Marriage & Divorce — help me to save my marriage from my wife’s nature. I am more worry about my kids.?
I have been married for 11 years. I have 2 kids. Both are under 8. Our life was good up to 8 years but after that my wife’s nature has been changed. First thing she doesn’t like my mom, dad and sister. Even if my parents do babysitter and most of the food preparation she always fight with them but I knew that my Wife is first to me then my parents so I have send my parents back to my country. Even if my parents call my house she always told me to insult them. Also if I call them then she always fight with me so I stop calling them.
Besides that my wife always tont me like you are dum,you don’t know how to happy me,she always bring issue of money in every topic like…because of more money you do this. She always told me that you are not capable of getting new good job even I work as a engineer and making more than $100000.She always working like boss and when ever we fight she never say sorry. I have to say sorry every time. Even if we both work I do more things then her.Pls Help me.
Hey stop letting her control you. This will get more respect from her and also yourself. Sounds like she is looking for you to stand up for yourself. But if this isn’t the case it might be time for you and the kids to think about ending the marriage.
You should both should see a marriage counselor. You most likely aren’t communicating well. Culture filters may be the problem. You need to learn to "fight fair". A simple rule when you communication is to talk about how you feel. Not about what she does, but your feelings. Try not to use you when you talk to her, but rather say: "I feel bad when.. (event, not what she did, but what happened).
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I would recommend you move away from your family. If your marriage comes first, and your wife doesn’t get along with your family, this seems like the best situation.
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Sounds like she is deeply unhappy have you talked to her about counseling? I know it does not cure everything yet sometimes if there is a chemical issue it can be balanced with medication. If the issues started after the birth of your second child maybe it is chemical. Hope you find peace.
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yep, move to another city, state or town if you can keep your career and do this…
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sometimes family just gets in the way
100 000 ? i wonder what kind of engineer re u. sounds funny to me. a simple engineer. whom re u fooling anyway?
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She sounds like a very selfish witch here. Someone should never try to keep you from your family. She sounds like a miserable person. If you care to keep it together with her, I would seek professional advise. Good luck, sounds like you will need it with her.
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Boy you are really being walked all over. Get out and take the kids.
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Hey stop letting her control you. This will get more respect from her and also yourself. Sounds like she is looking for you to stand up for yourself. But if this isn’t the case it might be time for you and the kids to think about ending the marriage.
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Time to remind your wife of why you both got married in the first place. Take out videos and pictures of when you two were happiest. Remind her of funny stories about your children. Gently ask her what has changed? Show her how it is hurting you and your children. Remind her that you love each other. Tell her calling names is not acceptable. Does she work outside the home? Does she have a degree? Does she work outside the home to bring in money? If she doesn’t, remind her that she is able to not work because you make an excellent salary. Obviously, you are not dumb–you are able to express yourself, you have a good job, make a good living, have a wonderful degree. You are kind, loving, caring and considerate. Perhaps you could hide a camera and tape her. You wouldn’t have to say anything–if she saw and heard herself on tape speakingt and treating you this way she would and will be ashamed. I pray this helps. I truly think the hidden camera is your best bet.
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B.A. in psychololgy, some graduate psychology family & marriage therapy classes. In addition, I have had the hidden camera used on me and I have used it as well. Seeing yourself on camera is a very sobering experience!
u need to sit her down and talk to her …… be as calm as ever and just let her kno how u feel ,,, also this is important never let ya spouse seperate u and ya parents if she dosnt like them then thats ok but u shouldnt turn agaunst tem because of her who knos one day she could walk out and leave u then wha u have no one to turn to …. if she never says sorry then thats not good next time any thing happen dont do any thing u are goinng to have to apoligize for that way u wouldnt have to say sorry …… she dosnt kno shae has a good man its just time just try and make it work though
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Well okay you should be able to have a realationship with your parents. They did bring you into this world. You need to have them come over and if your wife is so disrespectful you need to let her know. My brother has family in India and that is where his wife is from and her mother will come stay for 3 months at a time and my brother is fine with that. This is family and your kids should know their grandparents.
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