Girlfriend of a year and 3 months said she doesn’t love me anymore and wants a break/break up?
2 nights ago my (ex)girlfriend of a year and 3 months broke it off with me, she says that she fell out of love with me and feels like a relationship is to stressful at the moment. shes 18, soon to be 19 and i am 21.
She told me that she wants to go on a break, but its also sort of a break up, she did not specifically say how it was going to work out, but she just doesnt want to see eachother or talk for a while so she can see where she is emotionally in a while..This is the hardest thing i have ever had to go through, before her my longest relationship was 3 months. I am still completely in love with her and it just hurts so horribley, I feel like crying every single 10 minutes of the day. I feel suicidal but I am not going to kill myself, or leave my family like that.
She texted me the night after which was really suprising, she just said "hey, i dont know why i texted you but i just wanted to say hey." and I just said "okay, well i didnt text you all day or night because i am giving you your space and time that you need" and she never texted me back after that, or the whole day yesterday either.. She sent a text to my friend saying "I have to get used to not texting him, im just used to doing that every night."
Anyway I dont know how to be hopeful, I would rather look at things the worst then for the better so i dont get my hopes up. It hurts so F***** bad, and just dont understand how she could do that, I mean the signs have been there for a while and i should have relalized.
She changed all her myspace and facebook status’s to single..even though we might only be on just a break, but like i said it really does feel like a breakup because she was never specific.
I’m just wondering if it seems like i should be hopeful, just give her space and not text or call her at all and just wait and see if she will do it. Like i said this is the hardest thing I have ever been through in my life..
don’t worry about it too much. if you’re hoping for the best and driving yourself suicidal because of this, its best to just let it go.
of course its not going to be easy, and i understand, but in time you’ll see that she’s just another girl, and it’ll take some time for you to heal, but don’t worry, everything will be ok :]
my opinion is that just leave it alone for now. if she wants to come back in the relationship, then she will. relax and spend more time with friends and don’t let her get in with your happiness.
don’t worry about it too much. if you’re hoping for the best and driving yourself suicidal because of this, its best to just let it go.
of course its not going to be easy, and i understand, but in time you’ll see that she’s just another girl, and it’ll take some time for you to heal, but don’t worry, everything will be ok :]
my opinion is that just leave it alone for now. if she wants to come back in the relationship, then she will. relax and spend more time with friends and don’t let her get in with your happiness.
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I remember going through these issues when I was your age. Many relationships arent meant tolast. A girlfriend can be replaced even tho right now it seems for you that she was perfect. You will find better in time, a better person who wont hurt you, I promiss!
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First, I’m sorry you’re hurting so bad. Heartbreak just plain sucks.
As for your ex-girlfriend, it sounds like she needs to mature some before she can really commit. A 15 month relationship is a commitment, but something has obviously spooked her and she needs time to sort through it. My advice to you is not to wait for her. Try to start the healing process and if she wants to give it another try before you have moved on, then go for it. But, if you wait around and she doesn’t want to get back together, then you have wasted time waiting for her.
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This is very painful… there is nothing you can do besides take care of yourself, and by that i mean get the support you need, feel your feelings and get thru them, and then if she wants to get back with you, you have to set your own boundaries, and rules , so she doesnt do this again…..
You have the right to assert your needs if she contacts you again…. and it isnt fair the way she is handling it, but maybe she thinks there is no easy way to handle it, idk…. or you could ask her if she will see a counselor/therapist with you to help you break up and understand it, or something… she might do this, idk…
Here is a support site with groups for everything , run by doctors, where you can talk to others also….
Here is a free method you can apply to all your feelings, especially the painful ones, and it really helps to heal them … check it out.. i use it and have used it on some intense feelings, and it really helps a lot…
Please try not to be bitter toward other women, and know she is just human, and so are you…
You sound like a really nice person, I know there are people who appreciate that, so you wont have trouble meeting people…
take care of yourself….
get counseling/therapy by yourself from a guy if you need to, for more ideas
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http://www.dailystrength.org
http://www.emofree.com
you got got man you love this girl but you gotta realize that she doesn’t want this anymore you gotta be strong enough to let it go and neva let anybody see you weak
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