Breaking up/getting back together?
Have you ever dated someone for a REALLY long time.. then they broke up with you– and you got back together? If so.. did you have a trust issue then? Like a fear that they would leave you again?
My boyfriend and I have been going out for over 5 years now. (The past three months he’s been talking about marriage and babies almost every day) STILL to this day, I think about him breaking up with me. (he broke up with me about 8 months ago, and we got back together) During that time, he wouldn’t talk to me.. it was very painful. I know in my heart I will marry this man… I know he loves me, and I love him.. but I can’t get over this fear and this trust issue. Anyone every gone through something similar? He wants to get engaged ASAP.. and I’m still kindof beat up from the past break up months and months ago! What to do?
By the way- I’m a girl!
My username is "Mike" that’s my brother!
Dang! I am in the same boat but a little different see we were together for four years and are still trying to work things out! But that trust issue is there and though he talks about getting married and having kids with me it doesn’t change what happened in the past. The first four months that we broke up we were still dating but when we did get back together it got worse and now we are friends but dating again and seeing if we can be together. See the love is there and all but no trust and that is a big thing. Soo….. I can tell that you are still beating yourself up about it and you have to think about it, can you trust him because if you keep thinking about him breaking it up then you will never be happy and this may take time it is not an easy step I, myself am still learning about this and I am serious now that if it doesn’t work out now then why will it work out if we marry, or if it did not work in those four years why would it work out in another four? You just have to think about what also makes YOU happy and that, that trust issue you have can turn into something very ugly if you ignore it. Trust me, I know.
Good Luck!
XOXO
ok,so hello mike’s sister:)),
i think the break up would build the relation stronger if you have both worked out the reasons why broke in the first place .and remember that what have brought you back is far greater than any fear to come.
good luck
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Dang! I am in the same boat but a little different see we were together for four years and are still trying to work things out! But that trust issue is there and though he talks about getting married and having kids with me it doesn’t change what happened in the past. The first four months that we broke up we were still dating but when we did get back together it got worse and now we are friends but dating again and seeing if we can be together. See the love is there and all but no trust and that is a big thing. Soo….. I can tell that you are still beating yourself up about it and you have to think about it, can you trust him because if you keep thinking about him breaking it up then you will never be happy and this may take time it is not an easy step I, myself am still learning about this and I am serious now that if it doesn’t work out now then why will it work out if we marry, or if it did not work in those four years why would it work out in another four? You just have to think about what also makes YOU happy and that, that trust issue you have can turn into something very ugly if you ignore it. Trust me, I know.
Good Luck!
XOXO
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