How do I handle a breakup alone?
We met on the internet 16 mos ago, we met in person 2 mos later, and 4 weeks after meeting I moved interstate in with him. He was my first boyfriend, I was only 18 and recovering from a major motor accident. Since moving down here a year ago I haven’t made any friends. Now I’m going to hospital for another operation in one weeks time and he’s been so difficult about everything I’ve made the decision I cannot see him during my hospital and recovery time as dealing with our problems I cannot handle as well as dealing with my own health. He’s told me if I do this it’s over with us, and ontop of having to go through the whole hospital experiance alone, things are going to be ‘over’ too…I’m not sure how I’m going to handle this. We’ve practically never stopped fighting since we moved in, hell., since we started talking, we’ve loved each other very much but it’s a constant roller coaster and I cannot handle it anymore…how the hell am i supposed to handle all this at once alone? ;(
Thanks jamiez…
It’s just difficult to make this decision because he’s generally more caring than most guys i know, and he’s always like obsessed with me, to the point he’s threatened suicide if i tried to leave him and though i don’t stay because of that i know we’ve loved each other. I guess it’s hard because I wonder, is it better to have something than nothing? I’ve never found it hard to have friends but since i met him, he has none and he discourages me from spending time with anyone but himself, so i’ve found it very difficult to have anyone supporting around me, and i’ve asked him to get help as he’s got social anxiety issues but he promises then doesn’t do it and i never thought he was like that! but lately he’s just making all sorts of promises to make me stay with him and i accept them just because i want things to be right, but then he doesn’t follow through.
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through such tough times. Don’t feel alone though, there are many of us out there going through similar stuff.
All I can say now is that any relationship that gives you ultimatum is probably not a healthy one. Also, one is which you fight all of the time will probably not improve either. To me, it’s a sign that you are not that compatible, especially since it’s been that way from the begginning.
My advice to you would be to focus on your health first. It is the most important thing in your life…without you have nothing. then, when you are better focus on your career or school in which you can surely meet more people and hopefully gain friends.
good luck!!!
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through such tough times. Don’t feel alone though, there are many of us out there going through similar stuff.
All I can say now is that any relationship that gives you ultimatum is probably not a healthy one. Also, one is which you fight all of the time will probably not improve either. To me, it’s a sign that you are not that compatible, especially since it’s been that way from the begginning.
My advice to you would be to focus on your health first. It is the most important thing in your life…without you have nothing. then, when you are better focus on your career or school in which you can surely meet more people and hopefully gain friends.
good luck!!!
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