anyone supporting around me, and i’ve asked him to get help as he’s got social anxiety issues but he promises then doesn’t do it and i never thought he was like that! but lately he’s just making all sorts of promises to make me stay with him and i accept them just because i want things to be right, but then he doesn’t follow through.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through such tough times. Don’t feel alone though, there are many of us out there going through similar stuff.
All I can say now is that any relationship that gives you ultimatum is probably not a healthy one. Also, one is which you fight all of the time will probably not improve either. To me, it’s a sign that you are not that compatible, especially since it’s been that way from the begginning.
My advice to you would be to focus on your health first. It is the most important thing in your life…without you have nothing. then, when you are better focus on your career or school in which you can surely meet more people and hopefully gain friends.

good luck!!!

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I seriously can’t take it. We dated 4 years and she left me and now she’s happy and has tons of friends and shit and I have NOTHING. I just can’t handle it. I just can’t deal. It’s the most frustrating and infuriating thing I’ve ever gone through. WHAT DO I DO?

you shouldnt have dropped your friends for her thats a big mistake and just get over her, it takes time

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Just a few weeks ago, I was posing a question on here regarding my ex-husband’s super fast relationship and how it was affecting my children. They were told she was "family now" after dating 10 days, and she moved in after 12 days. They were showered with gifts from their "stepmom". They set a wedding date for 2 months away. Both she and my ex were VERY pushy about this whole "new family" concept- even going so far as buying my girls "Mom and Me" activity books to do with this woman.

So now they are broken up- 7 weeks after she moved in. She is slowly moving her things out, and is spending the night with her mother already. She came over last night to "say goodbye" to my children and ended up staying and reading them a bedtime story. The kids even told me that she was going to call them and read them books on speakerphone later on.

I’m NOT okay with that. I think it’s dragging out a relationship that is over. I think it is harmful emotionally to the kids.

Am I overreacting?

I agree with you. It IS confusing to the kids! Don’t let it continue!

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I’ve been going on a relationship with a woman for about 3 weeks. She has now left the country. She’s in her early 30s and I am mid 20s. In the beginning I was thinking that its just a "for fun" relationship because she’s leaving the country in few weeks anyway. But after a week or so, I got so in love with her and few days before she left the country, she broke up with me (because small differences in our thought process – and that she said, our relationship only for temporary anyway, so why should we pursue it). She told me not to contact her again, I said sorry so many times that I said I just want to be friends with her. But she declined, she said that she doesn’t want to be friends with someone that once close to her.

I emailed her after she left, just saying formalities like how r u and all.. she replied but when I started chatting with her nicely in instant messenger, after 10 minutes or so (she talk nicely in the first 10 minutes, saying all stuff unrelated to our relationship), she said.. didn’t we agree not to talk/contact with each other anymore?

I tried to convince her that I just want to be friends with her(honest!, its not like I’m going to see her in person again), but she refused, she said that she doesn’t think of me as an enemy but she just want to forget about me. She said, she’s going to block me from her instant messenger, and by that, I probably can’t contact her again except by email (which she can block too, if she wants).

I am crushed.. because I can’t move out from this city like her, everything just reminded me of her. I think of her very often especially during the nights and mornings, or when I pass by the restaurant/places we used to be together. I can’t not pass these places because these places near where I am currently living.

So my question is, should I emailed her next week/month or so if I want her to just be my friend. Just a friend.. its not like I can see her in person anyway.

Secondly, how do I forget about her? Right now, everything just reminds me of her. I also had the best sex ever with her.

Sorry for the long detail.. I’m just so desperate,confused, sad and heartbroken. Any own experiences is highly appreciated. It also seems that I have good memory which makes it hard for me to forget too… =(

please help me

to be honest, it’s surprising to me how attached you’ve grown to this woman in a very short 3 weeks. she seems to have treated you very rudely by wanting to forget about you. there are so many other women in the world, and right now you’re probably thinking that all you want is her, but you can have that kind of relationship and much more with someone else. i know right now it must seem impossible, but there really is other women out there that you can have better relationships with.

be with someone who will love you as much as you love them. forget about this girl and try to start dating again.

good luck

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which one

and if so why? thanks for keeping it real

Most of the time its Jerry Springer because that guy is really getting on my nerves at the moment. They were nice in the beggining but now they are total a holes.

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Guys, how do you handle a difficult breakup, would you rather not talk to her and have space for a while? Or would you want to talk everything over and gain closure before going your separate ways to remain on good terms?

Not talk to her and have space for awhile works best for me. Very important to put some distance between me and her. The closure is the defined by the space.

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I sense that I would be going through a break up soon.how would I handle if there’s going to be breakup. Especially when you are still inlove with the person..but feel he’s wanting to break up with you pretty soon.

Girl, move on, I know it is easier said than done, but you can not allow yourself to feel that miserable, shake it off and go. And plus, you are very young this is not the end of the world, give it some time and you will see you start seeing things in a very different way. Suck it up, and learn, next time take it easy, love yourself a little bit more and, hey, if he is not calling you back is his lost. Get that self esteem up and keep going on with your life that for what I see it’s just starting. I felt like that once and I thought it was never going to get better, now I’m totally cured and feel proud of myself for being able to get up and look for myself. Good luck, you can do it.

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