I’m depressed right now from a break up….What should I do!?
I broke up with my boyfriend who I was with for a year and a half. I still really love him but I just don’t see myself with him anymore. Even though, I’m the one who broke up with him, I’m still depressed. I went to bed past 4 am and woke up now at 11. (not enough sleep for me) I have class at 1, 2 and 4 but I don’t want to go. I just want to stay home, order pizza and watch movies. What should I do? We’ve already been broken up for a week or two. We still talk. Last night, I called him but he wouldn’t answer the phone because he was watching a movie. Then after I went to sleep, he called me back 23 times….WTF?
Hello, I think that you may be afraid of your new found freedom. The fact that you broke up with him says that you were no longer happy in this situation. When we are in a long term relationship we tend to get accustomed to the other persons presence.When they are no longer there we become lonely.Depression usually kicks in after a break-up because we may have become afraid to be alone this usually only lasts temporarily. You have to first learn how to date youself again, Pamper yourself,remind yourself how beautiful and special you are,and how your happiness should be your top priority. You have to start to heal your heart so that you can be prepared mentally for that wonderful man that will come eventually. You don’t want to carry all the baggage from your previous situation into something that may be wonderful. The fact that the two of you still call one another may just mean that you two miss one another. It does’nt neccessarily mean that it is still love.If you truly want this to be over then maybe you should limit the phone calls to an occasional call once in a while.Remember that a man is a nice thing to have but it is not a neccesity in order to live a good life. You are obviously intelligent because you are in school don’t jeopardize your education for someone who may not be worth it. I read some where we have to ask ourselves"would I want to be with someone like me?" If the answer is no then you have some healing to do. Every break-up hurts in the beginning but time heals all wounds.Be strong and remind yourself that you want a good,stable relationship that will bring a smile to your face everyday. Love should’nt hurt. I know you will get out of that bed and go on with your wonderful life. I wish you all the luck. I know that you will make it… GET READY TO START SMILING AGAIN.
don’t give in….continue with life. Go to class, enjoy the lecture….live your life!
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Haha scary. The best way to recover is to not talk to him and go meet new people.
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find someone else and give ‘em a hummer
preferrably someone like his best friend
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when i broke up with my guy..i felt the same way..you should just go to class, meet yur friends and just have anight out without him…prove to yurself tht u can have fun without a guy by yur side..who knows? u might even find a new guy on yur night out =)
feel better
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If you’re broken up, why are you still talking? If your boss fired you, would you call him every day to pass the time? NO! You go find another job, and it’s time for you to let go of this boy who fired you and find a new life for yourself. You are never, ever going to feel better until you tell him never to call you again and move forward. Let go! Rip that bandaid off!
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well there is no such thing as i love him but i dont see myself with him. u love him ur with him u dont ur not. and if u are so depressed and feeling so guilty why did you break up with him in the first place.
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I Think You Should PLEASURE YOURSELF
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We all go thur it. Time heals and you have to stay as active as possible. Go to class. Sitting at home is the worse thing you can do. My mind would wonder and I’d go crazy thinking. Most woman rebound the next day. Why not try that?
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eat ice cream, get fat and no1 will love u again.
why break his heart for no reason? just coz u didnt try to hang on to the relationship. ur lonely now and wont have some1 being with u for another year. so if i were u, talk to him and see how he feels and if its good then go back with each other.
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stay home watch the movies but dont do it forever yu need the time to grieve and than move on are you sure that your really still friends or is he just keeping in contact for the booty calls no offense but men suck they know exactly what they are doing feel better
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sometimes if you cant get someone out of your head then maybe it means there suppose to be there. you gotta figure out is it better to just move on or are you going to be more miserable without him in your life?
its all on you its your life good luck
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Try not to contact him anymore. You will never get over him as long as you keep talking to him. It will get better ove time and you’ll find someone else you’ll love even more. Cheer up!
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well i think if you really want to end the relationship you need to stop all contact,it will be alot easier to get over someone if they aren’t around,just give your self time you will get over him,it takes time you was with him for a yr and a half it could take you up to a few months to completely get over him, just try to have fun call up some of your girls and hang out, i don’t thing having a rebound guy really helps all you will end up with is some regrets, so just hang in there and you will get threw this
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Well I first want to say I’m sorry. It’s always a bummer and it sucks no matter how you slice it. I went through the same thing as you, and my rule of thumb is this. For every year you were with a guy, or girl, you need a month for yourself. So a year and half is a month and 2 weeks. When I broke up I didn’t even date for at least 5 months. It was not an issue with me getting a girl, it was me saying that I needed to take the time to focus on myself. and make myself better. This is really fresh and new to you, so it will hurt, but I suggest that you fill your free time with whatever you can. Take up reading, work out, start writing, take up a sport, volunteer your time, but whatever you do, don’t try to work it out with you ex. This is why, you knew that you didn’t want to be with that guy, and that’s ok, and you didn’t kid yourself, or drag it out, you did what you needed to do, and that’s awesome. The reason he is calling is because he wants to get back with you, and wants to work it out.
Don’t go there with him, it’s over, and you don’t owe him anything, and it will take some time, but he will realize you two were not right for one another. So again I am sorry, but good for you for knowing what you want. And if you need anything please e-mail me. I hope this helps.
-Ty
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It is normal to feel that way, first off, give yourself a pat on the back for making a decision based on your deep down feelings, it saved both you and him heartache in the long run. It’s so hard to move away from someone you were close to for a long time, I did the same thing, except he broke up with me(i was miserable with im, but for some reason still clinged on) it still hurts and its been almost a year, but then I remember how unhappy I was and that if it didnt happen then-it wouldve happened now or even worse a few years down the road. You should definitely cut off communicated for a good couple weeks to allow both you and him to heal. Clearly this was a very good decision because you recognized you wouldnt be happy in the long run, you don’t want your feelings of missing him to undo what you know is right. You guys can still love eachother and most likely will for a long time, but the most important part of a relationship is loving your LIFE together. If you dont love your life together then what is the point? Cutting off communication will prevent you from fighting or anything, keep things clean because you are both good people so theres no reason to hate eachother.
As far as skipping class and stuff, maybe do it for a day or two, then get your life back together and start learning to live on your own. See your friends, see your family, find new friends, do what ever you want. From now on your life will be a small rollercoaster, but it is only going up. You may feel like crap now, but I PROMISE, i sincerely promise you that millions of people have been in your shoes, it gets easier and easier until you see how smart you were for following both your heart and your mind instead of just your heart.
Get the book "Its called a break up because its broken"
http://www.randomhouse.com/broadway/breakup/
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OK get a grip. You cant let him ruin your life. Take some vit C , its good for depression, sit in sunlight, make new plans, clean up , dress up, smile, and go find someone to talk to. YOU made the decission for some good reason Im sure YOU will get better soon. Just stay on track. I dont why he called back so many times. But that would annoy me greatly. ITS going to be a adjustment for you both, dont let depression get you down, treat it and overcome and you will be improved ver soon. mamatx
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Hello, I think that you may be afraid of your new found freedom. The fact that you broke up with him says that you were no longer happy in this situation. When we are in a long term relationship we tend to get accustomed to the other persons presence.When they are no longer there we become lonely.Depression usually kicks in after a break-up because we may have become afraid to be alone this usually only lasts temporarily. You have to first learn how to date youself again, Pamper yourself,remind yourself how beautiful and special you are,and how your happiness should be your top priority. You have to start to heal your heart so that you can be prepared mentally for that wonderful man that will come eventually. You don’t want to carry all the baggage from your previous situation into something that may be wonderful. The fact that the two of you still call one another may just mean that you two miss one another. It does’nt neccessarily mean that it is still love.If you truly want this to be over then maybe you should limit the phone calls to an occasional call once in a while.Remember that a man is a nice thing to have but it is not a neccesity in order to live a good life. You are obviously intelligent because you are in school don’t jeopardize your education for someone who may not be worth it. I read some where we have to ask ourselves"would I want to be with someone like me?" If the answer is no then you have some healing to do. Every break-up hurts in the beginning but time heals all wounds.Be strong and remind yourself that you want a good,stable relationship that will bring a smile to your face everyday. Love should’nt hurt. I know you will get out of that bed and go on with your wonderful life. I wish you all the luck. I know that you will make it… GET READY TO START SMILING AGAIN.
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