What are the healing guidelines to survive a break up?
Welcome to the Lonely Hearts’ Club. Here are my guidelines to heal and mend a broken heart, read on:
1) Allow yourself to go through the complete grieving process.
2) Communicate your feelings to friends or other members of the family. never hold back your feelings, thinking that you have to be in control. If it is difficult to speak with people you know, perhaps a therapist or support group would be the best outlet to express your inner feelings and thoughts.
3) Take one day at a time. Do not feel you must accomplish everything at once.
4) Be patient and gentle with yourself. Your grief will be sporadic. Some days you will feel okay; other days you will sit and stare into space, feeling numb and alone.
5) It is normal to burst out occasionally in fits of anger. Let it out, but don’t harm yourself or anyone else.
6) As time goes by, make some effort to keep in touch socially. Don’t isolate yourself. Get out to a movie or a dinner with friends.
7) You may want to get a pet from the local shelter. pets are perfect company and will comfort you with unconditional love.
Don’t jump into other relationships prematurely. This may be your way of masking your pain and sorrow. Give yourself space. When you are ready, you’ll know.
9) See this experience as an opportunity to open yourself to your spiritual life.
10) Leave the door open to love again.
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Don’t be "just friends". Don’t be friends with someone who dumps you. It’s just stupid. Don’t call. Don’t take his calls. He gave up the right to finding out if you are okay, alive, or dead when he looked in to your pretty eyes and dumped you. Move forward. Take him off your Myspace account. Look for people who want to be true to you.
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trash all stuff that reminds you of him! keeping yourself busy and blocking his emails or dont accept his calls.
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1. Take time to grieve. Don’t wallow in your own self-pity, but take a day or two to cry if you need to.
2. Start booking up your social calendar. Is there a friend or family member you’ve lost touch with? Go meet up with them for coffee or a movie, just to catch up. Nothing is more therapeutic than having a good time with friends.
3. Don’t overthink it. You can drive yourself mad wondering what you did wrong or could have done better or what the other person should have done. Obviously one or both of you were not compatible. Don’t spend too much time whining to your friends, because you’re going to need them to cheer you up! (And nothing is more annoying than someone who whines about how lonely they are….everybody is lonely sometimes, you’re no different)
4. Indulge in some retail therapy, doing something nice for yourself. Did you like getting flowers from your guy? Buy a bouquet for yourself? Pamper yourself and take care of yourself. Eat well and keep yourself up. Looking nice (or better than you did when you were with them) is the best revenge!
5. Don’t jump into another relationship until YOU are ready. Don’t oblige yourself to going out on countless meaningless dates, engaging in casual sex or finding love on the internet. Just enjoy being with yourself! (It’s much more attractive to someone else later down the road)
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