Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

It’s been about 2 weeks since my ex and I broke up and I have been seeking for answers this whole time. She broke things off because she felt like she needed to get done with school and couldn’t handle the pressures of a relationship at the moment. We are 21 and 22.

The first night she texted me saying how she wish it wasn’t this way and that she loves me and just wants to be with me.

However, the next few days it turns into her leaving because of me and her locking up and becoming cold and defensive. All of a sudden I see the whole "school and relationship stress" as an easy exit from me – a way she won’t feel as guilty about.

Now my problem is I don’t know how to bring this up to her without her becoming SUPER defensive. All she says is that "it is what is is. stop bugging me." Its turned into me being the reason she broke up. So I am a bit lost.

I understand she has been through a lot in life and I really haven’t so she says she doesn’t have the patience for me
to become a "man" and grow up. Even though she was happy with me and I was "everything she ever wanted in her life."

I had some growing up to do and wasn’t very experienced in the dating world and in general life but I wasn’t a complete idiot about everything. She thinks she needs more of a "man" than me but what I saw with her through the year we were together is that she is EXTREMELY hard to please. She’s never satisfied and so I need some help laying this out to her in an upfront way without causing drama.

I need to get this off my chest. She is such a defensive mean person though that I don’t know what to do. She is going to call me today to talk about things but I just am now "afraid" of being upfront with her because I know what will happen she will just shoot me down and get defensive.

I need closure in this thing and I need to get this stuff off of my chest.

She sounds alot like my ex.. I tell you from experience.. let her go.. She will become someone elses problem. You really do not need answers because it sounds like you know the answer already.. She is INSANE!! Even if she wanted to break away.. she doesn’t have to be mean or defensive.. trust me.. save your energy.. you will never win with this person no matter how hard you try or how right you are. Please listen.. I have been there… let her go!!!

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