Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

It was a bad break-up after 7 years together, and I don’t want any contact with that person. We have been apart for 4 years. Every few years my ex intrudes on my life – sometimes with frivolous lawsuits, sometimes leaving tearful messages. The ex was a very troubled, sometimes abusive person with drug problems. I usually ignore the messages (except to call back and ask to be left alone), but it gets me nowhere. The ex contacted me recently (another VM), and tearfully requested closure. This person thinks that closure will help them be a better person. I have moved on and I’m tired of being bothered. What to do?
I have changed my number many times. Changed all contact info, but this person persists to bother me, or call my family.

Get a lawyer to write him a letter. Have him tell your ex that you don’t want any contact from him/her at all in the future by any means possible and that you have had enough "closure" from him/her. And that if there is any further contact from them, that you will ask for a restraining order and see about having them charged criminally for harassment. And THAT will be their closure!

That should take care of it. By the way, if you change your number many times, how are they getting it? Are they secretly in contact with a member of your family? And is your number unlisted? You should look into that. You could always set a canary trap.

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all into to me until he gets over her. We only went out for 2 months. I was in love with him. I saw him today to get my stuff back and he basically said if i were by his side he could eventually forget about her. I want to be with him but then i realize that if we do get back together than we will have trust issues. What should i do.

2 months in teen years is a lifetime. However, you will see that as you become more mature it takes longer than 2 months to really develop a loving trusting relationship. Move on and enjoy dating. Bing tied down too young in life takes a lot of the fun out of life. Besides, it sounds like this guy wants his cake and you. He may want her, can’t have her, so he’s "settling" for you. Don’t be used. Move on.

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We hang out like once in like three weeks.

easy, "i miss you".

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my bf broke up with me because we have a pattern of breaking up and getting back together. He told me he thinking logically and not by his emotions. He said i don’t feel secure with you and I’m afraid. One day you will get pissed off and leave me. He said I’m not ever being left again (his ex girl left him, and hurt him badly) He said he is afraid of me and can’t handle all of this. I just cried and I tried to stay with him. He said no. What should i do? ??

Just leave him alone for a few days if you want him back. In my opinion I wouldn’t want him back. If you two keep breaking up and getting back together then I don’t really think you’re the greatest couple. Maybe it just wasn’t meant to be between you two. But if you really want him back just leave him alone for a few days. Then he might realize what he’s done and come back to you.

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We broke up 4 days ago under mutual agreement. Ever since then the pain was so unbearable and I find it hard to breath. I talked to my ex saying I want to see him, he agreed. Now we still see each other everyday, actually I still live in his house everyday for the past 2 days. But we are together only as friends. Before we lived together, so now when I can’t see him, I feel absolutely painful to the extent I can’t stand it. But when I live in his house and think we are no longer bf/gf, I still feel very painful although less. I don’t know how to ease the pain. Should I just be strong and cut all the ties or should I still be friends with him to make the breakup easier, but i don’t know if it can help or make it harder for me.

I’ve been in a similar situation, and trust me, the more time you spend together now, the more it will hurt and make it harder for you to recover. You need to definitely cut ties for now, and then maybe in a few months time make contact again and see how it goes. I cut ties with my ex and now it’s been much easier to move on and be happy again. Time heals all wounds.

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I’m 17 so of course I’m going to be horny, but my boyfriend broke up with me and I’m not into hook ups or anything. Its been 5 weeks since we broke up and I haven’t done anything with another guy. I’m still a virgin and want to stay one until marriage. I miss my boyfriend and wish we could go back to fooling around again. mainly for guy, if ur ex girlfriend wanted to hook up and you were single, would you?

So masturbate. Geez…take care of it yourself dear.

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well my girl and i were dating for over a year and we had a falling out. we realized we loved each other too much to be apart. she is now sayin that since i broke her heart i need to do something special for her for her missed birthday. any suggestions out there? i would like opionions from both sexes

Dear friend Mr. Ross,
Be good friends and grow up to the age of maturity to accept each other as life partners in a marriage relationship to create a family bearing children into the generations of mankind on the earth.

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. (Holy Bible Colossians 3:20)

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. (Holy Bible 1 Corinthians 7:2)

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She hasn’t got many close friends as her best friend died suddenly last year. She’s a relatively quiet girl and doesnt like sharing her feelings. I want to help!

It’s possible that they weren’t friends first!! If they learn to Love with their Hearts, there won’t be any pain. Your Heart won’t lie or let you down. She just has to know when it’s talking to her and when it’s just her imagination telling her lies. Good Luck!

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:’( it was long distance and I couldnt handle it and he’d been acting distant and funny so I broke up with him but now I miss him and I’m lonely and I want him back :’( but I can’t have him coz he’s gone what should I do?

remember why you broke up with him. could you handle it now?
you should move one and let him move one. if i was you i’d go out with my friends and try to meet someone new. don’t rush into anything though: rebound relationships often aren’t for the best.
i know it is hard letting go of someone but you broke up with him for a reason and i think its best if both of you moved on.
good luck =)

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Kendall from P&S who is absolutely the hottest person I have ever seen?
Do I have a chance with her or is she outta my league?

Outta your league. And it’s through the internet, so that doesn’t really help your chances.

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