How can I contest a divorce in California? How can I save my marriage?
Sunday, May 2nd, 2010My wife and I have be married for about a year and a half. We’ve had alot of problems during that time. We broken up with each other too many times. It has taken me losing her to relize that she was the best thing that ever happened to me. I’ve tried everything I know to try and win her back. But she dosn’et belive anyhign I tell her. I didn’t treat her like I should have, she tried so hard to make it work for us. I didn’t hit her but I know I made her hurt with the stuff I would say to her. But now I really want to make this work. But she has already started the papperwork for divorceing me. I haven’t been served yet, but I know its coming soon. I really don’t want this divorce. I want to contest it, but I don’t know if that would do any good. What are my options if I do, if I contest ,can I ask the judge to order some kind of counselor to help us with our problems. Or is there anything else I can do to try and save our marriage. Thanks for any advice
Jack, you can not force someone to stay married to you if they no longer wish to be. It sounds like you are at the point of no return with this relationship, and you will just have to accept the fact that it’s over. It also sounds like the two of you are miserable together, and would fare much better without each other. It is a shame that it took you this long to realize what you had when it’s too late to do anything about it, but it is the way that things went for you both. If papers are filed, and you are served, contesting has no point to it. It will be a waste of time and emotions and money. Cut your losses short, let the two of you heal and go on with your lives. You really were not meant for each other. I am sorry if this sounds unkind, but it’s truth. Don’t lie to yourself, let it go, learn from your mistakes, and don’t repeat them. Hope this helps.
