Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I’m dating this super sensitive guy who’s 8 years older than me (I’m still in college). He’s been hurt really badly before after a 6 year relationship that ended a year ago. He’s very sweet to me, but whenever he talks about his ex he gets teary eyed and it makes me feel like he still has feelings for her. Its been over 6 months that we’ve been seeing each other, and he sends me super mixed signals as to what he wants, and says he’s afraid to get hurt again. He says it’s not about his ex, but he feels like he’s not good enough for me and has to get his life together (moneywise). I told him I dont care about that. He’s introduced me to all his friends, but some nights he wont answer his phone, and others he will, but be very short and distant. When I tried to break up with him out of frustration he begged me not to and that he really cares about me. Which melted my heart because I really care for him too. He says I’m the only girl he’s seeing, but I see no sign of commitment.

He has his ex all over his mind, heart, veins, and who knows where else (hint). It was 6 years. That is a long time, and then all when down the toilet. It is not easy to just forget. And no matter whose fault was the break up, at the end, probably not just him, bit her as well got hurt very bad. So is normal to be afraid, some people are afraid of just dating again cause they could get hurt again.

I’m not sure if he is with you because he wants to forget, or because he really felt in love with you, or for sex… or a combination of everything. And it might be a mystery for you forever, as he might never tell you, or worse; he might don’t even know it himself.

One thing is for sure, he doesn’t want to get hurt again, and he needs someone to be there for him too. And right now, you are that person. If you love him, and care for him as you said, then you have a good chance to help him. As long he is not an asshole (I don’t know that, and probably is too early for you to really know), he will appreciate what you are doing, and if he is honest and serious about how much he claims he cares about you, then you two probably have a good future.

As per my own experience, the key is to be honest with each other. Nobody is Superman, he was hurt and needs help, you can give it to him, so is only up to you to decide what you want to do with the relation. But don’t stay just because you are sorry for him, cause it will sooner or later be worse.

If you decide to be with him, then you two need to sit down, and talk, long honest talk, many times, as many as needed and even more. Make him understand how you feel, and try to understand how he feels. Things might become much better sooner than you think.

And don’t look for commitment yet, he is not ready, that is for sure. First you need to let him see that you are there really for him, and that you will not leave him. It is not easy cause you are pretty much making a commitment while he hasn’t. But that what true love is, to give without asking anything in return.

Good luck.

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I have had two really bad breakups in the past, both long term relationships. I am really afraid of being hurt again. I am with a great guy now who is a better man than either of the other two but I am still afraid. I don’t want to make the same old mistakes, I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want to fail in another relationship. I know I love him and I want to be with him forever but ho do I get over having been hurt so badly before?

i went through the same thing with one now ex bf, i was with him for a year and the break up was terrible.
im also now with a guy that i truly love.
and at first i was terrified of messing up and and being hurt again.
after awhile i realised that the past relationship will ruin this one if i let the old relationship effect the one i have now
They are two different people, and he helped me realise that.
Just be open with you boyfriend
tell him you love him, but your scared.
he will understand and he can help you through it
it takes two to make a relationship work not just one
i hope this helps
and everything is good
=]

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who you know for 4 yrs now? You did everything with him, i mean everything.

u can never recover

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and not the way you would write him in a book?

Could you find a passion for a guy who was really genuine on the inside but who didn’t give you much action in the pants?

yeah i could, i dated a guy who was in a wheelchair, and everything didnt work properly down there, but i still loved and enjoyed his company.

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Im still a basic member on two sites that i like but im a little sceptical about trust and getting to know him from just a site. How did it go for full users?

Hi there,

Online dating services is getting more and more popular in the Internet world. In fact, many people worldwide, are members of various online dating services. Statistically, there are more than 40 million singles in the U.S. alone that have tried online dating sites to find romance.

While it is a great and fun way to find friends, dates, lovers and even marriage, there is risks. There are many scammers out there, that just want to steal your money or to get your email address. In my experience they go after new members… most dating sites show when you joined.

The most common trick is the visa and ticket scam. Basically it is a scam, where a attractive female from Russia, Ukraine or African countries like Ghana and Nigeria contacts a lonely foreign man. "She" quickly falls in love with him and shortly after announcing her "deep feelings" for him "she" begins to plan her travel to meet the guy in person.

Now the money issues start. She will now ask for help to get the necessary documents like visa and passport. When the guy agrees to that, she pretends to get it and next she will ask for money to ticket and travel expenses. She sends a copy of the visa (fake, of course) and the guy really has no other choice than to send more money.

Of course they will never meet. The scam will go on as long as the guy agrees to send money to her. She will come up with all kind of stories and reasons to send more money.

I got one of the craziest stories from a scammer myself… lol. I was scammed like this the first time I joined a dating site over 5 years ago and this is my own experience. It is a little embarrassing for me to admit, but I fell for it and it cost me some money. After that I did some research and got acquainted with some scammers on purpose just to see how they work.

Here are some warning signs to be aware of:

It’s too good to be true – You just signed up on a dating site and and haven’t even finished your profile and you get email from a very attractive woman.

The woman asks for your email address or ask to you write to her private email in the first letter.

She has posted her location on her profile to be from your region, but in her letter she tells you a story about why she is in Ghana or Nigeria now…

Any person asking for money, for whatever reason – Do not send money to anybody for any reason.

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I really thought this guy liked me…he was sending all the signals, but never asked me out. He sent me chocolate and a card on Valentine’s Day and it was then that I told him I liked him as more than a friend. He had previously been very awkward and shy but he started talking to me more after that and said he would be interested. Things died down a bit and I started to get over him, but I was really confused as to what he wanted since his signals were so mixed! I had a mutual friend ask him what he was planning to do with me. He told the friend that he doesn’t think relationships are worth it in high school because he thinks they will end quickly and he doesn’t have the time, but he really wants to stay friends and keep talking with me and doesn’t want me to think he’s a jerk. I was expecting that, but needless to say, I was still a little disappointed. I know his parents are very strict (he doesn’t have a cell phone or facebook) and make him take hard classes, so I totally understand why he wouldn’t be ready for a relationship. The thing is, I wasn’t looking for a relationship, just a date! But now that I know it’s a lost cause, I’m ready to move on. However, other people found out which is upsetting because I don’t want them to feel bad for me because I don’t feel bad myself. One person flat out said she felt bad for me, and I could sense it in another guy’s tone of voice. They both thought he liked me and felt bad that it wasn’t so. Anyways, the mutual friend told him to talk to me about it, but he never did. He probably still thinks I like him. Should I let it go? Or should I confront him about it? I think I want to talk to him about it because I need closure. We’re in high school.

.Better if both of you talk about this,rationally.Don’t involve "friends".

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The guy whose girlfriend slapped him over the head with a pan, gets his revenge.

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He just broke up( time off to think ) with me because he said that I dont trust. But I really do care about him. We went through so much in the past and I dont want to lose him again.

tell him how you feel

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I mean, I’m taller then him(I’m 6′2 and he’s 5′7), and I’m better looking and hotter then him.

Why did she dump me for that twat?

Arrogant much?

Beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes cleat to the bone.

Women are at least as interested in who someone is, not just what they look like

Luck

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been with bf on and off for almost 3 years (last 2 years solid-no breakups). we’ve had our issues due to me having PMDD (caused alot of our fights-now takes meds and see a counselor) and him being too used to being a bachelor. i’m 28 w/3 girls part-time that he loves very much and he’s 29 never been married or lived w/a gf.

we’ve been seeing a counselor for a couple of weeks now to help sort out the little hangups that are causing our arguments. he was totally agreeable to going. but in the sessions, he seems scared of having a "timeline" of me and the kids moving in w/him being put on him. the counselor asked him what he thought should happen if we didnt fight anymore-his anwers were to have the kids spend more time at his house during the day and eventually all of us spending the night there. but he stated that just b/c we were all spending the night didn’t mean we were going to move in right away.

little more below..
he told the counselor that he wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving in together and getting married. i do agree with him and think his heart is in the right place and i truly think the reason it’s moving so slow is b/c the arguments are setting us back (which he said they were) but a small part of me worries that he’s afraid to commit. what should i think?!!

he does help me get the kids from school each week and tells them he loves them all the time. we are carving pumpkins and going trick or treating with the kids tomorrow so he spends lots of time with them. i see him about every other weekend alone w/no kids. most of my stuff is at his house and i’ve had a key now for about 2 years….

He’s not afraid of commiting as he’s already commited a great deal of himself to the kids,i think he is just too used to living alone and scared of living with someone else,that’s all,give him time and have patience for when he’s ready,it’s a big adjustment for him,as he’s used to doing things his way,when he wants peace and time alone he’s got it,with a family there it is totally different for him,he obviously loves you and the children,but just be patient and let him adjust in his own way in his own time.

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