I need advice on my ex! :( i want him to want me back?
My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years and 4 months, he broke up with me about 1 week ago now, out of no where! He broke up with me over a text message and wouldnt event talk to me. His mom was at my house crying with me, nobody knew what was going on. come to find out, he has a new gf. so he left me for her. i must add. she is teeribly uggly! honestly and im not saying it just because im pissed. everyone is trippen on why he downgraded. he tells me she has a better personality then me, thats kinda harsh. he told me he didnt love me any more. he said as a friend kinda but even then still not. How do u stop caring for a person in a day!? that doesnt make sence. he has to be lieing, well he is cuz i finally got it out of him that he does care, but he made it pretty clear that he wants nothing to do with me. It kills me to see them drive by in his truck (thats the hottest truck in town if i might add) we picked it out together, and she is sitting in my seat, she goes to his house and sits in my seat and sleeps in my side of the bed! it makes me so sick to my stomach. at night i dream of it and i wake up, and its like he broke up with me all over again. I try to go out and have fun, but i still cant figure it all out. I need help to figure out if he would want me back, is this just a phase? i need help on how to make him want me back. i know this might sound mean, but i dont really want to be with him after how much he hurt me, but i dont want him with her, since she is the one he left me for. He wanted me too be unhappy so i want him to be also. i just need tips on how to make him want me back. and keep in mind he restricted me so i cant call him with my phone(but i can use another) and i work with him!! o and he is already taking her to OUR friends houses after a week! So im left out all alone. 
O AND KEEP IN MIND, I AM IN LOVE WITH HIS ENTIRE FAMILY!! WE WERE TOGETHER 247 ALL DAY EVERYDAY! KEEP THAT IN MIND ALSO! how do u go from that to nothing with no hurt (well obviously cuz he has someone to focus on, but like whyyy) PLEASE HELP! THANK YOU!
he’s an ass, obviously if he moved on that fast he’s been unhappy for a while now… don’t humiliate yourself or downgrade yourself for someone who ain’t worth it. Try to move on, of course is painful but is just a phase stop thinking about his happiness and start concentrating on yours. Best of luck to you.
I think he’s right. You have a crap personality.
Move on.
I wasn’t being mean — I was being honest. All the good looks in the world mean zilch is she’s crazy or shallow. So the other girl isn’t pretty? I bet she treats him better! And THAT’S what counts in the end.
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Honey I know what you are going through right now I think I am in the same boat as you…. theres one thing if you love something let it go if it comes back its meant to be…
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Hello honey, first off, it’s obviously his loss and I think it’s true they do downgrade, so make the most of your looks and try to maybe treat yourself to a new hairdo or some new clothes get back out there, you wouldn’t want to take him back seeing as though he left you, but watch him become miserable seeing you all confident glowing and best of all WITHOUT him!!!! See it as a new start xx
OH AND HARD TRUTH, DON’T BE MEAN
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Wow…if he’s treating you like this why would you want him back?
What you need to do is show you have alot of confidence. Get your hair done, make yourself look good, and go out and enjoy life…he will realize what he missed. Although I wouldn’t take him back.
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It’s over. It sucks. You can’t force him to love you. Mope around – be depressed – cry a lot and then MOVE ON with your life. There is nothing left to do…
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he’s an ass, obviously if he moved on that fast he’s been unhappy for a while now… don’t humiliate yourself or downgrade yourself for someone who ain’t worth it. Try to move on, of course is painful but is just a phase stop thinking about his happiness and start concentrating on yours. Best of luck to you.
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From an outsider’s perspective, I’m sure most people would be asking "Why would you want to get back together with someone like that? Are you insane?"
Anyway, I’m an outsider, and those are also my questions. The answer is embedded in there and in your own post, and it seems pretty obvious to most. Sorry for your break-up.
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If he’s happy let him be happy. You need to move on. Find your own happiness. Your best revenge would be to find someone better than him and make sure he knows about it. That’s what he did and obviously it works!
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You can’t make him want you. If he is going with someone else and downgraded it means he does not love you any more. Just move on because there is no reason for you to stay with him. When someone who hurts you that bad and text you to break up instead of face to face is not worth it. You are better off with out him. It is better that you know how he is now then latter down the road when you are married. Trust me he will not leave her because the same thing happened to my niece and I told her the same thing and she found someone who really loves her. There is someone else out there for you that will treat you better.
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I’m sorry, but I don’t see how this is a big deal. You never even hint that you were married to this guy, or even engaged. So, what this is, is two single people that have dated, and then broken up. That happens all the time. Too often people try to say that people who "play house" are the same thing as married people. But, that simply isn’t true.. You folks were together for over three years. Why, if this was soooooo important a relationship didn’t you guys get married? Playing house is fine. But, to try to make playing house more than just a little interlude doesn’t work. I’m not trying to fault you for just playing house, I’m merely saying the relationship NEVER really meant all that much, based on the fact that it never was more than just a little temporary fun game.
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