Comments on: Any suggestions for recovering from a bad break up and trying to do it right? http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS, YOU WILL BE OKAY, AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Wed, 07 Jul 2010 05:13:59 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: CT1209 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right/comment-page-1#comment-6492 CT1209 Wed, 28 Apr 2010 14:33:59 +0000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right#comment-6492 Breaking up with someone is never easy, even under the very BEST circumstances. It sounds to me like you've already done the hard parts (admitting that a purely a physical attraction DOES NOT make a relationship and ultimately ending it). Now you have to fully come to terms with what has happened. You said in your post that you've been wounded by this experience......why do you feel it is so important to leave things on a "good note". Someone who REALLY cares about you- even if it didn't work out- would NEVER purposefully or knowingly wound you. It sounds to me like you would like to preserve a friendship of sorts with this person.......I don't think it's possible, viable, or more importantly HEALTHY! There is no need to hang on to this.........let go and you will be all the better for doing so. Accept the fact that it is truly done, over, finished, the fat lady sang and caught her flight out of town. Now relax and take a big deep breath. Get back to the gym, read a good book, have a day at the spa, spin your favorite tunes, buy a new outfit, do whatever makes you feel good. Focus on all the positive things you have in your life and CHOOSE to put yourself in positive situations and around positive people. I should add that his circle of friends or stomping grounds is NOT included in any of those options. A few parting words of caution, don't be quick to jump into another relationship. Explore what it is that you truly want for yourself and don't settle for anything less. Dream BIG!!! And when you do start looking for that special "someone" again, make sure that they love you for ALL the wonderful things you have to offer. Good luck and stay well.<br><b>References : </b><br> Breaking up with someone is never easy, even under the very BEST circumstances. It sounds to me like you’ve already done the hard parts (admitting that a purely a physical attraction DOES NOT make a relationship and ultimately ending it).

Now you have to fully come to terms with what has happened. You said in your post that you’ve been wounded by this experience……why do you feel it is so important to leave things on a "good note". Someone who REALLY cares about you- even if it didn’t work out- would NEVER purposefully or knowingly wound you. It sounds to me like you would like to preserve a friendship of sorts with this person…….I don’t think it’s possible, viable, or more importantly HEALTHY! There is no need to hang on to this………let go and you will be all the better for doing so. Accept the fact that it is truly done, over, finished, the fat lady sang and caught her flight out of town. Now relax and take a big deep breath.

Get back to the gym, read a good book, have a day at the spa, spin your favorite tunes, buy a new outfit, do whatever makes you feel good. Focus on all the positive things you have in your life and CHOOSE to put yourself in positive situations and around positive people. I should add that his circle of friends or stomping grounds is NOT included in any of those options.

A few parting words of caution, don’t be quick to jump into another relationship. Explore what it is that you truly want for yourself and don’t settle for anything less. Dream BIG!!! And when you do start looking for that special "someone" again, make sure that they love you for ALL the wonderful things you have to offer. Good luck and stay well.
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]]> By: esteban g http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right/comment-page-1#comment-6491 esteban g Wed, 28 Apr 2010 14:03:59 +0000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right#comment-6491 There is never a good way to break-up. It's always painful and at times will leave you miserable for months or maybe even years. However, there is a way to cope. By remembering only the good things and forgiving the bad. Then and only then will you begin to heal and move on.<br><b>References : </b><br>Esteban R. Garcia, Author JOURNEY INTO MY SOUL There is never a good way to break-up. It’s always painful and at times will leave you miserable for months or maybe even years. However, there is a way to cope. By remembering only the good things and forgiving the bad. Then and only then will you begin to heal and move on.
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]]> By: whiskeyflirt http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right/comment-page-1#comment-6490 whiskeyflirt Wed, 28 Apr 2010 13:51:59 +0000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right#comment-6490 If he wasnt receptive to the in person break up you could have just walked away and not taken any calls from him til he got the hint. I wouldn't really worry about it too much you accomplished what you wanted- to be out of a relationship that was heading nowhere. You can't be friends with all your exes so i wouldnt worry too much about it.<br><b>References : </b><br> If he wasnt receptive to the in person break up you could have just walked away and not taken any calls from him til he got the hint. I wouldn’t really worry about it too much you accomplished what you wanted- to be out of a relationship that was heading nowhere. You can’t be friends with all your exes so i wouldnt worry too much about it.
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]]> By: maverick h http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right/comment-page-1#comment-6489 maverick h Wed, 28 Apr 2010 13:34:59 +0000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right#comment-6489 my ex did that same thing by breaking up with me on an email. I treated her like a princess in every way i could, though i did replied to her email and wished her best in life but to tell you the truth i will never forgive her all my life. breaking up on an email simply reflects that you are not worth a person, its disgusting.<br><b>References : </b><br> my ex did that same thing by breaking up with me on an email. I treated her like a princess in every way i could, though i did replied to her email and wished her best in life but to tell you the truth i will never forgive her all my life.
breaking up on an email simply reflects that you are not worth a person, its disgusting.
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]]> By: crow3862000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right/comment-page-1#comment-6488 crow3862000 Wed, 28 Apr 2010 13:13:59 +0000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right#comment-6488 Apologising couldn't hurt. Sometimes it's easy, especially when it's all over anyway, just to take the blame. Even for things that you're not to blame for. Being humble and still friendly could be just the ticket. I like your attitude though. Good luck!<br><b>References : </b><br> Apologising couldn’t hurt. Sometimes it’s easy, especially when it’s all over anyway, just to take the blame. Even for things that you’re not to blame for. Being humble and still friendly could be just the ticket.

I like your attitude though. Good luck!
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]]> By: David B http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right/comment-page-1#comment-6487 David B Wed, 28 Apr 2010 12:51:59 +0000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right#comment-6487 It's probably not worth doing anything now. You may want to wait and let things settle, then you can contact him via phone or email with a lasting goodbye, good feelings.<br><b>References : </b><br> It’s probably not worth doing anything now. You may want to wait and let things settle, then you can contact him via phone or email with a lasting goodbye, good feelings.
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]]> By: ohiostate114 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right/comment-page-1#comment-6486 ohiostate114 Wed, 28 Apr 2010 12:16:59 +0000 http://www.stoppainofbreakup.com/blog/getting-closure-and-moving-on/any-suggestions-for-recovering-from-a-bad-break-up-and-trying-to-do-it-right#comment-6486 Not by e-mail for starters. I would give him a call and hang out with him and explain everything in person.<br><b>References : </b><br> Not by e-mail for starters. I would give him a call and hang out with him and explain everything in person.
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