No closure… how can i move on??
how do i move on when i have no closure. he offered me no explanation… he just stopped talking to me. sent a few emails saying bad things were happening to him — but i know he was talking to other people (just not me). so… it is rejection but i have NO closure. it bothers me a lot… all the time. how can i create closure for myself — i really feel at a loss?? i’ve already tried to contact him too much (i do realize that now) and I’ve stopped. i liked him so much and it was genuine…
Hello..
I Personally Have Been Through Almost The Exact Same Thing..
He Just Stopped Talking To Me All Together..
He Didnt Say Bye Or Anything..
The Only Thing I Can Tell You Is That It Will Take A While But Eventually You Will Find Somebody who Makes You Forget All About Him..
Trust Me..
It May Take Some Time..
But It Will Happen..
Good Luck..
Erika Shea
get closure,it’s the only way
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Have you thought about a small ceremony? Go away for a weeken alone, somehwere near the water, write his name on a stone and fire it in to the water. Of course you will feel grief but the stone ceremony will help. I think Thai people make a little boat out of paper, put it in the water and set fire to it.
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Hello..
I Personally Have Been Through Almost The Exact Same Thing..
He Just Stopped Talking To Me All Together..
He Didnt Say Bye Or Anything..
The Only Thing I Can Tell You Is That It Will Take A While But Eventually You Will Find Somebody who Makes You Forget All About Him..
Trust Me..
It May Take Some Time..
But It Will Happen..
Good Luck..
Erika Shea
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To be serious you have to find something that makes you really happy. Just try doing things and keeping yourself busy.. The more busy you are the less you will think of him. Go hang with friends and have fun.. Another thing you can do is try to forget about your past. But focus on yuor future and things ahead of you… But some guys are like that don’t like to explain.. But I think when you get deeper into. Only thinking of yourself and pleasing yourself. Then you will be able to find closure for yourself..
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Forget about it and move on, plenty more fish in the sea that are worthy of your time
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That’s really tough, I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’d say lock yourself in your house for the weekend with ice cream, Lifetime TV and a notepad and pencil. Write the pros and cons of the relationship and then note how those cons would have grown if things continued—then have a cry and let Monday be the start of your new single life.
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Then let it be like that, time will heal the wound, just accept the fact that he is gone just like that, try to widen out to other people, and next time you meet someone you like that seems to be liking you likewise, don’t expect to much….
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Why do you assume that you need him to give you closure, such as a reason why he stopped calling or what not. Maybe he didn’t feel the same connection as you did. Oh well. There will be someone else. Don’t blame yourself…it’s probably something wrong with him.
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This happened to my daughter last year – it was a very painful time for her. He never told her WHY – which to my point of view was the closure, in that it meant he was not courageous enough to at least kindly explain to her why he left her. He was a jerk and a jackass (this is a mom talking)! She was far better off without him, which she realizes now – but couldn’t then.
Sometimes you have to make your own closure…but that takes time, because you are grieving the loss of a relationship. After awhile, you will look back, and know that it was for the best, and not feel the pain as you do now. Time is the answer, even if he won’t give his answer to you.
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Personal experience.
This is simple, us men are like cats just dangle a new toy infront of us and we forget about the one that we have…. if he gives no reason for the break up then he not even worth thinking about. He finds it easier not to talk to you about it than to have to explain whats going on with him. Sorry, sounds like you need to relize that if this is how he is treating you now, how will he treat you if you get back with him? Your better off without him! go have fun and forget about this loser.
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oh no! im so sorry..this sort of happened to me, but he just suddenly one day had a GF when we were headed there quickly..he offered no explination, but at least he was there and still talked to me. It helped me to write down all my thoughts so that i could just get them out and then i could look back later at what i did wrong, or where i was thinking wrong, etc. Another thing i did was write him a letter telling him everything i felt. how i felt like i hit a brick wall..if he is not answering your emails or phone calls or ims, etc..if you have his address write to him cuz he even though you might not get a response, he will know how you felt and it might eat at him. I found listening to music helped me alot because many songs empathize with you.. hang out with your firends!! thats why they are there to lean on! dont isolate yourself! the hardest part about this is "loosing" the feeling s for him. But you must not be too hard on yourself, you didnt do anything wrong, you couldnt have done anything differently, and he is so not worth it (its true no matter how much you dont believe that now.) time is what it takes. that is very difficult, but time takes away the pain slowly. If he has a myspace or anything else like that whatever you do, DO NOT go on his page. you deserve better, and another will come and love you more…
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so you need to put all that focus and attention your sending his way toward yourself. He’s probably doing you a favor and you just haven’t realized it yet. He’s continuing to go about his life and you owe yourelf the same happiness/freedom. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him and put the focus back on yourself and what you seek out of life. You wont have to worry about the situation anymore once you get preoccupied w/ the things that are important in your present life, the past will just be history and you will be happier. Don’t hold on to any ill feelings, you’ll get peace (closure) once you forgive him, in order to feel better for yourself. If it is real, and right for the both of you, it will happen. In the meantime LIVE YOUR LIFE and focus on bettering yourslf and being happy regardless of how someone else chooses to act
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