Is breaking up then getting back together before marriage a bad sign?
A couple months ago my bf and I had the "marriage talk." We’re different religions and he was worried there would be too many differences (even though we’ve been together 2 yrs and it’s never once been an issue). We ended up breaking up for no real reason 2 months ago after a completely unrelated fight.
He is out of town on business for the summer and calls me every day. He has been thinking about marriage again and wants to marry me but wants me to stop going to my church. I told him that’s asking too much of me. (Esp since he was fine w/ it when we started dating.)
I love him and want to be with him, but this is the second time in 2 years of dating that we have broken up. I know a lot of people who have taken a break or two before getting married, but is that a bad sign? (I ended things the first time, 2 years ago, for purely immature reasons, he ended things this time)
His mom broke up with her fiance last summer the day before their wedding. They got married a couple days later, with just a couple witnesses, and were divorced 6 months later. I don’t want that to be us.
We’re the same religion, that’s what’s weird. He has suddenly become very bitter about it.
We brokeup a couple of months before the wedding and then got back together and the marriage has been rocky the whole time.
Wish we had not gotten married
I think it’s a bad sign, and you’re right he met you that way. It’s wrong for him to try to be changing you.
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Bad sign? Definitely. But it is not insurmountable. I highly recommend you two try couples’ counseling. Best get the counseling ahead of time so you can identify and work through major issues now, rather than waiting until you’re already legal. A lot is at stake here, personally and economically. Best resolve all issues FIRST before you even begin to think about getting married.
Good luck!
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We brokeup a couple of months before the wedding and then got back together and the marriage has been rocky the whole time.
Wish we had not gotten married
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Difference in religion is a serious issue and leads to a lot of divorces. I had to learn this the hard way in dating…I tried to have an open mind but in the end it causes huge conflicts like yours. I’d say it’s time to find someone new..and if you are ready to get married date people of the same religion.
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If you’re not 10000% sure this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, then don’t do it, unless you want to become a statistic. Breaking up before the marriage is a huge red flag.
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My husband and I broke up for a month after dating for a while and when we decided to get back together a few weeks later we got married. That was almost 2 years ago and we are perfectly happy now. I think it depends on the people involved. If you really love someone and it is meant to be then it will happen and everything will work out.
You can’t base your relationship on anyone else because every one is different. I think if you want to do it then go for it. If you feel that it might not be right now then I would suggest to hold off until you are certain this is what you want.
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