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Hi, my girlfriend broke up with me a week and a half ago after weve been together for four months. She since her exams started she hasnt felt we connected anymore like we used to even a few weeks before the exams. She said that she was maybe even using the exams as an excuse not to to do somefin wif me she was that confused. She said it was the hardest thing she ever done in her life and has been crying for ages about it and was almost crying on the day, her eyes filled up. I told her I cared a lot about her and she said she cared about me and wants to be friends but she doesnt no how that would work since we never were friends. I am her first bf and believe that we drifted apart because we didnt spend enough time alone as a couple.And think she made a rushed decision because of exams and stress, Im disappointed she didnt try to make it work as well. Anyway i respected her decision and decided maybe she needs space so I havent contacted her since. I didnt want to wait around for her and have been trying to get on with life. my friends girlfriend is actually one of her friends but is annoied at her and shocked for breaking up with me and nt trying to make it work so shes not going out of her way to talk to her. The problem I have is today I found out that my ex is actually now going out with another guy. I was surprised it hurt me as much as it did, and have been so confused and shocked now at hearing this. my friend seen her bebo and someguy is now her other half and have been sending flirty comments. my friends girlfriend then asked her and my ex says she is going out with someone. Now I really am confused and don’t get how she could go out with someon1 so soon. Im getting a hole pile of thoughts going through my head. Im now getting the impressions she cheated on me for him and that she never did care about me?:s. she was very upset about breaking up with me and I didnt think she would b able to date again for a while. she is also going to france in half a month for a month. she is still in the middle of the exams which end next week that she needs 3As for. I just dont get it and am so confused. She def didnt seem to be the sort of girl that would cheat r do something like that so quickly saying I am her first boyfriend and she was extremely upset and she said that she cared about me. my mums even surprised :s im just so confused right now. she hasnt contacted me i avent contacted her I signed in msn once nd she went straight off. she also put pics of us up together on bebo the day after the breakup from the night b4 and kept her status the same:S.im so confused.would she be trying to make me jealous r anything?i get the impression now she never cared about me, cheated on me, lied to me about the break up and everything else and she didnt seem to be that sort of person to do that :S.ive been trying to move on and was prepared for this but not so soon and it did hurt more than I thought.is this normal for girls to do:S
ive also been hearing that she has been doing terrible in her A levels and getting realy upset, which also hurts me cause I still care about her. my friends girlfriend that is friends with her basically says my ex is turning into a waster. I dont get it she just seems to have completely turned her life upside down.

she was probably really confused and possibly felt that you didn’t care enough about her…maybe. she probably had other stuff going on in her life, did you ever ask her what was wrong? you need to send her an email/txt/voicemail telling her she is a good person and you miss her and you hope she’s doing alright. because this way she would know you still care about her, she’s feels happier, she might realize she shouldnt have broke up with you and also she would think about you(thou she probably does). good luck!

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Can’t get her to call me back. I called twice then gave up, I am giving up. She only texts me back. Why do some girls do this? Cowardice? Don’t want to fight? Really angry? Why can’t people have the decency to call back after all those times together? Are the replies by text a good sign though?

for some, especially women , it is easier to have a clean break and walk away then to drag it out

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He tried to say he may want to reduce the frequency. How should I understand it. He told me to sleep on it and let him know if I am open to him.
He had been seeing me 3x a week gave me xmas present on new year’s and spent all of new year’s day with me with no conflict – still had good sex. So he wasn’t even acting uninterested. I was surprised. On the call he said, we could go for a run together etc. When I asked if he was calling to say we should be friends. He said no (b/c he has a sexual attraction) and implied that is even better. Wow. I thought he liked me more than I did. He was making all the plans/efforts and even was planning a vacation with me which was his idea. This happened the day before our talk. How could he switch so fast?
The truth is he wasn’t perfect for me but since he made me feel good with all his compliments I went along with it. The sex was good though I have to admit. He was a giver in that regard. Maybe that’s all he is good for huh? He contacted me on Saturday, day after call, to tell me that he would have enjoyed getting to know other sides of me and also he would def miss the sex?!
I plan to start seeing other people ASAP. I would consider maybe sex one more time or as a option b/c I don’t have strong feelings for him and at least he was a giver when we had sex. Bad idea?

it means he wants to let you down slowly and/or he wants to keep his options open and still have you around.. move on.. don’t waste your time

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hi guys i was just wondering, my bf(well its complicated for the past couple of weeks) have been together for 2 years. things in both our lives hae changed. i dont want to looses he for good but were meeeting sunday to talk.
Basically i wan t to know what are the tell tale signs that a long tem boyfriend has fallen out of love with you…. lol thanks guys id really appreciate the objectivity!! xx

Well I’m no expert on this, but as a guy who has been dating someone for almost as long I can definately let you know of somethings I would personally do if I ever lost interest. The way your and his lives have changed definately can have something to do with it all. Especially if he’s gotten a job or you have or you’ve been busy or have gone through something like that. Basically you need to look at the way he is towards you in comparison when you first dated or were in the "puppy lovey dovey” stage. Is he as kind and nurturing towards you as he used to be? If he acts like he dosn’t really care as much as he used to or is not as sensitive to your feelings that might be something to look out for.

Does he do things for you he would have done a while back? this can also tell you how much he cares about you now, is he willing to do anything to satisfy you and make you happy like he used to? Maybe he’s taken the approach to make you feel neglected in order for you to break up with him, seeing as how this has a lot less hassle and guilt for a guy. Or does it seem like you guys fight a lot over nothing, and when your not arguing your conversations are dull and well…forced. How happy you are now and how happy you were once upon a time can tell you a lot.

Although these aren’t hard facts that should be applied to everything they could have something to do with it. But please don’t take these as an exact science. Sometimes all of this could be accidental, especially something really big is happening or has happened in his life, he might not even realize he’s doing it! Basically the ONLY way to for sure know whats going on in his head is to ask! You need to have a nice long talk about your relationship and how you both feel about it, don’t be mean or rude or place any blame on him. Try to be polite and to express yourself as well so that he’ll feel safe and feel it’s safe for him to express himself to you.

But remember, hope for the best but prepare for the best, and keep in mind that no relationship is easy and they will all have bumps, how many bumps you have in a relationship isn’t whats important, whats important is how you handle them and get through them all! I hope I was helpful, and I wish the best for you and your boyfriend!

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I’ve mostly been in serious longterm relationships with strong emotional connections. I’m very passionate and have a lot of love to give my gfs. I’ve mostly ended my past relationships Except my Last one which was kinda forced upon me. Sadly enough she was the one who I had the strongest attraction to, I never got tired of seeing her face and I loved her soo much. Now I feel so empty, numb, emotional, and then a lot of hurt inside, specially betrayed. Like Loving too much = Hurting so much. We broke up a while ago, but I’m still "scarred" by the situation.
I used to be optimistic about love, now i’m not. I’ve fallen in love 3-4 times, so love is fleeting. I’m so hurt by her that I find it really hard to trust women in general and feel like it’s getting in my way of dating again. Like I see the big picture and ask "what’s the point?" if I fall in love agian, only to be hurt again…So I’m just depressed and bitter, and don’t know how to alleviate this.
And No I don’t like 1 night stands or short term gf to ease my pain. I’m not motivated to date again. When I fall for someone I put all my eggs in 1 basket. But I don’t know if I can do that anymore. How can I overcome these feelings so I can move On with my life ?? It’s effecting my outlook

give it time
develop a hobby that will take your mind off it,
preverably something theraputical like writing in a journal or painting or other forms of expressing yourself. these kinds of hobbies are very, they help you maintain a healthy psychological state.
eventually you’ll meet someone and fall for them again.
whatever happens then will happen.
let life unfold itself.

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I take a while to fall for a guy, but when I do I fall hard!! When I was only like 11, I met a boy who went out of his way to get me to like him, well it worked, & I was stuck on the same kid all the way up until I was 16, went through this horrible depression, & realized I had to move on. I met a guy a little after this, who I thought was the most impressive guy ever. I was determined that I was not interested, until he nurtured my scarred from the previous, relationship insecure self into falling in love with him. I’m 19 now and he’s ended it with me after a 2 1/2 year relationship. I’m going to change my number & erase him out of my life because I can feel myself coming down with another depression. Both guys were crazy about me, but I think I made them feel small, like they felt insecure dating me. with the 1st guy I didn’t try, but with the 2nd I did fight 2prove that we could work, but he didn’t agree!!! Why do you think this happens to me? & what can I do to ease the pain? =(

As they say….Time heals all wounds

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It’s been over 2 weeks, and I’m still having a hard time getting over my ex, especially since eveytime i’m close to forgetting about him, he starts small talk on msn. (and since he found a new gf less than two weeks after we broke up) I want to move on and stop thinking about him, but it’s so hard. He was my first boyfriend, and I gave him everything. We were together for 10 months. I loved him more than i ever thought it was possible to love someone. All I want is another guy to help ease the pain of being alone, someone I can talk to and slowly build a relationship with. I miss being attached to someone. Does anyone have any advice for moving on from such a messy, hurtful break-up? My friends aren’t helping…they all promise to take me out for a good time, but then never answer my calls. I dont know what to do anymore.

well, u have to listen to boyz II men, and you should contact me =)

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It seems the Christians I meet have met Christ when there has been hardship like recovering from alcohol, drugs divorce and I was wondering exactly why, why if you didnt need Christ than all of a sudden you clung to him, and if it helped you or made life worse was the decision to follow Jesus yours or when you were hurting was he introduced upon you by someone else as the way to ease the pain in your heart.

The opposite happened to me i lost my faith at a time of hardship. i guess life tends to throw us in certain directions. I like to think there is some sort of reasoning behind everything. but personally religion does feel like it acts as a band aid. i try to put my faith in friends and family they dont let u down.

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A really close friend(a girl) of mine was recently dumped by her heartless boyfriend of 2 years, after promising so much and even taking her virginity. She feels betrayed and everything, to finally put her trust in a boy and have that all broken. What can I do to ease her pain?
Girls: your advice would be helpful.

Just be her friend. Listen to everything she has to say and then take her out to get her mind off of him. Take her bowling or to the driving range to take out her frustrations. But don’t let her lock herself in her house and cry all the time! Remind her that she is beautiful and this isn’t her fault. Also realize that she may not want to hang out with your right now because you are a guy and she feels hurt by them!

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