Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

My fiance (ex fiance) left us. Just like that, pregnant, and i have a daughter with him, and MY oldest as well. He didn’t even say goodbye, didn’t let us know he was leaving or anything. I understand if he wasn’t into the relationship anymore, but he didn’t have to leave just like that. I don’t care that he left me, but the kids! It hurt… it hurts, really bad. His relatives said he went back to his hometown.
I, so badly, want to go look for him there, and ask him why he left just like that. He didn’t have to leave the way he did. He didn’t take any of his belongings, he just left with his nosey ass dad, whom by the way, is always in our business, along with the rest of his family.

What would you do if this happend to you?
Would you go and find that person to get an explanation, for closure?
Is closure something everyone NEEDS?
How do you feel about that?
I dont really want advice on what I should do, I know I should move on…the question is, should I find him, and ask for an explanation, so I can get closure, or how do you feel about "closure" in general?

I don’t think that there is ever a good way of leaving, but he could be a man, and discuss things with you about how things are going to be going forward – re children most importantly. I get the feeling his family may have something to do with it. But he is an adult, and he can make decisions himself. I would look for him, but not for closure, but to discuss the children’s future.

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1. how can a women keep a man always on his toes without frustrating him with a million mind games?
**keep in mind, guys, that you may say you hate game playing – but think about a specific situation where a woman remained completely mysterious and you could never tell how exactly she felt about you.. weren’t you intrigued by her? and didn’t u like her all the more? as opposed to a girl who called you right after your first date and was like ‘hi! wanna make plans for a second date?!" it seems to be a thin line between playing games and being too overbearing… HOW can a girl acheive a happy medium??

2. are the tactics used at the beginning of ‘courtship’ (e.g. where a woman might not call a guy back right away after their first date in fear of scaring him off for committment) the same sort of tactics that should be used to keep a man interested later in the dating process (about a month into relationship) and even later than that?

It would be great to meet someone whose not a game player and you could relate to each other straight up, eye to eye, heart to heart!

One thought is, if you have to consider playing games, is it worth it?

But I think this: Relate to you man in the area of his interests. Does he like sports? Take an interest in what he’s into, whether to watch or to participate if possible.

If you share his interests, you’ll always be on the inside, and in his thoughts.

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