Marriage & Divorce — help me to save my marriage from my wife’s nature….. CONTINUE….3rd part?
Thanks for the previous answers. I would like to continue discussion….
Looks like my wife’s nature or mind is not thinking good. She don’t like any body who tell her some thing about her and her kids….like why you give this candy to your kids….your kids are not listening….any thing like that. After that she always thinking bad about that person and always complains about them to me and I knew that those all people don’t say every time. This is some thing that they see and tell her.
Except her 2 sisters she doesn’t have good relation with any body. She forces me to fight with my neighbor. She fights with my parents and my sister. She fights with her brother too. She always complains about all of my friend’s wife and her co-workers at her work. She doesn’t have any friends. She doesn’t like most of my relatives. Even one time she fights with her mom and dad. I told her even if I knew your nature if you behave good with me I don’t care about others. We will happily live together
Do you love your wife? Is she more important to you than yourself? Some people are so misunderstood, and wind up alone as a result .. all because no-one takes the time to help them out. I think your wife is one of those people – instead of getting mad, frustrated & upset with her .. sit down and talk to her. People don’t get mad for no reason, or pick fights for no reason, or dislike others for no reason. If she’s irritable, argumentative, complains alot and fights alot, you need to understand that she does it BECAUSE OF something going on inside her. You’re her husband – the pillar of the family .. you need to be there for your wife. Stop seeking better, start MAKING better. Help her out .. she may be struggling with depression, bitterness towards your family members or she may just be feeling totally stressed out .. you need to figure out why she’s behaving the way she is. Remember what I said before – people don’t just go round making life hell for others for the fun of it. The majority of the time, it’s because they have some sort of an internal battle going on. Trust me, I’ve been one of those people .. and my brother still is. I’ve learnt not to get mad or insulted when he hurts me .. Instead, I try to help him out .. and believe it or not, it soothes him. I know he struggles, I know he battles his own demons .. and he doesn’t need criticism .. he needs a friend. If you truly love your wife, you’ll sit down with her and give her a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. Ask her why she doesn’t like your family members – maybe they offended her. Ask her if she’s feeling upset/anxious/stressed/depressed. She may be having a rough time, and she doesn’t need you to make it worse .. she needs help & love. You’d be surprised at what a little tender care can do .. instead of forcing her to change, help her out. She may just respond, and you’ll watch her bloom into something beautiful before you 
Do your best not to judge before you know the real problem. All the best!
Please when yo u are livign with yo ur wife in decent life then do not disclose all the happening held with yo ur wife to publice site. The family is not a publice life it is purly a private and privacy . do not disclose all yo ur family matter to the website making allegation on yo ur wife please. if you do no t like yo ur wife please discuss with you r parents and her parents . not in the site please. Family is a holiness.
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nope you won’t she has a flaw seek consuling for both of you together. Cause, belive me when there is no one left for her to complain about, you will become the target! Love is blind I know, just went thru this for 20 years,
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i know someone who is like your wife.. well, good thing she has a very understanding husband.. why don’t you take her out for a vacation, maybe she needs break from her daily life routine… try to court her again, try to switch her mood when she’s starting to tell negative things and most of all, ask God to change her heart. Maybe there’s an anger or hatred inside her that she could not let go and makes her feel like the world does not agree with her.. continue to love her.
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Do you love your wife? Is she more important to you than yourself? Some people are so misunderstood, and wind up alone as a result .. all because no-one takes the time to help them out. I think your wife is one of those people – instead of getting mad, frustrated & upset with her .. sit down and talk to her. People don’t get mad for no reason, or pick fights for no reason, or dislike others for no reason. If she’s irritable, argumentative, complains alot and fights alot, you need to understand that she does it BECAUSE OF something going on inside her. You’re her husband – the pillar of the family .. you need to be there for your wife. Stop seeking better, start MAKING better. Help her out .. she may be struggling with depression, bitterness towards your family members or she may just be feeling totally stressed out .. you need to figure out why she’s behaving the way she is. Remember what I said before – people don’t just go round making life hell for others for the fun of it. The majority of the time, it’s because they have some sort of an internal battle going on. Trust me, I’ve been one of those people .. and my brother still is. I’ve learnt not to get mad or insulted when he hurts me .. Instead, I try to help him out .. and believe it or not, it soothes him. I know he struggles, I know he battles his own demons .. and he doesn’t need criticism .. he needs a friend. If you truly love your wife, you’ll sit down with her and give her a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. Ask her why she doesn’t like your family members – maybe they offended her. Ask her if she’s feeling upset/anxious/stressed/depressed. She may be having a rough time, and she doesn’t need you to make it worse .. she needs help & love. You’d be surprised at what a little tender care can do .. instead of forcing her to change, help her out. She may just respond, and you’ll watch her bloom into something beautiful before you
Do your best not to judge before you know the real problem. All the best!
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First of all pay no attention to those saying not to put all your personal family info out there. That is what these websites are designed for, to help those seeking advice. Besides, we don’t know your real name and address so pay that person no mind. I do understand where they are coming from though, but you ar safe here, lol.
Now to answer your question. Your wife is practically begging you to TAKE HER SIDE. She needs someone to take her side rather she is right or wrong, it is the only way to get thru to her and make her listen to logic. Right now she is caught up in the emotions of not having anyone on her side not even her husband. Here is what you do; The next time she complains about someone, simply say "you are right honey they do need to mind there own business, I agree with you." Prepare for the shocked look she will have. If she complains about the neighbor, tell her "honey you are right and I’m gonna go give them a piece of my mind right now, you sit your precious self down and let me handle this for you for a change". Now, she will be amazed and turned on at the same time. Here is what you do, this works best if you and the neighbor are friends. Go over, ask them if you could come in for a quick minute and tell them you are working on your wifes attitude and need their help. Then tell them that if they want to make a suggestion about your kids could they just tell you, because your wife takes things personally. Tell them you are helping her work thru it but they could really be a big help if they simply voiced their suggestions to you directly and only to you. They will feel that it is fair and agree, then go back home and tell your wife they apologized and will keep their opinions to themselves. She will be very impressed and feel the support she has been missing from everyone. Now you have to tell her that the neighbors only mention things because they love kids and were raised different and don’t mean any harm. Tell her that you will continue to take her side and back her up on one condition, that she works on being a little nicer to people regardless of their opinions. She will probably want to debate it, but stop her and say "Listen, I love you and will back you but I need you to work on being nice for me, if you love me too you will at least try" If she agrees, this is a start. feel free to keep me posted at: http://www.lovelyfe.com
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