Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I broke up with my boyfriend according to him he was totally in love right just before he broke up with me, its been only three weeks and on his myspace says that he’s "starting to enjoy himself again" I still dealing with the break up pretty bad and not able to move on yet. How could he move on so fast?? any ideas?? you think he wrote that on his myspace just for me to read it and give the impression he’s having lots of fun?? please help

I can only speak for myself but for me it is tough.

I returned from Vietnam in 1970. The woman I left, the woman I loved had moved on while I was ducking bullets and dodging mortar rounds. Seldom does a day pass that I don’t think of her. I mostly wonder if she is happy. I hope so, I let her go because I loved her, not because I was angry. Perhaps if I had been angry it would have been easier. I did marry and I have children but I also have the demons that was that relationship. I am now approaching the end of my life and still those demons haunt me. It would not surprise me if she was the last thing I think of in this life.

You may want to move on in spite of the situation; not to hurt him but maybe to help yourself. You are the only one who can make that decision. I hope you can rid yourself of the demons, they are very heavy baggage and they will always be there. It is a matter of whether you carry them with you of if you can store them safely away in the attic of your memories.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and 20 days.. until yesterday.
He broke up with me and left me stranded.
He practically ripped my heart out and threw it on the floor,
and stomped on it a thousand times.
I just.. want to know how to recover because I can’t stop myself from crying.
I still love him, but I guess he doesn’t love me..
So how do you recover from a break up?
I just want the tears to stop..

Take your mind off the guy. Involve yourself in things that will keep you busy. Now is the time to focus on the things you would like to do but did not have the time to do before. In short, move on.

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we live in the same house.i kiss n hug intimately already to her.still shes looking for somebody not me,coz shes confused.help me.

The two of you need to get away from each other. One of you needs to move out so that you have some time apart to get over each other.

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I guess it is normal to think of the ex after break up, but how long can you tolerate that? Like, if he still keep telling you bout how she cheated on him, and showing you her emails and his emails to her……………… =’(

i think it has to do with the person and how close you were to that person.

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Oh my gosh!!! I was in a relationship with my "best friend" for almost 12 years.And then he decided he didnt want me in his life anymore..So the pain hurt badly and it took me almost 2 years to get over it. couldnt sleep ,eat was depressed all the time..for me it was BAD!! ..I do however think about him every now and then.but thats normal. but you do have to move on and enjoy your life.before you know it that special someone will come into your life and sweep you off your feet.

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I just broke up with my bf recently. We have been together for almost 5 years. But, now he doesnt love me anymore. I am extremely hurt. I dont know what to do and how to recover.

I agree with the first answer…Now is time for you to move on with your life…My advice is to get out with some friends and or make new friends and have fun..Trust me, your BF is not sitting at home thinking about you!!! Before you know you will have a new BF in your life…Just take your time.

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ok, we were together for 8 months and during those 8 months we had broken up 4 times… and she decided to break up those 4 times, the 3 time really hurt and the last one is kicking in and by kicking in i mean that music, smells, places ect. remind me of her… what can i do to ease the pain a little? help me!

the best thing to do is try your best not to think about her. that sounds silly i know, because EVERYTHING around you reminds you of her.

maybe instead of listening to country music which maybe she loved, you could try listening to rock music for a change. or getting out and hanging with your guy friends, and trying to warm up to a new girl.

she kept hurting you it seems, so it might be best to push her out of your mind and don’t let her know you miss her. Act like you’re having the time of your life without her.

You won’t get over her in a day. Like i told my friend who was with this one boy on and off for 2 years….. it gets easier and easier everyday. Just take it one day at a time. Before you know it, you won’t even remember why you made such a big deal about what’s-his-name. (or in your case what’s-her-name).

good luck and stay strong

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My boyfriend and I broke up recently. He still wanted me around to be his friend but I refused – too painful being around him knowing that I’ve been demoted from the love of his life to someone he randomly messages when he feels like it.

To stop this from happening, I enforced no contact and I haven’t heard from him since, that was over 2 weeks ago. I am so lonely and miserable and desperate and I’m fighting the urge to contact him.

I know that keeping busy will make me feel better, but now the holidays are here and I’m not working I’m going crazy with grief. My family live interstate and my friends are on holidays. Suggestions?
Yes I do have a dog and volunteer at the animal shelter

YOU have the power in you!
you have proven that you have some inner strength. Taking that stand was an intelligent thing to do.
Please continue to fight this urge to contact him…if he has moved on, you will feel worse!
Write down all of the mean things that he has said or done to you and refer to that list often.
It will help you to remember that he was just a person with flaws and he was not perfect and certainly not perfect for YOU!
Consider him a teacher….preparing you for the right one
now when you find him you will appreciate him that much more.
Also there is a book called ‘how to survive the loss of a love’
it is on amazon
check it out if time permits

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What hobbies or places i can go to ease my mind off of her? Im trying to get my head right for finals next week but i keep on thinking of her…
and No getting back with her is not an choice so please dont say that.. thanks

Working out always helped me through breakups. Do something physical, like punch a punching bag, or ride a bicycle. I think that doing something that keeps you focused on the task at hand is the best.

Maybe after finals join a club, or volunteer. Doing something like that will help you meet new friends and keep your mind off your breakup.

But I don’t think that anyone can quickly recover from a relationship that meant a lot to them. If it was meaningful, then there will be pain. Just take things slow and be happy with yourself completely before you start dating again.

Good Luck!!

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My girlfriend of two years recently broke up with me about a week ago. I was not being the best boyfriend and she was unhappy. She is now going out with my friend, who is a very nice guy. She wants to remain friends with me and I would like to do the same. We both go to school together and have a few classes together. I work with my friend and we often have similar shifts. I am trying to remain friends with her and I am ok hanging out with either one of them. My problem occurs when I hang out with both of them at the same time. They try not to act like boyfriend and girlfriend so they dont upset me but I can see the sparks between them and it reminds me of everything we had together. I commute 30 minutes to school and most of my high school friends have moved away so outside of them I dont really have any other close friends. Any advice on how to move on with seeing both of them at one time or another every day would be greatly appreciated.

Stay away from both of them. You need to develop some new relationships. Hanging around with either or both of them will just make you depressed and make it harder for you to move on.

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