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Im still a basic member on two sites that i like but im a little sceptical about trust and getting to know him from just a site. How did it go for full users?

Hi there,

Online dating services is getting more and more popular in the Internet world. In fact, many people worldwide, are members of various online dating services. Statistically, there are more than 40 million singles in the U.S. alone that have tried online dating sites to find romance.

While it is a great and fun way to find friends, dates, lovers and even marriage, there is risks. There are many scammers out there, that just want to steal your money or to get your email address. In my experience they go after new members… most dating sites show when you joined.

The most common trick is the visa and ticket scam. Basically it is a scam, where a attractive female from Russia, Ukraine or African countries like Ghana and Nigeria contacts a lonely foreign man. "She" quickly falls in love with him and shortly after announcing her "deep feelings" for him "she" begins to plan her travel to meet the guy in person.

Now the money issues start. She will now ask for help to get the necessary documents like visa and passport. When the guy agrees to that, she pretends to get it and next she will ask for money to ticket and travel expenses. She sends a copy of the visa (fake, of course) and the guy really has no other choice than to send more money.

Of course they will never meet. The scam will go on as long as the guy agrees to send money to her. She will come up with all kind of stories and reasons to send more money.

I got one of the craziest stories from a scammer myself… lol. I was scammed like this the first time I joined a dating site over 5 years ago and this is my own experience. It is a little embarrassing for me to admit, but I fell for it and it cost me some money. After that I did some research and got acquainted with some scammers on purpose just to see how they work.

Here are some warning signs to be aware of:

It’s too good to be true – You just signed up on a dating site and and haven’t even finished your profile and you get email from a very attractive woman.

The woman asks for your email address or ask to you write to her private email in the first letter.

She has posted her location on her profile to be from your region, but in her letter she tells you a story about why she is in Ghana or Nigeria now…

Any person asking for money, for whatever reason – Do not send money to anybody for any reason.

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This amazing girl at school and also works with me to. I am shy and don’t know what to do. I know some of her interests and hobbies, but I am still stuck on what to do next. Any Help?? Advice?? Thanks

The only way you’re going to find out who she is, is to confront her. This is random, but this taught me a lesson. A friend of mine past away, exactly three months ago, to this date, out of no where. He was only sixteen. What he taught me, was life is short, you never know when it’s going to end as pessimistic as that sounds, so take tomorrow’s risks today. Muster up that courage, and walk up to her and just blurt whatever comes to mind. 99.9% of the time, they’ll think it’s cute and that’ll lead to more hanging out. Or just resort to cheap funny one liners off of Google.

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I’ve been talking to a girl for 2 months now. I really like her and want to be in a relationship with her, but she has been in an abusive relationship and is having trouble trusting me because of her ex. She’s 19 and they were married but she got an annulment in December. She hasn’t seen the guy since December and yet it’s still real hard on her. How do I help her out? What should I do?

well this will be the hardest thing you have ever tried to take on. i was in a very abusive relationship for 10 yrs and i have tons of issues that nobody but me can fix however my boyfriend has helped a lot in retraining me how to be in a relationship. you need to know that instead of talking she will probably have a fight or flight thing going for a while because thats how you learn to protect yourself. you need to be understanding. its very hard to break old habits but eventually you do. i still cower when someone raises their hand when we argue and its frusturating to my boyfriend because he thinks i group all men in a catergory of being abusers. i really didnt know how to love someone i thought love from a man was based on what i did for him. im still learning that lesson and so are most abused women. you need to be very aware of your words becasue any thing can bring old feelings flooding back and make her go into physco mode!! depending on how bad the abuse was you may suggest her talking to a professional or you be her sounding board let her vent to you about how scary and what its done to her for someone to have treated her like that. some men can handle that much damage and some cant jsut depends on how far your willing to go to help her overcome her issues. treat her with total respect. trust comes with time but i can promse she will always have doubts in her mind that will surface at times and cause problems. its a very hard road but hopefully she wasnt in it for very long and can overcome the mental part of it. anyways good luck and i hope it works out for y’all!!

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my friend has a date this weekend and she thinks her b/f wants to make out with her. and she thinks she sucks (and has never done it before). how can she learn before her date?

Part of the fun of life is to figure it out. If she and her b/f are ready to make out, then she doesn’t need to learn to do it before hand. She just needs to do what comes natural and not feel ashamed to talk about it with her b/f. If she can be honest and keep the communication open with him. They’ll figure out what works best for them. Sucking or not sucking, good or not good, changes alot between different couples.

Just reassure her – she’ll be fine!

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My girlfriend was recently in an abusive relationship that she came out of about 4 months ago. She hides her emotions (which was caused by her abuser), and I am not sure what to do about it. She says she does not want to talk about it cause it makes her cry, but I can’t help but say something whenever I see some of her scars or when I can tell she is not feeling good emotionally.

How to help her? Take it very slow and keep the pressure low.
Let her know that you think she’s worth the time and effort.
Be gentle with her, always.
Encourage her to seek help to deal with the past hurts.
Let her know she has your friendship, even if she can’t offer you anything more at this time.
Give her time to heal, time to grow in trust.
Be there for her, but don’t smother her.
Unlike the first poster, I don’t think she’s a lost cause. Thank you for caring enough to ask how you can help her.

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Prayer can make all the difference in the world if you can just believe. It truly worked for me. Best Wishes.

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Should she change her behavior? Her looks? what?
I meant keep him coming back for more and never looking away?

well u just give him a picture of urself naked and dont have sex with him so he gets really loco and then after i week , get in on baby!

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alternatively, how can I tell if I’m not?
In other words, how do I know if she really wants this relationship we just got into to work or if she is simply escaping loneliness.

does she still talk to her ex? and does she tell you about it if she does? it all depends if her last relationship is over and its permanent. if she calls you and tells you that she likes you, then you have nothing to worry about. take it as it comes.

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any tips on the type of attitude a girl should adopt or things she should do to keep her man interested?

wow i ask myslef this question all the time! Of course every guy is different so every guy likes different things but these are the types up things i have picked up along the way…
-Outgoing- Talk alot and dont be shy! walk around with your head up high. And make it seem like you are hard to get

-Dumb- guys like it when girls do kinda blak stares. or if a guy starts telling you something that is kinda hard to get just be like Whhhaattt???? like your really dumb. I have no clue why though!!

-Giggly- Laugh at everything the guy says! It makes the guy feel like he is funny and he loves it when a girl laughs!

-LOUD- be really loud, stand out from the crowd. Be the only one to raise your hand when a teacher asks a personal question… laugh really loud talk loud. But not to an obnoxious point just to let him no you matter!

well there are a few more that i have picked up but these are the main ones!!
I hope this helps. All girls are in your same boat! dont worry its totally normal to wonder this so if you get some crappy answers then screw them!!! hahaha
hope you get the guys!

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A really close friend(a girl) of mine was recently dumped by her heartless boyfriend of 2 years, after promising so much and even taking her virginity. She feels betrayed and everything, to finally put her trust in a boy and have that all broken. What can I do to ease her pain?
Girls: your advice would be helpful.

Just be her friend. Listen to everything she has to say and then take her out to get her mind off of him. Take her bowling or to the driving range to take out her frustrations. But don’t let her lock herself in her house and cry all the time! Remind her that she is beautiful and this isn’t her fault. Also realize that she may not want to hang out with your right now because you are a guy and she feels hurt by them!

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