Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

Everything has been good with us except for the topic of drugs. Used to be able to ignore it because it was minor, but with a new business plan that he has, it would be hard. With the business, things wouldn’t be able to be ignored.

Different morals about drugs is a very good reason to break up. Using drugs affects many areas of his life and if you are with him, your life.

1. Recreational drug use is illegal. You could be punished if you are with him when he is caught or if he has drugs in your apartment or car. Using drugs around you makes you an accomplice to illegal activity. That is pretty inconsiderate of him since you don’t even do drugs.

2. Drug usage puts him at risk for all sorts of health problems. Depending on what drugs he is doing there are many health risks. No drug use is free from health risks. If you are in a relationship with him, then your health could also be at risk. If you have a child together the child could be at risk.

3. Drug usage often leads to harder drugs. Maybe you don’t mind the drugs he is using now, but where will this road lead? Are you sure there aren’t already harder drugs involved that he hides from you?

4. Using drugs illegaly often brings you in contact with undesirable people, some can be dangerous. As his girlfriend you are a potential target as well.

5. Using drugs puts people at a higher risk for sexually transmitted diseases. As his partner you know where that leaves you.

6. If your relationship grows into a long term committment are you ready for all of these issues and the thousands I haven’t mentioned? What about healthcare bills? Mental health issues? Loss of trust?

In short: OF COURSE drug use is a good reason to break up with someone! It doesn’t mean you are judgemental or look down on them, or want to control them. It just means you are a person who can make decisions for themselves about what you want in your future. And you have every right to those decisions. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

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My boyfriend just came home wasted. Actually the neighbour brought him home. He has puked up bile with this brown crap. He’s now on the couch, breathing fine, with a sheet over him, and the barf bowl beside him. Do I need to stay up with him, for safety reasons?

For safety reasons you should stay near but you don’t have to stay up. Even though He isn’t drinking anymore his liver still has to have time to metabolize all that he has had to drink tonight.

With you near if he does puke anymore you will be there in case he doesn’t wake up to roll on his side and spit it out..but other than that as long as he is breathing fine he should be ok…Might have a hell of a headache in a few hours though..=) Hope that helps!

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well, i have a bf but he is in the group home..he told me tht he has court on wednesday and that he might be going to juvy for a year. do you think i should stay with him? what should i do?

No.Here is why.If he is in danger of going to juvy, then it means he has been in some trouble with the law.
You do NOT need a b/f who is in trouble with the law hon.Dump him and move on.

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We went on a weekend trip. He spend about $350 on the hotel stay, I paid for the food and gas and drove mycar, total spending about $150. Should I offer my boyfriend to pay for part of the hotel stay?

You could offer to pay $100 It would at least show him you care.

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I just found out I got accepted into USC for Grad School. My boyfriend and I are both in Chicago right now. He is a medical student in Chicago and right now I’m student teaching.

I love my boyfriend, and I’m afraid to leave. USC has been my dream school, but I’m afraid I’ll lose my boyfriend during a long distance relationship. Should I go to USC and try a long distance relationship? Or should I stay?

No one can really answer that question for you. Going away and losing your boyfriend may hurt terribly, but so might staying in Chicago and losing your dream school. Make a pro con list. Come up with other options (maybe go to a good school that is not so far away). If you do leave, make plans to spend time with your boyfriend. Visit on a regular basis. Invest in video chats. Build up your trust now. Long distance relationships can be difficult, but sometimes do work.

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Help Me Please! Im 24 years old and I have lived with my 29 year old boyfriend for two & 1/2 years now. We have a pretty good relationship in the winter, but it sucks in the summer. He is a motorcycle rider and is part of a bike club and will be out with them for half of the day a couple days a week. He always tells me that he is doing one thing and always ends up doing everything else, (he’ll say ‘babe I’m going out for a quick ride with like one or two other people and I’ll will be back in a hour or two’, Then he will not call me for 3 hours until I call and he does not answer cause he is on his bike of coarse, and then he will come home 2 hours later only because him or one of his friends got pulled over or chased by cops.) He stays out until late at night like 12 or 1am and expects me to not be upset. Meanwhile he does not even want me to walk our dog around the block in the afternoon/evening,( so called because there are too many people outside to distract the dog). Yet alone go out with my girlfriends to hang out. This has been going on for 3 summers now and every time spring comes he tells me babe I love you and we are going to have a great summer together and we are going to do a lot of things together and he is gonna lay off of the bike thing soo much because he knows it hurts our relationship. Mind you he has a full time job he goes to mon-fri 8am – 5 pm every wed he is committed to his "ride out days" and evert sunday they have a meeting and ride half the day. He also has a child that he spends time with, that I am not really allowed to be around to much because his childs mother is a B and gets jealous when ever his child is around me and goes home and talks to her about what we did, not because I am a bad person but because she is upset/jealous that me and my b/f are so close with each other. Please some advice from guys and girls would really help. I think I need to leave this relationship b/c I am missing out every summer in the house ALL summer long( I work from home too, no kids just a cat and dog) because he is with his friends and I don’t want to start an arguement by going out with my friends. I feel like I am spending all of my summers either working, with my pets, mad or bored. And I think I should be able to be happy. Do you think I am not being resonable or that I should stay with him? Maybe he will change right? Or I just should not care what he does? HELP!!!!!

First of all, he is 29 years old, with a kid, and he spends his free time running from the cops on his bike with his friends??!!! Tell him he needs to GROW UP. My husband has a bike, and he likes to go out riding w/ his friends, but it is also something that we like to do together.

Second of all, if he hasn’t changed yet after all this time, he is never going to change. It sounds like you put him first in your life, but you rank pretty low on his priority list. He needs to tell his child’s mother to butt out. If two people have a kid together and then part ways, it is expected that they will date other people, and that they too will be a part of the child’s life. You shouldn’t have to suffer for her own insecurities, and he needs to tell her that.

Third, he is setting such a double standard for you to live by. I used to date a guy like that before for almost 4 yrs. He could go out to clubs with his friends, but gave me grief for wanting to have a cup of coffee with one of my friends. Unless you have done something to lose his trust, it is completely unfair of him to keep you locked up in your home. Even if something did happen for you to lose his trust, he needs to forgive and forget or else you will never be happy.

But it sounds to me like you are in a very unhealthy relationship. But if you are not ready to jump ship, you need to stop worrying about starting an argument, and just doing things that you like to do without him, and standing up for yourself. See what happens from there. Explain to him how lonely you feel. If he still doesn’t get it, then you need to find somebody who will treat you the way you want to be treated no matter what time of year it is.

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He says he is not in love with her or having sex with her,
saving money to leave, and can’t wait to spend the rest of
his life with me.
But he is really doing nothing to make it happen and he won’t move in with me.

It could possibly be a financial reason why hes not leaving. There could be many reasons. Yes its true he might never leave his wife but you should give him somewhat of a chance. But you really don’t know if you don’t put yourself out there. Give him time. He might not be moving in with you because hes just getting to know you. Moving in is a big step. But it will be much better once he leaves his wife. But its all in what you feel. Go with your gut instinct not what hes telling you. Whatever you think is what you should go with. But I have to say you can’t expect to have any type of relationship if you don’t make yourself somewhat vulnerable.

Plus if hes married and he cheats on her with you before a divorce than he would be liable to pay his wife more than half of all possessions.

But you never know. You never know what people are doing or thinking.

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My boyfriend is really great towards me and respects a whole lot. Though when I feel like talking to him he never answers his cell phone or he either never calls me. I have’nt talked to him in about a week. I want to stay with, but why should I if I can never get a hold of him? What do I do?
Im’ omly 13 years old with little boyfriend experience.

Lose him, he ain’t worth it, if you he cared about you he would call you and he would be there for you. You deserve someone better that’ll treat ya well, plus you’re young no need to waste your time with someone that doesn’t care!
Later!

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I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for three and a half years now, and next month we’re both leaving for college. We’ll be five hours apart, but we’ll both have a car. We haven’t really talked about what we’re going to do yet, but i want to try to stay together. Am i stupid for even trying to stay together, and how should i try and start this hard conversation with him?

Of course you’re not stupid for wanting to stay together!
When you’ve been together for that amount of time you don’t want to end it just because high school is over.
You just need to come out with it and tell him your feelings and ask him what his feelings are too

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My boyfriend works 80 milles away and works sometimes long hours…I am considering moving in the town he works so we can be closer but really love livng in our home town, where I work. I will not move there and commute, but would look for other employment. I don’t know if I should just stay home and let him continue to commute and have to accept there will be nights he won’t come home due to time and miles. Any advice?

You need to think if this is really the guy you want to be with for the rest of your life. If not I highly don’t suggest you do that. You don’t want to drop everything for some1 you don’t know is always going to be there.
But this is a really big decision that is ultimatly yours to take, you do what you think is best don’t let anybody tell you what’s right or wrong. It’s up to you

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