recovering from a break-up?
i find it hard to get over and forget all my anger against my ex boyfriend for 1 year and 2 months of relationship. i never made contact with him since the night we broke up but i find it hard to concentrate in my life to the point that it affects my attitude and brings me deep loneliness.. i even thought learned how to use sleeping pills whenever i am so depressed and i even attempted to smoke and plans to drunk myself just to get a good sleep..
how can i fully start a new life with a good perspective and happiness?
thanx for all of you who answered my questions, now i have lots of idea on how to get my life back on track 
Heartbeaks cut as deep as you allow them to, and lasts as long as you want them to.
The solution?
Get on with your life.
Try concentrating on plans to make you future happy.
Be optimistic.
Keep yourself busy by doing your work.
Hang around with friends.
Concentrating with your life after a breakup can be a bit hard, but having good friends that support you makes it a lot easier.
And if you can’t get to sleep, try working out, or at least exercise regularly. It helps.
well for starters stop the drinking and smoking and using pills because those will just make you more depressed and cause more severe problems in your life than a broken heart will. I’ve noticeed for me time heals all wounds. That the more you get out and focus on more positive things in life (family,friends, meeting new ppl) the easier it is to get over the feelings. Just give it time and feed your life in a positive way. Not negative. Those will leave you feeling worse about the situation and cause worse problems for you making you wish it was only a breakup you had to deal with
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First, both alcohol and sleeping pills are depressants (downers)–something you don’t want to be using if you are depressed.
MELATONIN is an over-the-counter supplement for sleep, available in the vitamin aisle of most stores. It has helped people with jet lag–and those who work rotating shifts to sleep.
You need to be outdoors in the fresh air walking or exercising in the DAYTIME. If you use caffeine, wean yourself off of it gradually. Chamomile Tea and SleepyTime Tea are relaxing, as is lavender incense, candles, air freshener, etc.
There are books and tapes/CDs on meditation at the library. Yoga books are also available, as are books regarding how to survive the loss of a love.
About an hour before you want to sleep take a warm relaxing bath. Then drink either warm milk or the Chamomile (or SleepyTime) tea.
Remember that eating properly isn’t just an old wives tale–it really is just as important for our mental health as it is for our physical health. I wish you well.
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First maybe see a counselor to help you deal with the anger. Then join singles groups to see what else is out there.I am doing this after breaking off a 7 year relationship. Friends are your support through this!
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Heartbeaks cut as deep as you allow them to, and lasts as long as you want them to.
The solution?
Get on with your life.
Try concentrating on plans to make you future happy.
Be optimistic.
Keep yourself busy by doing your work.
Hang around with friends.
Concentrating with your life after a breakup can be a bit hard, but having good friends that support you makes it a lot easier.
And if you can’t get to sleep, try working out, or at least exercise regularly. It helps.
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I’ve been on the same situation.
The only difference is, mine was with a ‘girlfriend’ lol
it is hard to for get some one who breaks ur hart and it takes a little bit of time to get over it. sometimes all u need is a good friend to be there for u and everything wil be alright. if not u might try looking or asking another guy out that u may like because another guy in the picture will take ur mind off of him also.
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It is not easy to think straight when you are still feeling very emotional about the break up. Switch your mind to other things, get yourself busy on something you like to do, over time the wound would heal.
If the breaking up is not your fault, though you may feel hurt for a while, it is still a good thing. At least it happened sooner than later, it would be even more painful and troublesome when you are married and have kids. At least you see his true colors now. So there is really nothing lost. This guy is not worth your while to feel anything about. So stop feeing angry or even waste time thinking about what he did to you.
You are still young and there are plenty opportunities to find a better and more reliable guy to share your life with.
Don’t drug yourself, be strong and pursue your happiness in a right way.
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