Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I am working in a Women’s Shelter and this keeps coming up. What was your mind-set when in it? What made you realize this was wrong?

even though i knew it was wrong all along.. i couldn’t get out when i wanted to.

i stuck around for about 8 months after the first time he did it. i was brainwashed into thinking that i’d find nobody better – it was like i became 2 different people.

one who believed his every word out of love (infatuation or just plain..deceit)
and the other who knew better than that.

but i managed to get out…. don’t exactly remember how i did it. but i did and i am glad.

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My ex seems to have no problem moving on with his life…I am stuck at home raising our kids without any help from him at all. I try to do things with my kids because they are my primary focus but I feel as if my life is just passing me by. My self esteem and self confidence seems to have drifted away, if it wasn’t for my beautiful kids showering me with their love I would be a total wreck.

Trust me, you w/get over it & get back to a better than before kind of life. Of course your ex has no problem moving on, because he was the problem to you, but of course not to himself. So he’s going to remain the same regardless. You on the other hand now have the sole responsibility of everything on your shoulders. Once things get settled down & as back to normal as you can get them, you WILL start to feel better about yourself. Rite now you feel like you’re at the bottom of the barrel. But slowly but surely you w/climb out of that barrel & you will be OK again. Let things start to settle down & get use to at least not having the abusive person in your life. Look forward each day to at least knowing it’s not going to end up in a fight at any point of your day. You can at least be thankful for that & know your day is going to be normal. Be thankful you have your children who love their mom & who bring sunshine & happiness in your daily life. No more doom & gloom. Just take things as they come the best way you can. That’s all that’s expected of you. Just doing the best you can for that one day at a time. Some days may be brighter than others, but there’s always tomorrow. No one said you have to be perfect by any means or that you have to do things perfectly. Just the best you can for that one day. Try to have an attitude of gratitude in that you at least have a chance of somewhat a normal day now. I know how much an abusive relationship can do to you, I too lived in one, both mentally & physically. I DO know the stress & what it does to one’s nerves. But w/o that abrasive person in your life, there’s no where you can go but up. All of a sudden you’ll notice you can finally relax & have no more fears. That alone w/change your life on it’s on in time. Be happy you have your kids who can bring you joy & smiles on your face. I KNOW for a fact you’re going to feel better. You’ll start to feel good about yourself as you look back & see all you’ve been able to overcome. And you will. I’ve walked in your shoes & know the road w/start to get less bumpy & you’ll finally be walking on level ground again. I did it, I KNOW you w/too. You w/find happiness again. You don’t know what’s around the corner waiting for you. I can promise you things WILL get better for you just like they did for me. Be good to yourself, you deserve it. I DO wish you all the best & happiness in your future…:)

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I’m 16 and i dated this boy for a year. And i now realize that he was verbaly abusive to me and manipulative and im still in love with him and i am afraid of him and moving on. help?

don’t try to pursue a friendship or relationship with someone that brings you down or hurts you in any way. you should cut him off and move on to someone that treats you the way you want to be treated.

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My husband recently got arrested for battery for hurting me, we have kids together and I dont know if it is worth it to try and work it out or not.

If the abuse is willing to admit to their problem of being abusive..seeking out professional intervention..anger management..and intense counseling..and treatment..in the meantime you get yourself the needed support..and seek out professional support..take care of yourself and the children..

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The relationship was over months ago, even though the breakup occurred recently. My friend just emotionally "checked out" and now is back on the market. But before she goes any further, I would like to know what steps she may need to take before she meets someone new. She’s not looking for a relationship— she easily attracts guys— but I think she needs to put some things into perspective before she goes any further. What advice might you give her?

ya

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This woman I know doesn’t seem to get that she needs to remove herself completely from an abusive bf. I don’t really know what to tell her. She just doesn’t get it. Its like she is just love drunk. Her bf started hitting her and she said he was verbally abusive to her. Is there anything I can do to help her see some light? Maybe show her a movie as an example? Something?

No, She is submissive, and he is dominant. Her problem is that she has done things that made her bf angry. She has to convince the bf that he could become a wonderful man if he stopped being abusive. Perhaps if she respected him more and did more to please him, and stop telling her friend about what a bum he is, he would only have to use a small amount of verbal abuse to keep her in line.
The only movie I can think of is the story of O.

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One of my best friends is stuck in an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship with a controlling boyfriend. He has "grounded" her from computer or phone use in the past and, with her being over an hour away at college (they attend the same university), I’m starting to feel a bit helpless. She asked me today how she could end it in light of the same school problem, and I don’t have any idea how to respond. Help? Please and thank you, it would mean a lot.

Domestic abuse is never okay, and never a situation anyone should have to go through alone. The fact that your friend is still able to even ask you for advice gives me hope, because controlling relationships have usually segregated all friends and family at this point. The first thing your friend needs to do is tell someone in authority about the situation. Relationships like this one rarely end easily, and she needs to be aware, it will probably get worse before it gets better. She needs your support more than ever during this time, and if she has a family: mother, father, sisters, brothers, who can help support her, now is the time. The school she attends needs to be made aware of what is going on. This is not a light situation, (shall we remember the Chris Brown Rihanna situation) and teachers need to be aware of what is going on. I would also suggest going to a school counselor. These men and woman are trained to help your friend deal with this tough situation, and she is going to need to seek help outside of her inner circle, from someone who is unbiased and who can offer her professional help. Abuse, both emotional and physical carries baggage for years, and it is vital that your friend feel loved, cherished and that her friends and family rally for her. It is going to be hard because victims of abuse feel shattered, unworthy and ugly and many times are suckered back into the unhealthy relationship, because they do not know anything else. Be there for her, encourage her, and have her get some real help. You are a good friend, and I know you will help her weather this difficult and ugly storm. Good luck!

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music video about theresa and eddy’s relationship and how he physically hurts her in it. Ryan finds out and tries to put a stop to it. story really just matches the song. enjoy!

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Diagnose an abusive relationship and you will be on your way to ending domestic abuse. Getting a definitive, objective diagnosis can put you in the “stop-guessing” mode and into the “start-treating” mode in moments.

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