Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I take a while to fall for a guy, but when I do I fall hard!! When I was only like 11, I met a boy who went out of his way to get me to like him, well it worked, & I was stuck on the same kid all the way up until I was 16, went through this horrible depression, & realized I had to move on. I met a guy a little after this, who I thought was the most impressive guy ever. I was determined that I was not interested, until he nurtured my scarred from the previous, relationship insecure self into falling in love with him. I’m 19 now and he’s ended it with me after a 2 1/2 year relationship. I’m going to change my number & erase him out of my life because I can feel myself coming down with another depression. Both guys were crazy about me, but I think I made them feel small, like they felt insecure dating me. with the 1st guy I didn’t try, but with the 2nd I did fight 2prove that we could work, but he didn’t agree!!! Why do you think this happens to me? & what can I do to ease the pain? =(

As they say….Time heals all wounds

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After a long on off relationship of 11 years and four children later and he leaves you for someone else what is the best way to deal with the emptiness and loneliness. When does the pain finally stop?

Surround yourself with family and friends. Don’t isolate. Take one day at a time. Get involve with your kids activities. Keep busy, take the kids to park, mall, etc. Do something relaxing for yourself, a new hairdo, a spa treatment. I know it hurts now, but the pain will stop. Hang in there.

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I want guys to answer this?

What do you do after a break up to feel better?

I really do empathise with a break-up situation, as I have been through three break-ups in my lifetime, and that includes one really major break-up with someone whom I was going with for at least three years. I guess I can share my thoughts from a point of view of someone whose tried various things.

The first thing to acknowledge is, there really isn’t going to be a perfect plan. The harder I tried to forget or even forgive, the harder it got. So I decided that I won’t try too hard. First things first, don’t try too hard, and don’t beat yourself up for nothing. What’s past should remain in the past, so just stay Cool! (capital "C").

Cruise Along: I say cruise along because there are two images that come to mind. One is Tom Cruise: hey, the guy is cool and if anyone were to break up with him, he’ll just remain cool. The next thing is, don’t you get this serene feeling when you imagine a yacht sailing through the wind in a strong evening breeze, crusing towards the sunset! That’s right, just cruise along in life and enjoy it. Just Cruise along!

Do what you love to do: I guess it varies from guy to guy; but, we’re talking about really fun things that we can enjoy; chilling out at the beach; dining out with friends; snorkling; diving; take short vacations (if you don’t want a long holiday); play tennis; soccer? well, these are things I did to keep me focussed on who’s important to me and folks who were just willing to be there without asking me too many questions!

There are going to be down and lonely days, when you may be tempted to feel sorry for yourself! Well, my take on this is, don’t be too quick to shrug it off; just use it as a trigger to jumpstart your memory of good and happy stuff that happened, and which we should always remember and feel good about.

Then, get back in the game, a better person! as I am sure you will.

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*Please! rude, unhelpful comments not needed.

6 mos. pregnant and seeking divorce. Husband deported but calls many times a day. We’ve talked about breaking up before but he’s the type that doesn’t understand ‘no’. I feel guilty for not answering the phone and feel obligated to at least let him know that baby is okay. I’m totally stressed and in deep depression. Seeing therapist and psychiatrist. One says avoid calls and try to keep myself stressfree,and to make a decision when I am comfortable. The other says avoiding the calls is a form of running away and every week she asks me if I have decided what I am going to say. There is some "caring" left, but no LOVE. I can’t think of a single reason to stay with this person (I’m still trying to work with therapist to see why I didn’t realize this b4 preg…) How can I cope without feeling guilty?? Have decided to divorce because I can not deal with his mental illness(I don’t want to elaborate).

if hes mentally ill theen he doesn’t need to be around th baby 24/7. it seems as if hes putting you through unnecessary drama. f you’ve already tried to explain to him many of time how you feel and that you no longer want to be married then maybe something is wrong with him. you’re doing what best for your family, you and your baby.

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