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I broke up with my bf of 9 years today. How does one recover from it?

Eat ice cream, watch sad movies, be depressed for an unknown amount of time and someday it ends up ok. just remember that the things that happend when you were ten arent the most important things, with time everything changes and feelings lessen. you’ll be ok.

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Ha ohh yeah it definitely is..you need closure in order for you to move on or it wont get you anywhere.

Good luck!

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Do you think closure is a necessary part of getting over a past relationship?
My ex and I were involved with each other on and off for about 5 years. We broke up 4 weeks ago, but haven’t talked since, and never discussed why we broke up. It’s hard for me to get over him because of this. How do I go about finding closure?

I think getting over the person is a lot faster if you have some kind of closure. It doesn’t have to be a big knock down drag out thing…it could be something as simple as writing a letter to him to tell him how you feel. You don’t even have to mail it…sometimes it helps to just get it out on paper.

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well me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 weeks and i have a feeling she wants to break up. we hung out alot and had a great time and yesterday i was going to hang out with her but she was with our friends and said she couldnt and same as today and tommorrow im good friends with them too… it takes her alot longer to txt back. and idk it just seems like she will.

could anyone give me some other signs of a breakup.. your past expeiences plz

I agree with the first answer.

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A couple months ago my bf and I had the "marriage talk." We’re different religions and he was worried there would be too many differences (even though we’ve been together 2 yrs and it’s never once been an issue). We ended up breaking up for no real reason 2 months ago after a completely unrelated fight.

He is out of town on business for the summer and calls me every day. He has been thinking about marriage again and wants to marry me but wants me to stop going to my church. I told him that’s asking too much of me. (Esp since he was fine w/ it when we started dating.)

I love him and want to be with him, but this is the second time in 2 years of dating that we have broken up. I know a lot of people who have taken a break or two before getting married, but is that a bad sign? (I ended things the first time, 2 years ago, for purely immature reasons, he ended things this time)
His mom broke up with her fiance last summer the day before their wedding. They got married a couple days later, with just a couple witnesses, and were divorced 6 months later. I don’t want that to be us.
We’re the same religion, that’s what’s weird. He has suddenly become very bitter about it.

We brokeup a couple of months before the wedding and then got back together and the marriage has been rocky the whole time.
Wish we had not gotten married

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if a girl that you broke up with a few months ago is driving you crazy acting like she still has feelings for you, and possibly wants to get back together, how do you go about finding out for sure without asking her outright and sounding desperate/obsessive/clingy/whatever?

(1) think about why you broke up with the girl.

(2) weigh your options whether or not the original reason is enough for you to avoid the person.

(3) acting crazy in love can’t be good – if you were acting up, would she give you the time of day, or is this kind of behavior deserving of a relationship or of your time even?

(4) if you are interested in finding out whether the person really likes you or something, the operative phrase is that "you are (still) interested" and if you are, then the first 3 items above are nullified.

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Like separating from a long-term relationship, but then agreeing to get back together a couple of years down the line… And these people are in their 20s…
Even if these two love each other and been through traumatic life experiences, what are the odds they’ll meet someone new and forget about the "pact"? Basically move on… The underlying problem is trust, and that they possibly met each other too young.

Lets see you sound like me… Imo id say no. Im sure within years time the 2 of you will grow apart and move on. But if nothing works now in the relationship why would it work later? Just a thought..

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my bf broke up with me because we have a pattern of breaking up and getting back together. He told me he thinking logically and not by his emotions. He said i don’t feel secure with you and I’m afraid. One day you will get pissed off and leave me. He said I’m not ever being left again (his ex girl left him, and hurt him badly) He said he is afraid of me and can’t handle all of this. I just cried and I tried to stay with him. He said no. What should i do? ??

Just leave him alone for a few days if you want him back. In my opinion I wouldn’t want him back. If you two keep breaking up and getting back together then I don’t really think you’re the greatest couple. Maybe it just wasn’t meant to be between you two. But if you really want him back just leave him alone for a few days. Then he might realize what he’s done and come back to you.

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This girl i like keeps breaking up and getting back together with her boyfriend?
This girl that I met around this time last year i liked her a lot and we were friends for a while…i wanted to ask her out until one day i checked her facebook to find to my surprise that her relationship status said "in a relationship" this was n December. She broke up with him in february and got back with him in march. She broke up with him again at the end of the month…and then got back with him again. So I was just wondering…what am i supposed to do? By the way she is 16 almost 17 if that helps…and Im 18. Shes a senior in high school and im a college freshmen

Man…you’re in college! Don’t even bother with her. She’d probably be constantly breaking up with you too if you tried to maintain a relationship. I’m not sure of all the aspects of your situation but it sounds like this girl can’t make up her mind. You gotta’ leave her be.

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Isn’t there a name or a term for this?
When a couple are constantly breaking up and getting back together.
Does any one know of any good websites, forums, or blogs I can read up about this problem I know that most couples that do this have some type of character flaw
Thank you all in advance for your suggestions

maybe this isn’t so common of a problem I’m still having trouble finding information on this. my wife and I always end up breaking up every 2 years, then after about 8 months of seperation we manage to resovle our problems and get back together..just trying to find as much information I can thank you all again for your suggestions

The term is called a "doomed relationship." This is never…ever…a good sign that the relationship will last.

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