when to start dating again after my divorce ?
i am 32 years old . a single mother of two great kids a 13 years old daughter and a 11 year old son. i was i love with my husband but he did not love me and has told me many times while we were married. so i don’t know what it feels like to bo loved back. i don’t want to rush into a new spouse again because that’s what i did with my x. i want to take my time and get to know the guy first. i didn’t really get to know my x before i married him . we met in 93 got married in 94 had our first baby in 95 bought a house in 96 had our second baby in 97 and it just keeps going on from there until the divorce in 07. he just got remarried 2 months ago but moved her and her 2 kids in to my old house 2 weeks after i left and that has been really hard on my 2 kids. i got over him long ago but the kids still have a really hard time with it . i don’t want them to feel that again. i don’t want to push other people in to their lives . i asked my son what he thought about me starting to date someone. he wasn’t happy about it at all. and i am also afraid. what do i do?
Your kids are older now. I know how they feel, but they need to understand that you as their mom have needs. Tell them that no man can replace their dad, but you need to find love again. I think if you explain it to them, they might understand. Give love a chance……
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if you are just dying to get out and date, then do so
just explain to your kids that you are lonely and need adult company
many people who divorce wait a year or so before dating to give them some time to heal and settle into a new life style, but a year is plenty of time
your kids are feeling lost and don’t want the competition right now for your affection and attention, but they will adjust… explain to them that you need adult company and you are going to date but you don’t plan on moving anyone into your home right now or anything, let them ask you questions, you might be surprised what the insecurities lurking around for them are
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I can tell you one thing. Don’t ask your kids when it is good to start dating someone else. How do you expect them to react to that?
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Your kids are older now. I know how they feel, but they need to understand that you as their mom have needs. Tell them that no man can replace their dad, but you need to find love again. I think if you explain it to them, they might understand. Give love a chance……
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I would say that this is something to pray about it is almost like starting a new life why don’t you just get on your knees and pray about it and ask the lord to guide you help you in all your decisions your children are old enough to understand you do have a life of your own and there are somethings in life that makes us happy like finding someone to love and they love you back it is never to soon to date after a divorce because it sounds like to me your ex already had someone he is married already and how could he move another family in the home you guy’s shared he should have brought another one for his new wife it say’s a lot about her to my god your ex did not deserve you anyway ask god to send you someone who will love you and you love them back in return pray for your family(your children) for understanding and don’t be afraid it will all come together for you>>>>GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
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