Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I read an article which said that most male internet daters start to develop feelings for a girl after exchanging e-mails and phone conversations. Why do you think a guy would develop feelings for a girl based on a picture and in what she has to say over e-mail & phone conversations?
Do you believe this?
What is your opinion on this?

BTW: I’m a girls and read this in Cosmo.

I cannot answer for all guys, only myself and the guys I know.

Typically, we approach people we are attracted to. This is why we go to bars… and on the internet ask for pictures and etc…

Talking on the phone and e-mails are not really for most guys. The phone is for getting things done like calling the fire department and the cops.

E-mail is for an introduction to get a date to go out and do things. Most pictures of the women are phoney ones any ways… or 50 lbs. lighter than the person sending the picture(s). Typically, we guys are told, "Oh, that was me back in 7th grade, high school or whenever.

Then, we see if the girls are who they say they are and if we can relate to them… if we are still attracked to the real person.

If we cannot connect, and are not compatable we leave. If we do not "connect" by the third date, it is over. If the girl never pays it is also over. Now a days, we believe that equal rights means equal responsibilities and commitment. Too many women/girls make a game of it and want to lead us on to as many freebies as they can get…

Hope this helps.

Good luck.

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i dont get it… wouldnt it make sense to keep going on if you like the girl or at least keep her around if you want somemore

…… or is it more than that and they get bored or something?…..guys are weird
okay sweetest girl…. ms.im betta then the world……. dont judge…… and im not a slut if thats what your makin me out to be….far from it

Well, it’s a guilt thing, or a selfish thing, maybe both. And plus they know they can find someone dumb enough to give it up.

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I know that when people hurt them, they get even, but what if it was mutual? How do you handle it? How do you cope with it? Do you get obsessed with the issue (considering the fact that we’re obssesive) ? Scorpios have a hard time letting go, but as a guy’s point of view, do you cling to it or how do you get over it?
Our relationship was for about 6 months , broke off but we still care for each other. (if that helps)

Well, being a water sign as well (I’m a girl, though), I would imagine that the Scorpio guy would feel a little heartbroken at the end of any relationship…simply because the reason we (as a water sign) went out with that person is because plain and simply..we liked them enough to want a future with them! I doubt other scorpios just go out with girls or guys to "have some fun" or "see what it’s like," I mean, sure there’s an element of that in the decision to go out with them, but the main reason is because we want to be with this person. So, well, judging from just this, I would imagine that scorpios WOULD, yes, have a hard time letting go, I’ve heard that they usually want to try everything possible to glue back together the broken pieces and try to make the breakup go away…..and, that is, if they respected you enough as a person, if they’re the ones who decided the love died, then, well, I’d imagine they’d be a little heartless about it–and, no, not be clingy oR obsessive about it.

In the case that you loved this person and really were convinced they could have a future with you…I think the scorpio would be heartborken and, yes, would obsess about it endlessly and even after it was over would probably go over it in theri heads and try to see where they went wrong and maybe even try to place the blame on somebody….depends on the type of Scorpio…..

Now, I think, if this other person Cheated on them, and Tha’ts why the relationship is over, thennn the Scorpio would probably be ALL over the place trying to muster up ways to get sweet revenge, because of course, in their eyes, that person clearly deserves it!

I think if it was "mutual hurt," like you put it, the Scorpio would not really consider getting even; They would just accept the facts and go….
It’s only when they feel they’ve been treated unfairly that they would feel the need for revenge……

Cancers are revengeful, too…….or at least I am…….but usually I just suddenly see where the other person is coming from, and I put myself int heir shoes and, even though I still feel utterly disguested for what they did, I usually try to stick around and try to figure out what in hell made them act that way. Then! I find out that it wasn’t even about me………that person wasn’t even thinking about hurting me…it was just their own inferiority complexes and other times, just plainly not being aware of how they were hurting me. So, after that, I see revenge as a waste of time..and I figure, well revenge just makes us both end up feeling worse….so yeah, what’s the point. To me, revenge is all about succeeding above the limitations a person put on you right in front of their face. Sweeeet. I think the best revenge is success………and it’s the one that most inarguably would get the message across to the other person, in my opinion. And that’s whether they realize they hurt you or not.

So, to sum it all up, I’d say scorpios would obsess over most break-ups for the simple reason that all we water signs go out with somebody with the hopes that this will be the real thing..we don’t treat it lightly! And, now, about the subject of whether they would be revengeful about it or not……..that would only happen if they felt they had been slighted….if they felt that someone had treated them unjustly and had felt that they could get away with it, too. HELL NAW the scorpio will show them who’s boss. I don’t think that a scorpio would at least act out revenge unless the person clearly took advantage of them somehow. If the person went out with them, and they just weren’t feeling it, the scorpio would prob be a little hurt…………and they might even stalk the person when they’re with their other, new, boyfriend…but it’s only when they feel they have been clearly taken advantage of that they will act on feelings of revenge. In this case they would probably stalk for a bit and think about it a lot and then eventually be able to let go of this person……

Depends on how much they liked the person, really!

Good luck with your answers….A cancer snake with a leo moon and pluto in 1st house with scorpio ascendant (lol)

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I’ve been going on a relationship with a woman for about 3 weeks. She has now left the country. She’s in her early 30s and I am mid 20s. In the beginning I was thinking that its just a "for fun" relationship because she’s leaving the country in few weeks anyway. But after a week or so, I got so in love with her and few days before she left the country, she broke up with me (because small differences in our thought process – and that she said, our relationship only for temporary anyway, so why should we pursue it). She told me not to contact her again, I said sorry so many times that I said I just want to be friends with her. But she declined, she said that she doesn’t want to be friends with someone that once close to her.

I emailed her after she left, just saying formalities like how r u and all.. she replied but when I started chatting with her nicely in instant messenger, after 10 minutes or so (she talk nicely in the first 10 minutes, saying all stuff unrelated to our relationship), she said.. didn’t we agree not to talk/contact with each other anymore?

I tried to convince her that I just want to be friends with her(honest!, its not like I’m going to see her in person again), but she refused, she said that she doesn’t think of me as an enemy but she just want to forget about me. She said, she’s going to block me from her instant messenger, and by that, I probably can’t contact her again except by email (which she can block too, if she wants).

I am crushed.. because I can’t move out from this city like her, everything just reminded me of her. I think of her very often especially during the nights and mornings, or when I pass by the restaurant/places we used to be together. I can’t not pass these places because these places near where I am currently living.

So my question is, should I emailed her next week/month or so if I want her to just be my friend. Just a friend.. its not like I can see her in person anyway.

Secondly, how do I forget about her? Right now, everything just reminds me of her. I also had the best sex ever with her.

Sorry for the long detail.. I’m just so desperate,confused, sad and heartbroken. Any own experiences is highly appreciated. It also seems that I have good memory which makes it hard for me to forget too… =(

please help me

to be honest, it’s surprising to me how attached you’ve grown to this woman in a very short 3 weeks. she seems to have treated you very rudely by wanting to forget about you. there are so many other women in the world, and right now you’re probably thinking that all you want is her, but you can have that kind of relationship and much more with someone else. i know right now it must seem impossible, but there really is other women out there that you can have better relationships with.

be with someone who will love you as much as you love them. forget about this girl and try to start dating again.

good luck

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Guys, how do you handle a difficult breakup, would you rather not talk to her and have space for a while? Or would you want to talk everything over and gain closure before going your separate ways to remain on good terms?

Not talk to her and have space for awhile works best for me. Very important to put some distance between me and her. The closure is the defined by the space.

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Guys out there. Would like to hear your opinions and experiences. Would you try to get back together with your girlfriend? A really sweet, hot, fun, funny, intelligent, kind, amazing in bed, but you broke up with her because there were some personality conflicts causing tension in the relationship. You really like her, 95% of the relationship is great, so you’re really mixed up about it. What would you do? Forget about it? Try to get back together? How?

Of course. It happens all the time. The fact that you ask this question means that you are either young or inexperienced. Have I had any major experiences with it… a couple.

I am assuming that this is a guy. What is important for me to know is who broke up with who? If the guy broke it off, then it is more possible for the guy to get back together with her.

If the girl broke it off, then it is more difficult.

It is important that if you want to get back together with her, that you ignore her.

You also have to be charming and go out and date and get other girls and become confident again.

In order to get "THE" girl, you have to be able to get all of them.

you can always resort to girl tactics… and date her acquaintances. This would have her come back to you really quick if done properly. But here you have to be tactical and suave or you end up looking really needy.

Honesty is yet another tactic. Be honest with her and think about her best interests.

No girl likes a needy guy. it is like the more you try in 90% of cases, the worse it gets.

Besides, quite often she is falling for someone else.

Women? aren’t they fine ethical upstanding people?

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How do men handle breakups?
For us females, we like to call up a girlfriend and talk about our problems. After a breakup, we are so upset and depressed (usually). I was wondering how guys handle a breakup. What do guys do? I was told by a friend of mine that guys don’t talk to guys about emotional shit. Honest Answers would be appreciated.

My last 2 ex’s didn’t handle them well. One guy who was 26 or 27 at the time cried and called my friend who hooked up and he was so upset and then he called his other friend about the breakup.

My other ex got pissed. He thought I was a bitch he couldn’t believe I broke up with him. He was impossible to talk to at that point. He got his friend to text me and tell me to go back to my own country. Then he said he was sorry and wanted to marry me. Then he acted like it was my fault for the breakup (when I broke up with him) and then he begged me to get back together with him. Then I wouldn’t and he go drunk. That was all in the course of a week.

Guys have emotions to. They just don’t always want to show it or admit it.

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OK so this guy broke up with me…now he wont leave me alone!!!!!!!!!I don’t know what to do any suggestions

Well what is he saying exactly? Is he saying mean stuff? Because if he is that just means he’s a douche. If he says stuff like he misses you that means he regrets his decision. If he keeps saying hi and what’s up then that means he’s annoying or he feels bad.

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Is that normal to be THINKING about relationships with other guys even though I am totally not over my ex boyfriend , like I know I am not ready for another relationship yet or nothing because I still care for my ex so much, but is that normal ok to be slightly thinking about things and flirting even tough I am not over him? Thanks!

Of course it is normal. This might actually help you get over your ex as well.

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